Category: Relationships

Dwayne Wade, Gabrielle Union, Relationships

Gabrielle Union talking “mad shit” in December issue of Essence Magazine

The ReadyWriter

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It is always best to remain humble and silent in any given high-profile relationship, especially when that relationship is very public and a tad-bit scandalous. For some reason Gabrielle Union hasn’t gotten that memo yet.

In the December issue of Essence magazine the Mary Jane actress states in a cryptic statement:

“There’s this intense desire for us all to be chosen by a man, or a job, or chosen for fame, whatever. But when you’re in the public eye and you’re not chosen, the rejection feels public. So to cover the wound, you attack the person who is chosen.” –

But what good is it to be chosen by a man who’s ultimately choosing other women behind your back? Is Gabrielle Union delusional or blindingly refusing to accept the truth for what it is? Either way, she’s sounding a bit cocky in her relationship with Miami Heat baller, Dwayne Wade, who recently gifted her with an NBA championship ring for her birthday.

As for her character Mary Jane, she states: “It would be easy to label Mary Jane a freak…but enjoying sex doesn’t make you a ho,” 

No …but having sex with a smorgasbord of multiple men does!

To read more about Gabby’s interview, pick up the December issue of Essence magazine on stands now.

Conversations Of A Sistah, Long Distance Relationships, Love, Love & Relationships, Relationships

‘Long Distance Relationships…do they work?’ Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

The ReadyWriter

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I’ve heard all of the success stories of long-distance relationships and they’ve all made me wonder if they are actually realistic? Meaning can two people sincerely maintain a monogamous relationship in any long-distance situation and keep it faithful?

Thinking about the physical aspect of being apart from each other, what temptations will arise as the two individuals live with the relationship being apart? Does love long distance depend on the two individuals involved? 

And what type of cynical thoughts does one in love, long distance have in the meantime?

  1. What is that person doing with his/her spare time when you’re apart?
  2. Is he/she cheating?
  3. Is there someone local that their involved with but they keep that long distance relationship because they’re getting from the long-distance relationship what they can’t get locally.
  4. If there is no sex in the relationship, does it make the temptation even greater? Or is sex even an expectation?
  5. Is there actually someone else in the background?
  6. Is he/she cheating?
  7. Is he/she cheating?
  8. Because I’m out of sight, am I also out of mind?
  9. Is the bond between us strong enough to sustain the separation?
  10. Where is the trust and will it strengthen your convictions in the relationship?

Join me tonight at 8:00 PM on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via “Conversations Live” for this topic, ‘Long Distance Relationships…and do they work?’

If yours has or hasn’t worked out and you’d like to share your story, email the show @conversations@optonline.net or call me tonight on the air at 1-347 426-3645 and remember to choose “option 1” to speak with me, the host.

In the meantime sound off here and access the show at any of the Conversations Links in this post.

Fan mail, Relationships, Sex

Is Fantasizing About Someone Else During Sex Considered Cheating?

The ReadyWriter

Of course it is!!

For some men, it’s hard to even imagine that you could possibly be thinking of someone else while he’s having sex with you…but it happens, more often than you think.

So when this happens why feel guilty about it? Because it’s considered cheating that’s why. When you are making love to your partner, you are suppose to be mentally, emotionally and physically vested; heart, mind, body and soul. The fantasy should only be for the person with whom the loving making occurs, with enhanced passion.

It’s okay for your mind to wander into the fantasy realm from time to time, but what does this say about your relationship? If you’re still pining after your ex and thinking of him/her while you’re having sex, then maybe there’s a problem. And it’s really a sign of trouble if there are some other disconnect happening beforehand, where the thought of you being with your partner physically; is emotionally or mentally agonizing, stressful and an act of pretend.

I hope I was able to answer this question based upon an email received over the weekend.

CEO's Blog, Conversations Of A Sistah, Interracial Relationships, Relationships, Tracy L. Bell

Why do “SOME” Black Men prefer White Women? Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

The ReadyWriter

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This is an age-old subject that’s pretty sensitive for some women, but do black men really prefer white women? Women of other ethnicity groups instead of their own?

It seems as though black men are especially interested in white women once they become successful, than date and marry these women outside of their race. And don’t get me wrong when two people are in love, their skin color shouldn’t matter however, why are these successful black men not hooking up with their own?

Is this a self-hatred that black men have for their own kind so they date outside of their race? Is this a status symbol that black men wish to achieve due to his own low self-esteem? Or is this the enemy’s way to have black men systematically BRAINWASHED by a white supremacy system via media, TV, movies, educational system, etc., to believe white is superior, this being a trick in white america to divide and conquer the black race?

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I’ve heard all of the argumentative lies to support the theories as to why black men date outside of their race such as; black women have attitudes, they are too loud and too confrontational, while white women are more submissive, super subservient and more adventurous in bed.

Yet the black man don’t even realize that a lot of these white women are trying to look like US anyway by crowding tanning salons and paying thousands of dollars for ass and lip injections.

Join me tonight at 8:00 PM on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via “Conversations Live” as I tackle this topic. And yes I will be taking your phone calls on the air at 1-347-426-3645, don’t forget to press “1” to speak to the host.

In the meantime, let’s get the conversation started here! 

Aisha McShaw, Al Sharpton, Gossip, Old man ego, Relationships

Al Sharpton Ain’t worried Bout a thing!

The ReadyWriter

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Seems the The civil rights activist and MSNBC star, 58, is dating 35-year-old Aisha McShaw. The newly couple have been seen booed up at important political events and special occasions including the White House Correspondents Dinner in April and President Obama’s holiday party in December.

McShaw who’s dubbed herself a “personal stylist” looks young enough to be Sharpton’s daughter.

The decades-younger main squeeze of the good right rev., arrived in a form-fitting black and white dress with a sharp-suited Sharpton at the New York County Democratic Committee Award Ceremony on Monday night. When a Daily News reporter asked her to define her relationship with the civil rights powerhouse she said; “I’m his girlfriend” before Sharpton intervened and snatched her away from the reporter.

Al Sharpton, 58, is dating 35-year-old Aisha McShaw, a 'personal stylist' from Westchester.

Sharpton’s relationship with McShaw appears to be the most serious one he’s had since separating from his wife Kathy in 2004 after 24 years of marriage.

This relationship for McShaw, is clearly about three things: money, power and prestige because with Sharpton’s weight-loss who could stomach everything dropped, droopy and jiggling.