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‘Long Distance Relationships…do they work?’ Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

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October 23, 2013 by The ReadyWriter


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I’ve heard all of the success stories of long-distance relationships and they’ve all made me wonder if they are actually realistic? Meaning can two people sincerely maintain a monogamous relationship in any long-distance situation and keep it faithful?

Thinking about the physical aspect of being apart from each other, what temptations will arise as the two individuals live with the relationship being apart? Does love long distance depend on the two individuals involved? 

And what type of cynical thoughts does one in love, long distance have in the meantime?

  1. What is that person doing with his/her spare time when you’re apart?
  2. Is he/she cheating?
  3. Is there someone local that their involved with but they keep that long distance relationship because they’re getting from the long-distance relationship what they can’t get locally.
  4. If there is no sex in the relationship, does it make the temptation even greater? Or is sex even an expectation?
  5. Is there actually someone else in the background?
  6. Is he/she cheating?
  7. Is he/she cheating?
  8. Because I’m out of sight, am I also out of mind?
  9. Is the bond between us strong enough to sustain the separation?
  10. Where is the trust and will it strengthen your convictions in the relationship?

Join me tonight at 8:00 PM on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via “Conversations Live” for this topic, ‘Long Distance Relationships…and do they work?’

If yours has or hasn’t worked out and you’d like to share your story, email the show @conversations@optonline.net or call me tonight on the air at 1-347 426-3645 and remember to choose “option 1” to speak with me, the host.

In the meantime sound off here and access the show at any of the Conversations Links in this post.

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104 thoughts on “‘Long Distance Relationships…do they work?’ Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

  1. QTip says:

    Thank you Trace Babe… Smooches for always coming thru.

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  2. Miss Ang says:

    If it’s love long distance the relationship has to have a goal. I mean we gotta be serious and going somewhere.

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  3. Ashanti says:

    Ion know when I was at Montclair State and my man was at Florida A.&M we tried to stay 2gether but when he would call me and I would hear bishes snigglin and gigglin in the background cause they had co-ed dorms I couldn’t take that shit. 😦 so NO I ain’t wit the long distance thang.

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  4. Tamala says:

    I don’t think I would be able to it. sorry..no 😥

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  5. HarlemGirl says:

    Whoa ……………..Lawd have mercy you gotta have a whole lotta faith to be w/o the physical aspect of the relationship and when you do get 2gether tare shit up gettin that time in. but see me I gotta really trust to be into somebody long distance.

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  6. Danny says:

    There is nothing more painful than being into a relationship long distance only to find out she had somebody else all along. That shit is painful and deceitful as hell. I will never do it again.

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  7. Yvonne says:

    Yup cheating is always your biggest fear.

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  8. Browngirl says:

    If you gotta baby sit a knee-grow you don’t need em!
    And if there’s NO trust there is no relationship, long distance or just around the damn kona it doesn’t matter!

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  9. Acquitta says:

    I’m in a long distance relationship and wearing my heart on my sleeves with this topic. so 😥

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  10. AlScream says:

    I ain’t wit the long distance….oh hail no! I gots to have that physical connection on a regula and trust if we was long distance it wouldn’t last. just me.

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  11. UncleEd says:

    I can’t wait to hear your show Ms. Bell.
    When there’s love anything can survive and be worked through. You yearn for that person. My wife and I were long distance at first but i wanted her to move out to Texas where I was and she did. I relocated her and her job allowed her to work on a contract from our home in Texas. So it all worked out.

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  12. Angelhair says:

    Looks like erbody rolls outta bed when they get these alerts huh.
    On topic: from reading some of these comments a lot of people in here sound needy.
    I can live apart w/o anybody if necessary.

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    • Katman says:

      Wazup y’all

      I’m LMMFAO @ some of these comments.

      Tra I can’t wait for your show. I can’t imagine the kind of emails you get each week.

