“Why are Single Women Pursuing Men?” Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”


What is up with single women pursuing men? Even magazine ads are starting to suggest or even encourage women that this is the way to go. Are women that hard up? My God I hope not!!

If you have to pursue a man chances are, he’s not interested and is just along for the ride.

Women who chase men believe therein lies their happiness. And the man they’re chasing can provide that happiness but believing such bullshit is not only shallow but an empty assessment of ones selfworth.

Join me live at 6:30 p.m. on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via blog talk radio for tonights commentary, “Why are single women chasing men?” It’s the man’s responsibility to pursue you and I’ll tell you why? So tune in.

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Hope to meet you on the air.

Why the black man is a disappointment.


I receive fan mail all the time, emails, IG and Facebook comments about show ideas or my listeners and readers wanting certain topics of conversation, but this particular letter we received this morning, the sender asked me to share and publish, so here it is..

Dear Ms. Bell,

I would just like to tell you why I chose to date outside of my race. The main reason is because the black men I’ve encountered have disappointed me. Yes that’s right, the black man is a disappointment. And I cannot depend on a black man. They promise and don’t come through, they talk but put no muscle or action behind their words. Half of them want you to run after them or take care of them. Some are lazy with no ambition. The man I’m with is my white prince. I can count on him, depend on him and he keeps his word, never before have I experienced what I’m experiencing now with my white king. He’s ambitious and see a future with me, never leaving me wondering and/or guessing where I stand in his life. He erases my doubt and secure all of my fears. So yes I’m a black woman in love with and will marry a white man, why? Because once again a black man never stepped up to the plate, he allowed someone else to take and appreciate his queen.

I Thank you for sharing but like Tika Sumpter, Serena Williams and countless others, trust that I understand.

Have a wonderful day and I look forward to your show!

Loyal follower/reader

Wow!!! – I’ve already addressed her, feel free to do the same.

Is True Love Real? Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”


Hey Conversationers, this conversation is continuing due to last weeks “no show“.

The question still remains, “Is True Love Real?” Are you living it? Do you believe it’s possible? Are you striving to attain it?

Some people do experience clearly magical connections very early on in a relationship that predict long-term commitment and devotion. The intense drive of sexual attraction is part of every new relationship but there are additional feelings when true, long-lasting love is a possibility.

The sense of being alive is felt simultaneously and in every cell in the body. The heart feels as if it is opening, the mind is engaged, the senses are awakened, and a feeling of transcendence often emerges. Many new couples start out believing they are having some of these experiences, only to find out that they somehow didn’t keep happening. Those are understandable disappointments.

But every partnership has a better chance when the people within them feel early on that their connection is real and won’t go away. True love doesn’t give in to the typical challenges that end most relationships. It actually grows stronger when it is threatened.

Join me tonight at 6:30 p.m. EST on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via blog talk radio, for my commentary, “Is True Love a Reality?”

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Actress Tika Sumpters Fiancé Revealed


Actress Tika Sumpter‘s baby daddy, actor Nick James, wished her a happy 37th birthday on Instagram.com today, Tuesday, June 20. James is the father of Tika’s infant daughter Ella and actor on Tyler Perry’s The Haves and Have Nots.

James wrote:
Happy Birthday to my best friend, my soul mate, my partner in crime, the person who always dresses like me by accident, my fiancé…soon to be wife, my life partner, my lover “.

Tika kept James’ identity a secret until after their daughter was born. The couple met on the set of Tyler Perry‘s The Haves and Have Nots (which premiers tonight on OWN).

In her photo caption on Father’s Day, Tika thanked her daddy for “sending me a good one.” The actress has a history of failed relationships with men but James changed the game 🙂

Professor who donates sperm in city bathrooms has sired 22 kids


On a busy night last week at the Target on Atlantic Avenue in Brooklyn, Ari Nagel, 40, emerged from the men’s bathroom looking a little flushed and quite pleased with himself.

It’s better when it’s fresh,” he told them.

“It” is Nagel’s semen, and it’s in demand. The 6-foot-2 CUNY Kingsborough math professor has served as a sperm donor for dozens of locals, siring 22 kids over the past 12 years with 18 women of various backgrounds.

For lesbian couples and single ladies looking to have a baby without the expense of going through a sperm bank (which can run in the thousands of dollars), he’s the No. 1 dad.

This isn’t time-consuming, and I’m doing it anyway,” he says of his hands-on hobby. “It’s very easy for me to do.”

His oldest child, now 12, was conceived with a woman he was in a committed relationship with, but all of his offspring since, he says, have resulted from his donations.

About half the time, he provides his seed the old-fashioned way. Sometimes, a lesbian looking to conceive will have her partner in the bed for moral support while she and Nagel engage in intercourse.

She’s never slept with a guy before, so the partner’s in bed, holding her hand,” Nagel explains. “Sometimes, it could be a little painful, then after a few times, they’re comfortable to do it on their own.”

Other times, he supplies his goods in a cup, which he prefers.

He often uses public bathrooms, like those at Target and at Starbucks shops, to procure his samples and hand them off to ovulating women.

You don’t want to do it in one where people are knocking,” he notes.

He will also offer his services in his home near Downtown Brooklyn, but mama wannabes are often more comfortable meeting in public.

Once a location is chosen, Nagel will go into the bathroom, pleasure himself while watching porn on his iPhone — “You can’t connect to Target Wi-Fi if you’re connecting to a porn site, so I use my cell service,” he says — and ejaculate into an Instead Soft cup, a type of menstrual cup“.

He then delivers the specimen to the woman, who goes into the ladies’ restroom and inserts it into her cervix.

The prolific professor is often successful, which he attributes to a high sperm count: 85 million per milliliter.

It’s off the charts,” he boasts. “The clinic said they’ve never seen anything like it.”
(The Mayo Clinic says normal sperm density ranges from 15 million to greater than 200 million sperm per milliliter.)

Nagel made his first foray into professional baby-making eight years ago with a friend — a single, straight Jewish woman in her late 30s and living on the Upper West Side.

Women who have used Nagel’s services — which he provides for free — say his good looks, personality and high sperm count are a draw.

He’s a lot of fun to be around, he loves people, he’s outgoing, and he’s gorgeous,” says Tiffany Harrison, 41, of New Jersey, who with her wife, Yvonne, has a toddler daughter, Zoe, sired by Nagel.

As for his own motivations, the big daddy insists he just likes spreading his seed.