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“The Truth & The Myth About Praying For A Mate” Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

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November 20, 2013 by The ReadyWriter


Truth and myth

Sometimes I think women believe my book is a “How too” on walking down that aisle to the altar with the man of their dreams, when in all actuality most of my readers and followers already know, “Conversations Of A Sistah” is my autobiography based on a true story.

In recent events, conversations and correspondence I’ve received, a lot of women have posed the same question to me: What is the Truth And The Myth About Praying For A Mate? Some are curious to know, while others are not praying for anyone to begin with, they’re just rolling with the flow and allowing the events of their courtship’s to lead them. In my opinion that’s equivalent to living life wearing a blind fold.

aa-woman-prayingDon’t get me wrong, some individuals never pray to God period let alone for a mate and end up uniting with great partners, having successful marriages and fulfilling relationships. They allow their love and faith in each other to guide them. While those of us who are cautious, apprehensive or seeking surety based on bad past experiences turn to prayer in God for guidance.

This show is NOT another discussion about the book “Conversations Of A Sistah” but a break down and answers to the pressing question which seems to follow me What is the Truth And The Myth About Praying For A Mate?”

So tune in with expectation tonight, November 20th at 8:00 PM to “Conversations Of A Sistah” on “Conversations Live” as I answer such pressing questions regarding the sub title of my book.

You can access the show by clicking —-> HERE or any of the “Conversations links” in this post. 

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160 thoughts on ““The Truth & The Myth About Praying For A Mate” Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

  1. Browngirl says:

    Marriage is over rated Tra…..I’ll seek companionship b4 I marry a damn man. 😆

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  2. Bobby says:

    Morning all.

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  3. 2thick4you says:

    The subtitle discussion for the book is lost because everybody tend to be so caught up in the title….What is truth and Myth anyway?

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  4. cameo1 says:

    If it’s LOVE then it’s God no need to pray about that 😆

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    • Starr says:

      If it’s LOVE then it’s God no need to pray about that 😆
      ——–
      Yes but the PROBLEM comes when folk can’t determine LOVE from LUST!

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      • cameo1 says:

        If it’s LOVE then it’s God no need to pray about that 😆
        ——–
        Yes but the PROBLEM comes when folk can’t determine LOVE from LUST!
        ——–
        Starr, some people let the LUST lead them…you can have love without a lil lust 😆

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      • Nicole says:

        Cameo
        LUST -> Any intense desire or craving for gratification; when contrasted with love, lust usually means sexual desire. Physical chemistry over a short period of time.

        Vs.

        Love -> A decision to commit oneself to another and to work through conflicts instead of giving up. Physical chemistry over a fairly long period of time.

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      • CeoDawg says:

        FYI: Lust IS NOT of God! It’s of Man!

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      • Starr says:

        FYI: Lust IS NOT of God! It’s of Man!
        ———–
        THANK YOU!

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      • Rezzie says:

        My dear loving brothers and sisters i just have to tell you this. Love is God. Lust is satan. Most hanging element in a human body is the feelings that people do have. Satan is very cunning to take into his hands the feelings of yours. Be careful my dear friends, because this world is full of lust. There are trillions of sex sights to attempting the human being to watch porn and to examine those. Love your life as it has been given by your holy father (or who the leader of the relevant religion you are believing).

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      • Val says:

        love is a choice not a feeling.feelings are unreliable, they come and goes.you choose to love a person even when you see the bad side of him/her.

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      • Keisha says:

        My 2 cents.
        Love is unconditional, you give it without worry or regret, true love is pure love and no one or anything can change that , whether you win or lose , it is better to have loved than never loved at all.

        But we should know the truth and myth from both.

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      • Bobby says:

        So LUST is always wanting to have sex?

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      • Olivijah says:

        Well IMO there is no such thing as true love.. its just love.. either there is “love” or there isn’t… what else is false love the myth? that’s called lust or just cheating…

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      • Mahogany says:

        Came out of lurking to say::: lust is what you have and know, love comes from the heart not the groin or koochie 😆

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      • HarlemGirl says:

        Some may think it’s Love, when in reality it’s simply Lust..makes ya think!
        That’s why it’s BEST to be prayerful.

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      • Coco says:

        Ok….I have been reading the comments and decided to tell y’all what I’m going through with my boyfriend of 2 years.

