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Jada Pinkett’s open Letter to a friend who’s getting a divorce

The ReadyWriter

Jada writes open letter

Actress Jada Pinkett-Smith penned an open letter to a friend who has decided to get a divorce. In her letter, which she posted on her Facebook page, Jada said couples who hope to grow old together must give each other space and time apart to miss each other.

Jada, who admits to having an open marriage with husband Will Smith, wrote that marriages “inevitably” experience “difficult moments” that call for a break. Jada said she spent time speaking to elders who have been married for 25+ years to get a perspective on what Love is. She said one of the couples spent several years apart before they realized their Love for one another.

But the key to a successful marriage is a lot more complex than just giving each other space. The real problem is that SOME women, who are raised to be “daddy’s little girl,” are obsessed with being married — something that men are not uniquely qualified for.

A letter to a dear friend:
You came to see me last night to tell me that you have decided to get a divorce. Last night I only listened, but this morning I woke up with a hope for you. For the past five years, I have been meeting with elders who have been married for 25+ years to get understanding from many perspectives as to what marriage and love is all about. Almost all the couples have said that at some point in their marriage they have stumbled upon inevitably difficult moments that called for a break. I spoke to one couple who had a few years apart only to re-discover their desire to grow old together and to do what was necessary to continue to deepen their love for one another. My hope for you is this, that you consider taking the route that some of our elders have taken in giving your marriage some space and time before the drastic decision of divorce. Answers to big questions need time to find lasting truth vs the truth of the moment. After this process the answer may be the same, but at least you will have the clarity to go about it all with certainty and integrity, but you may also find that spark that could save and rekindle your marriage.
My humble thoughts.
J

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“Defining a Sistah’s self-worth” ~ Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

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depression

When we’ve been hurt and disappointed, we automatically lock ourselves in a box for protection, shunning out those parts of our-lives that are susceptible to be hurt again. We swear off relationships and throw away any chance of true love and fidelity as a reality. We’ll allow one huge mistake, regret or experience to determine our destiny in life going forward.

But isn’t it sad to stop living and believing all because you give consent to your past to manipulate and define your future? 

I know many women who have settled for less, and simply “accepted” the cards dealt because deep down inside, they don’t believe they deserve more. I’m sure you know of someone who seems to have it all together in their life, but when it comes to relationships, they just can’t seem to shake the hurt they’ve been dealt in the past or seem to repeat over and over again.

Don’t you feel you deserve the best your purpose has to offer in every aspect of your life? And that includes love and the right relationships.

Join me tonight at 8:00 PM on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via “Conversations Live” as I discuss “Defining a Sistah’s self-worth“.

Access the show here and I’ll meet you on the air!!!

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Failed Try… Always Lie!!! …Dealing With Liars… Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

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We all know someone who lies…It’s either chronic, which is a compulsive liar, habitual, a person who is in the habit of lying or pathological; either way we know they’re liars. To dress their tales up, some call them unfulfilled promises. But a promise cannot be fulfilled or met, if there was never an intent to pursue the gesture. Which makes it exactly what it is when the opposite transpires, a LIE!

Whether our relationships are platonic or romantic, most people approach the topic of lying reluctantly. As it stands, our close relationships involve a lot of truth-telling as well as some dishonesty. 

When it comes to love and marriage, people expect a spouse or boyfriend to be completely honest. But, at the same time, everyone values their sense of freedom and privacy. So while romantic partners typically want to please each other, at other times, couples experience competing goals which can make telling the truth more difficult.

And what about those sistahs and girlfriends you know, who gossip in your face but talk sh*t about you behind your back. Women being untruthful, deceitful, insincere and two-faced.

Join me tonight at 8:00 PM on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via “Conversations Live“ as I tell you how to deal with a liar.

Sound off on this topic here, and email the show about the liar you know at… conversations@optonline.net

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To mask his pain, he plays the rebound Game? Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

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The rebound_relationship

Are you the rebound chick? His plan B? The plan that he intends to use if his first plan fails. This is the case when a man needs to mask his pain and hurt from a previous relationship. I find there are a lot of women willing to play this Russian roulette with a man because they refuse to see the forest for the trees.

A rebounding man has a lot of emotional issues not dealt with, such as; he doesn’t want to be alone, he doesn’t want to feel that crush from his failed relationship, so his true intent is to fill a void to mask how he really feels. The new relationship is meant to keep him from having to deal with his feelings about his recent breakup. Rebound relationships are never healthy; in fact they’re superficial because you’re only being used by the man to ride through his short period of delusion.

Men who have breakups and then immediately involve themselves with someone else seem to feel the need to prove to themselves they are worthy of love and affection. They may miss the comfort and affection of the regular relationship. But whatever the reason, it is a selfish reason, one that is based on serving the self-esteem and satisfying the feeling of personal worth.

I dare you to join me tonight at 8:00 P.M. on “Conversations Of A Sistah” on “Conversations Live” as I expound on this topic.

I’ve decided to dedicate this show to every single one of my sistahs on the rebound. Allow me to “school you” concerning the truth.

We welcome your topic related questions @ conversations@optonline.net.

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Single this Valentine’s Day? Don’t Buy into the hype!!!

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Happy-Valentines-Day

Happy Valentine’s day “CEO readers” and “Conversations Of A Sistah” listeners,

Today is Valentines Day and I’ve been flooded with the “I’m single this Valentine’s Day” email messages all day long.

People please Stop the madness!!!!

If you’re single this Valentine’s day celebrate you, ladies get a pedi or a manicure and have dinner with your girlfriends. Love yourself, focus on self and concentrate on self. Fellas you do the same, while loving your mothers and honoring your sisters, even if it means giving out single roses or a kind smile. Ladies and Gentlemen, prepare yourselves for when that “special someone” does come along.

Remember: happiness is not based on being with someone else, nor does having someone define who you are.