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      • Kayla says:

        Hey now.
        I listened to the show tonight but I can’t relate to long distance relationships. If I was in love with somebody who had to move away I guess I would have to let em go because I don’t wanna deal with loving somebody from afar. sorry 😦

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  13. Mahogany says:

    Morning

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  14. Anthony says:

    I would be too tempted to cheat if I was in a long distance relationship 😆 I gotta love my woman, touch my woman and feel on her curves. if I can’t have her in da flesh yeah I would be too tempted to roam.
    #dontjudgeme

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  15. CorporateBitch says:

    Not in a long distance relationship but will be tunin in. 😆

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  16. Civil says:

    Mm what a perplexed subject 😆

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  17. ldr13 says:

    I’m in a long distance relationship and none of the above questions even so much as cross my mind. I only have eyes for my boyfriend and we are crazy about each-other. I trust him and he trusts me. I don’t find it hard at all to stay faithful; he’s the only boy I want so there really is no temptation. Relationships, distance or otherwise depend on the two people in it. If someone is gonna cheat they will do it whether their partner lives nearby or far away. If they are not someone who would cheat they will not cheat either way. It’s quite simple.

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    • 2Thick4U says:

      Relationships, distance or otherwise depend on the two people in it.
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      You SPOT on I agree!

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      • RandomChick says:

        Relationships, distance or otherwise depend on the two people in it.
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        TRUE!! but if you’re tempted it can be difficult

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      • Coco says:

        Relationships, distance or otherwise depend on the two people in it. —> CoSign!

        If someone is gonna cheat they will do it whether their partner lives nearby or far away. If they are not someone who would cheat they will not cheat either way. It’s quite simple.——–> HELLO!

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  18. Starr says:

    I thank God long distance has never been an issue for me. If you can swing more power to you. But trust has to be at the center if it is.

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  19. BBallen says:

    I was textng with this girl from another state for about a year and when we finally met I was turned off. unless you have the relationship already established i say NO to the long distance thang. Hell naw!

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  20. 2Thick4U says:

    Like somebody just said uptop when you all into that person cheatin and wanting somebody else never crosses your mind.

    Will be tuned into tonights show.

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  21. Natasha says:

    1.What is that person doing with his/her spare time when you’re apart?
    2.Is he/she cheating?
    3.Is there someone local that their involved with but they keep that long distance relationship because they’re getting from the long-distance relationship what they can’t get locally.
    4.If there is no sex in the relationship, does it make the temptation even greater? Or is sex even an expectation?
    5.Is there actually someone else in the background?
    6.Is he/she cheating?
    7.Is he/she cheating?
    8.Because I’m out of sight, am I also out of mind?
    9.Is the bond between us strong enough to sustain the separation?
    10.Where is the trust and will it strengthen your convictions in the relationship?
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    Tracy you really wanted to get the convo going with this list. My man is long distance and I would never even THINK about cheating on him. It’s always about the two individuals involved. so let me email my .2 cents to the show now.

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  22. cameo1 says:

    Only DAWGS need to be tamed when a man loves a woman and she loves him nothing can separate that love and bond or come in between the two. and you won’t want to get with nobody else when there’s LOVE.

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  23. Zenna says:

    Mm I say the relationship (trust, love, etc) have to already be grounded b4 we be long distance. Nothing can come in between it when it’s real. so yeah um Tra your list sounds a helluva suspect 😆 but I know I’m going to love the show.

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  24. Shawnia says:

    “What is that person doing with his/her spare time when you’re apart?”

    I’m in a long distance relationship and the only time I think about what he’s doing is when I’m not with him doing it and because we’re always thinking about each other. I trust my fiancé and thank God he trust me. we use and spend our time wisely together.

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  25. RandomChick says:

    OMG long distance love takes a lot of patience. especially when you learning for that person. but if you can’t take the temptation you will end up cheating on ya man I’m sorry.

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  26. Mrs. Hawthorne says:

    yes successful long distance relationship can be successful it’s all about the people involved Ms. Bell…..have a good show I’ll be listening.

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  27. Coco says:

    I’m not stronger enough to be in a long distance relationship. 😆 when I love I love hard and wouldn’t want to love from a distance.

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  28. ManUp says:

    Nah all my women are in town or close to me one way or another 😆

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  29. Keisha says:

    Another good show topic however I for one wouldn’t even wanna entertain the possibility of my long distance relationship going south because of my man cheating. You must have a strong relationship and some SERIOUS TRUST in order for it to survive.

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  30. Katman says:

    I’m all for long distance relationships if we have a common goal in mind but if I’m just kickin it with a chick you can’t take that too serious.

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  31. Lisa says:

    I think there are lots of thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship.

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  32. HarlemGirl says:

    The long-distance relationship is, by definition, doomed. The only way a long-distance relationship can amount to anything is for it to become a short-distance relationship

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  33. SlickRick says:

    long distance relationship is like phoning the sex in. Oh hell NO!

