Have you accepted arguing as being part of a relationship? Because some people DON’T.
I always hate to prescribe definitive answers to emotional or subjective subjects. However, I’ve been in relationships where we’ve never argued at all and I’ve been in relationships where we’ve argued all the time and neither relationship was relatively better than the other. Sometimes the relationships where you never ague might have benefited from just putting facts on the table, even if they make you uncomfortable.
So the question is, can you genuinely remove arguing from a relationship or do you believe arguing is a natural part of a healthy relationship? What happens if you find arguing detrimental but your partner finds it natural? What’s the difference between an argument and a debate?
What is up with single women pursuing men? Even magazine ads are starting to suggest or even encourage women that this is the way to go. Are women that hard up? My God I hope not!!
If you have to pursue a man chances are, he’s not interested and is just along for the ride.
Women who chase men believe therein lies their happiness. And the man they’re chasing can provide that happiness but believing such bullshit is not only shallow but an empty assessment of ones selfworth.
First of all, what is true love? True love is the true definition of a perfect romance. But it’s not easy to find or maybe even be realistic. Some people do experience clearly magical connections very early on in a relationship that predict long-term commitment and devotion. The intense drive of sexual attraction is part of every new relationship but there are additional feelings when true, long-lasting love is a possibility. The sense of being alive is felt simultaneously and in every cell of the body. The heart feels as if it is opening, the mind is completely engaged, the senses are awakened, and a feeling of transcendence often emerges.
Many new couples start out believing they are having some of these experiences, only to find out that they somehow didn’t keep happening, or that their connection lost its spark. Those are understandable disappointments. But every partnership has a better chance of surviving when the people within them feel early on that the relationship is real and won’t go away. True love doesn’t give in to the typical challenges that end most relationships. It grows stronger when it is threatened.
You know the ones, they jump from one relationship to the next without fully healing from the unhealthy relationship they were just in? And “boom” two days or two weeks after a break-up, they’re in a whole new relationship.
Those are “Relationship Jumpers“… People who don’t give themselves time to heal emotionally, physically and psychologically. They want instant move-ons, minus the real time it takes to heal from a broken or ended relationship.
Join me tonight at 6:30 p.m. EST on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via blog talk radio for my commentary on this subject. Hope to meet you on the air!!!