        I told him that I love him and his response was that he only LUST for me for his own sexual pleasure, you couldn’t imagine how much that hurt me when he said that to me. I had given him my heart and went out of my way to help him and his son who has been in and out of trouble since we met.

        I read Tracy’s book and didn’t apply it to my issue because I guess I’ve been in denial to an extent, I also thought Tracy’s story didn’t apply to me. But now I see how a man can hurt you if it’s not of God but I love him Now what do I do?? I can’t stop thinking about him, he is not open with me about his feelings at all. I am very confussed. I have never had a man do this to me before and it hurts like HELL!

        #Don’tjudgeme

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      • Adam says:

        Coco,
        You won’t get nothing more outta him except the SEX! He won’t even open up to you which means there is NO LOVE. Let em go! You’ll suffer more if you stay with him.

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      • Starr says:

        Coco if you didn’t go to God b4 you fell in love with that knee grow don’t take it to God now?

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      • Yvonne says:

        LOVE IS ABOUT CARING ABOUT EACH OTHER WHILE LUST IS CRAVING FOR SEX. IF YOU READ TRACY’S BOOK YOU MIGHT FIND THE DIFFERENCE 😆

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      • Pamela says:

        Just for the record @Coco, lust is never really worth it in the end.

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      • Pointmen says:

        Yes but the PROBLEM comes when folk can’t determine LOVE from LUST!
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        I don’t know how we got Truth and Myth vs. Love and Lust but LUST is a false dichotomy — most loving relationships have intense periods of lust near the beginning. Impugning lust in defense of some kind of “pure love” is absurd — with a sharing desire for each other, people grow closer, which is the foundation of love and That’s the Truth!.

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      • RandomChick says:

        Yes but the PROBLEM comes when folk can’t determine LOVE from LUST!
        ———–
        Well you won’t know if the basis of your relationship is just all about the physical.

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      • Xmen says:

        FYI: Lust IS NOT of God! It’s of Man!
        ———–
        Shiiid The Lust make the sex Mo betta

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  5. Starr says:

    Ya got some women out here fucking first then praying later. Then when God sends the truth opposite to what yo flesh is telling you you IGNORE Him. Then suffer the consequences later.

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  6. BBallen says:

    Not everybody believe in prayer. As a guiding force

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  7. Angelhair says:

    Praying for a man? C’mon now. I meet men erday without even considering involving God. If there really is one!

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    • Omar says:

      I meet men erday without even considering involving God.
      ———
      And how is that working out for you? Cause I know a lot of women confused because they’ve collected so many d!cks!!!

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      • Yvonne says:

        I meet men erday without even considering involving God.
        ———
        And how is that working out for you? Cause I know a lot of women confused because they’ve collected so many d!cks!!!
        *************
        😆 wow 😆

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      • ManUp says:

        I meet men erday without even considering involving God.
        ——
        SOMETIMES THE MEETING ALONE IS DIVINE.

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      • Angelhair says:

        I meet men erday without even considering involving God.
        ———
        And how is that working out for you? Cause I know a lot of women confused because they’ve collected so many d!cks!!!
        ~~~~~~~
        I don’t collect dicks neither am I confused. I just don’t pray when it comes down to matters of the heart.

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      • Zenna says:

        I meet men erday without even considering involving God.
        ———
        WoW! And that’s not scary to you? Sounds scary to me. I wouldn’t want to make any major moves without involving MY God!.

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  8. Nicole says:

    I think people lean more toward the MYTH than the truth when falling in love. Sad 😥 but true.

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  9. Mrs. Hawthorne says:

    People get caught up into marrying for different reasons (i.e., age, pressure, status, etc.) then stay in the marriage whether they’re in love or not. That’s a miserable situation. then when the situation is temp. ego’s are broken and so are souls.

    Pray and get YOURSELF out the way. You can never go wrong when God Leads.
    Good show topic Tracy and I will be listening as usual.

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  10. CeoDawg says:

    Marriage is a state of ONE-NESS. when you pray and trust God He only enhances the experience>

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  11. Felicia says:

    I love, love, love the book. and the subtitle breakdown is toward the end of the book, so for those asking the question “what is the truth and the myth about praying for a mate” they need to get the damn book!

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    • Tamala says:

      they need to get the damn book!
      ———-
      CoSign I just said the exact same thing.