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  34. Adam says:

    Good show!! 😆 that caller was str8 gangsta!!!

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    • Felicia says:

      that caller was str8 gangsta!!!
      ———
      He was funny as hail!!! 😆

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      • Browngirl says:

        that caller was str8 gangsta!!!
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        I DIED 😆 when dude said “He ain’t gon break his back for love!”

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      • SlickRick says:

        that caller was str8 gangsta!!!
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        Dat nigga said you get ‘tired’ of paying tolls 😆 I was like GOT DAYUM!!!

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      • Bobby says:

        that caller was str8 gangsta!!!
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        And he did not want Tracy to go there about LOVE 😆 that word was taboo.

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      • Princess says:

        that caller was str8 gangsta!!!
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        He was very entertaining IMO.

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      • Starr says:

        that caller was str8 gangsta!!!
        ———
        I swear I think that fool call into Tra’s show erweek. He love to air his dirty drama don’t he? 😆

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      • Daisy says:

        that caller was str8 gangsta!!!
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        He was hilarious! Homeboy told Tra your show ain’t about love it’s about long distance relationships 😆 I was like Oh shit!

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      • Civil says:

        Dude ain’t neva lied cause he damn sure named all dem bridges from Jersey to the Bronx

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  35. Browngirl says:

    Tracy you are trip!!!
    Good show though.

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  36. Nicole says:

    Good show the topic was a bit slow esp. since I ain’t seeing nobody long distance or close by 😆

    But Tra played a nice song at the end. By BeBe and CeCee Winans.

    I just want to be close to you

    Sunshine, moonlight, delight
    Just a couple words describing who you are
    Lovely, so lovely, want everyone to know
    Why I’m in love with you

    Patient and strong, always
    No matter what I face you’ve been there
    To bring me through, just right on time
    (Right on)
    It took a while to see that your love was true

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  37. Xmen says:

    Caller is a str8 playa! 😆 when Trace asked him about did he love the chick from the Bronx he was like “the show ain’t about love it’s about long distance relationships” when dat nigga went there I fell the FUCK OUT!

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  38. Gia says:

    Being in a relationship is a tough job in itself. On top of that if you are in a long distance relationship, life becomes even harder. Definitely distance makes the heart grow fonder. But distance in a relationship for a very long time can be really stressful. I agree with Tra if it’s long distance there has to be a common goal in mind like marriage or something.

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  39. Daisy says:

    Good show Tra but out of sight, is out of mind IMO……..shit happens!

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  40. Bird says:

    Tracy I enjoyed the show!!!
    But Nah I’m not so trusting that I’d be willing to even consider a long distance relationship. I know a woman who was married to a man and he carried on a long distance relationship with another woman for 10 years. When she found out he ended with the long distance person and decided to work on his wife’s forgiveness yet his wife was always checking his cell phone to see if he was still communicating with this other woman. See I couldn’t live like that NO thank you! I would a left his ass because of the emotional infidelity alone.

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  41. Henrietta says:

    good show.

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  42. soldierboy says:

    My girl ever leave me and it’s over. long distance my ass. Good show Trace!

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  43. Tamala says:

    Loved the show! 🙂

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  44. Val says:

    Thank you for tonight’s topic Tra my fiancé is deployed and we do everything possible to make our relationship work. We write, I send care packages, love letters, sex grams and the whole 9! 😆

    He comes home in 2 months and I can’t wait. we both can’t wait! 🙂

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  45. Olivijah says:

    Thank you Ms. Bell.
    You’re right every long distance relationship should have a common goal in mind. I have been in a long distance relationship for two years now and we are hoping to get married very soon 🙂 Pray for me.

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    • Tammy says:

      Good for you @Olivijah!!
      i am happy for you and i really pray that the two of you reach your goal very soon and get married 😆 You go girl!

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  46. Lilly says:

    Loved tonight’s topic (as usual) and although I’m not in a relationship long distance I appreciated the dialogue!

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  47. Civil says:

    Caller was like ‘FUCK LOVE’ dem bridges from Bloomfield to the Bronx was overkill 😆

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  48. QTip says:

    all I can say is make sure your relationships are already established b4 considering a pen pal long distance. Cause people lie for the thrill of it. they like the fantasy of having you believe what they feed you.

    it was a good show.

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  49. Rezzie says:

    Loved the show Tra

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