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      • Bird says:

        they need to get the damn book!
        ———-
        Agreed! Because the answer to that question is clearly there!

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      • Coco says:

        they need to get the damn book!
        ———-
        Just like people don’t live by the Bible, people won’t live by Tra’s book. same thing.

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      • Anthony says:

        they need to get the damn book!
        ———-
        Just like people don’t live by the Bible, people won’t live by Tra’s book. same thing.
        —-
        Tra’s book ain’t the damn Bible but when you can take anything POSITIVE from a reading and LEARN from it, some shit can be avoided. Ain’t that the point of someone sharing their story?

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      • Zenna says:

        Just like people don’t live by the Bible, people won’t live by Tra’s book. same thing.
        —-
        It’s not about living by her book but taking away something from it. Dayum! anything I read I read with comprehension and knowledge to learn something.

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  12. Tamala says:

    “This show is NOT another discussion about the book “Conversations Of A Sistah” but a break down and answers to the pressing question which seems to follow me “What is the Truth And The Myth About Praying For A Mate?”

    That question is answered and UNDERSTOOD in the book!!!! Get the book for those asking!!!

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  13. CorporateBitch says:

    I think praying for somebody you gotta be real deep to go there. most women don’t know how to do that let alone that they should.

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  14. Kayla says:

    if praying is essential part of one’s life then these things will come naturally.
    Can’t wait to hear the show tonight. There is a truth to everything.

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  15. Gia says:

    Love is unconditional and the real deal…why not pray for that?

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  16. Rezzie says:

    The subtitle IMO is more powerful than the title of the book itself!
    That’s why you never judge a book by its cover, you gotta always check it out!

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  17. Adriane says:

    It’s a Should read … for everyone

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  18. Val says:

    Love is Truth Lust is the Myth! 😆

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  19. Olivijah says:

    I’m a little confused and I read the book. Tracy questioned how she felt about the last dude she was messing with. so because she was praying that kept out the lust? so many questions now.

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    • Sane says:

      Olivijah,
      Last dude Trace was messin with in that book she suspected was GAY! 😆

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      • Yvonne says:

        so because she was praying that kept out the lust?
        —–
        ALMOST EVERY MAN SHE MET WANTED TO FUCK HER. SO THE POINT IS IF YOU’RE PRAYERFUL YOU CAN DISTINGUISH WHAT’S REAL VS. WHAT’S FAKE. READ THE BOOK AGAIN PLEASE AND THANK YOU!!!

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      • Pointmen says:

        so because she was praying that kept out the lust?
        —–
        It has to be something about the person that attract you to them but don’t necessarily have to be LUST at 1st sight.

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      • Floridagirl says:

        so because she was praying that kept out the lust?
        —–
        Lust is the Myth

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      • ManUp says:

        Lust is the Myth
        —————-
        LUST IS FA REAL. WHEN YOU LUSTING AFTER SOMEBODY HELL YEAH IT’S REAL THAT YOU WANNA BONE EM….YOU WON’T REST UNTIL YOU REACH THAT HIGH POINT OF PASSION IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN.

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      • Civil says:

        Lust is the Myth
        —————-
        LUST IS FA REAL. WHEN YOU LUSTING AFTER SOMEBODY HELL YEAH IT’S REAL THAT YOU WANNA BONE EM….YOU WON’T REST UNTIL YOU REACH THAT HIGH POINT OF PASSION IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN.
        ——-
        Yes but lust and love are in no way related. like truth and myth are the opposite as well.

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      • Ashanti says:

        I don’t recall Tra talking about lust or comparing it to her story. I will say I think she loved the church dude at 1st but when reality set in about him and she started hating him she was def. turned off!

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  20. Lisa says:

    This is goin to be a helluva show 🙂

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  21. Adam says:

    Prayer keep the devil and his tricks away. I always seek the women who appeal to my mind spiritually and not what my Johnson tell me. God is spirit people not flesh.

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  22. Anthony says:

    Everybody ain’t on the same level (spiritually esp.) but when someone’s level is a little more elevated than mine you be be damn sure I wanna hear what they gotta say.

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  23. Yvonne says:

    I HAVE A MAN AND LOVE HIM TO DEATH. I’M GONNA MAKE SURE WE BOTH LISTEN TO TONIGHT’S SHOW. 🙂

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  24. Lilly says:

    Don’t get me wrong, some individuals never pray to God period let alone for a mate and end up uniting with great partners, having successful marriages and fulfilling relationships. They allow their love and faith in each other to guide them.

    This is very true. I know a lot of people who have chosen their husbands and wives based on their love for each other and circumstances. Not everybody have spiritual backgrounds and upbringings and their marriages have turned out just fine.

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  25. Pointmen says:

    Marriage is scary enough because it’s a lifetime commitment. Why not involve God, after all He is supposed to be The author and finisher of our faith right?

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  26. Daisy says:

    This show is NOT another discussion about the book “Conversations Of A Sistah” but a break down and answers to the pressing question which seems to follow me “What is the Truth And The Myth About Praying For A Mate?”

    Sad because only those who have NOT READ THE BOOK would ask the question. I’ve read the book again and again but tuning in anyways to hear you SPEAK ON IT Ms. Bell

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  27. Ebony says:

    I believe in a Sovereign GOD with a perfect will and all knowing knowledge to know the best person for you to be with, with due respect to your free will…
    Thanks for the post Tray and thanks for doing this show topic….GOD bless

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  28. Ionna says:

    the part of tracy’s book that I think is crazy is that, the man she was supposed to marry never communicated with her. they never dated, had a conversation or anything. yet he expected her to just marry him on a whim. that part was just absurd. I would never marry a man because we were supposedly married in the spirit — gtfoh! dude really thought he was all that!

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  29. Henrietta says:

    I WISH TRACY WOULD OF MADE THIS ANOTHER BOOK GIVE AWAY!!! 🙂 I HAVE THE BOOK N MY GF’S ARE SWEATIN TO BORROW IT. NOT DOING IT.

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  30. Danny says:

    “While our cultural values continue to elevate marriage, our behavior drifts away from it. We’re a nation obsessed with marriage. The problem is that we may not know how to make marriage work” (Alex Kotlowitz).

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  31. Aceman says:

    Myth can destroy anything and everything.
    Can’t wait for tonight’s show!

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  32. Princess says:

    I’m ashamed to say I don’t have the book yet! So I’m def. tuning in for this show tonite.

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  33. Joanne says:

    Awesome
    Awesome
    Awesome to have a show about the subtitle of your book Ms. Bell. it’s one thing to read it but another altogether to hear you break it down. I’m so excited about it!!! 🙂

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  34. RandomChick says:

    “I’ve examined some of my experiences within the realm of the church and realized that if I ever needed a deliverance it would be from church folk” –>> 😆 I love that!

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  35. Miss Ang says:

    Never ever heard of the concept of praying for a husband until Tra’s book. Actually the title had me curious which is why I purchased it. Didn’t pay much attention to the subtitle until now but I’ll be tuned in tonight.

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  36. Alscream says:

    the only sistahs i know prayin for somebody is up these churches. those part-time church sistas wanna fuck n go with the flow and pray after dude mess them up. a lot of these brothaz runnin game so it’s best to stay prayed up as my grandmamma would say. 😆

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  37. Ashanti says:

    The Truth and The Myth About Praying for a mate is a great subtitle and some of us probably read the book and still don’t know what it means. So here’s the perfect opportunity to hear the meaning first hand.

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  38. Katman says:

    comments and question here on the blog but no calls on the air tonight. this WILL NOT and I repeat WILL NOT be an open discussion.

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    • UncleEd says:

      oh well when we have the opportunity to call we don’t. now some may want too as a time to get personal with her and she’s not taking calls. good move tra 😆

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  39. BigBelly says:

    I love Trace period!
    I tune in religiously weekly and this show will be no different.

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  40. QTip says:

    Great show topic and an interesting one at that. 😆
    I know a lotta y’all we hoping Tra will get real personal on this one.

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  41. Xmen says:

    In recent events, conversations and correspondence I’ve received, a lot of women have posed the same question to me: “What is the Truth And The Myth About Praying For A Mate?“

    Sounds like people been asking for this show discussion. 😡 I ain’t prayin for NOBODY! I wanna keep fuckin n funning with random chicks 😆 still wanna hear this show though.

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    • Yvonne says:

      I ain’t prayin for NOBODY! I wanna keep fuckin n funning with random chicks 😆
      ——–
      Until something Falls OFF that is.

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      • SlickRick says:

        I ain’t prayin for NOBODY! I wanna keep fuckin n funning with random chicks 😆
        ——–
        That’s the shit I just said 😆

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  42. Donte says:

    I can and will comment more after the show.

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  43. Gabriella says:

    Conversations Of A Sistah gave birth to this show. 🙂 How appropriate for this subtitle to be a HOT show discussion. Can’t wait for tonight’s show. I will comment again when the show is over.

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  44. Zenna says:

    I loved Tracy’s story and will be tuned in tonight to hear her breakdown the meaning of her subtitle.

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  45. SlickRick says:

    Ion know No niggaz who prayed for or is praying for a mate.
    But I’m tuning in Trace in another 29 minutes.

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  46. DHood says:

    women be praying not men.

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  47. Applebottom says:

    In this world of disease, STD’s, killing, terrorism, lying and cheating one better PRAY!
    Tuning in Ms. Bell

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    • Browngirl says:

      In this world of disease, STD’s, killing, terrorism, lying and cheating one better PRAY!
      ———-
      Thank god for vibrators, they have saved me from wearing that bright orange jumpsuit & all types of nasty diseases, becuz married men do more cheating than single men

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      • Bobby says:

        In this world of disease, STD’s, killing, terrorism, lying and cheating one better PRAY!
        ———-
        Thank god for vibrators, they have saved me from wearing that bright orange jumpsuit & all types of nasty diseases, becuz married men do more cheating than single men
        ********
        Vibrators = no disease & multiple orgasms..bad marriage = prison food & mediocre sex! Ask that black woman in Florida who shot at her husband & went to jail. I cant with holy matrimony. Theres nothing holy about it anymore!!

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      • Civil says:

        Vibrators = no disease & multiple orgasms..bad marriage = prison food & mediocre sex! Ask that black woman in Florida who shot at her husband & went to jail. I cant with holy matrimony. Theres nothing holy about it anymore!!
        ——–
        Ladies God made man for woman not vibrators.

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  48. Tammy says:

    15 minutes people.
    WooHoo!!!!!!!!!!!

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  49. QueenC says:

    Awesome show!!!!!!!!!
    Just awesome!!!! awesome!!!! awesome!!!!
    That breakdown was something else.
    Wow!!!

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  50. Adriane says:

    Oh Lawd I’m in tears now 😥 powerful Tracy real powerful!!!

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  51. Nicole says:

    Sometimes I feel like I don’t belong anywhere
    It’s gonna take so long for me to get somewhere
    Sometimes I feel so heavy hearted
    But I can’t explain ’cause I’m so guarded

    But that’s a lonely road to travel
    And a heavy load to bear
    And it’s a long, long way to heaven
    But I gotta get there

    Can you send an angel?
    Can you send an angel?

    ‘Cause I don’t wanna feel
    Like a dove with no wings
    And I don’t wanna know
    What a heart of stone would bring

    But that’s a lonely road to travel
    And a heavy load to bear
    And it’s a long, long way to heaven
    But I gotta get there

    Can you send an angel?
    Can you send me an angel?
    Please, send me an angel
    Can you send me an angel?

    To guide me, to guide me home
    [Incomprehensible] so bad, so bad right now
    Oh, won’t you be somebody’s angel right now

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  52. Bobby says:

    That ending song set the mood for the whole damn show!!!

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    • ManUp says:

      Trace got a nigga 2nd thinking and guessing. Why some dude ain’t snatch her up is BEYOND me. Tonite’s show was very informative.

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  53. Danny says:

    Good show. Y’all men better get ta praying! 😆

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  54. Felicia says:

    Tracy was so mello tonight. I loved how the conversation went and how she talked to us as if we were at a round table or something. LOVED THE SHOW AS USUAL. Loved it!!!

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  55. Pinky says:

    Tracy’s words were mind blowing. makes you wanna THINK and give your life to Jesus all at the same time.

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  56. Tamala says:

    Loved tonight’s show Tracy. Good break down.

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  57. Browngirl says:

    Awesome show Tracy!
    I’ve read your book and have a lot of respect for you because if I had been in your shoes at that church where all them bitches was flipping out ova that 1 knee-grow…I woulda caught a case & wound up on SNAPPED behind that shit, if we would’ve jumped the broom.

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