Is Arguing a Natural Part of any Relationship? Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”


July 26, 2017 by The ReadyWriter

Have you accepted arguing as being part of a relationship? Because some people DON’T.

I always hate to prescribe definitive answers to emotional or subjective subjects. However, I’ve been in relationships where we’ve never argued at all and I’ve been in relationships where we’ve argued all the time and neither relationship was relatively better than the other. Sometimes the relationships where you never ague might have benefited from just putting facts on the table, even if they make you uncomfortable.

So the question is, can you genuinely remove arguing from a relationship or do you believe arguing is a natural part of a healthy relationship? What happens if you find arguing detrimental but your partner finds it natural? What’s the difference between an argument and a debate?

Tune into “Conversations Of A Sistah” at 6:30 p.m. EST with Host Tracy L. Bell for her commentary on “Is arguing a natural part of every relationship?”

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64 thoughts on “Is Arguing a Natural Part of any Relationship? Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

  1. CorporateBitch says:

    Yes it is


  2. acquitta says:

    Why wouldn’t you argue with your partner?
    Its not like you are dating a dummy.
    But when the arguement turns into “physical fights” then that’s not good.


  3. Gabriella says:

    Arguments are natural. Fights are not.
    Every relationship is prone to it.


  4. Gabriella says:

    Good morning and tuning in Tracy 🙂


  5. Shawnia says:

    What is important when arguing with you man, is knowing when and where to stop.
    If it’s getting tense and out of hand you drop it…


  6. Civil says:

    Arguments are normal, violence IS NOT


  7. BrownGirl says:

    No perfect humans, so how can there be a “perfect relationship?”
    IMO if you don’t argue, both people in the relationship are being fake/phony.


    • UncleEd says:

      Exactly. I agree.
      If there exists a relationship anywhere that doesn’t involve arguing it is a classic expression of the word “pretense”


  8. Floridagurl says:

    Arguments and disagreements strengthen a relationship…


  9. Adam says:

    Argument are an intrinsic part of our existence as humans.
    Constructive arguments helps us to have a wholistic view of any situation.


  10. Mahogany says:

    I have to argue with my man because I need a sneak preview of his thoughts and any situation we may be in. And if it’s done right arguments can help us in our decision making.


  11. Alscream says:

    I gotta have somebody who’ll argue with me. I gotta know she got some backbone. some spunk. Ion want nobody I can run over or just walk all ova. That’s a turnoff Trace.


  12. Natasha says:

    Constructively. .
    That’s the word
    Some people argue blindly but when it’s constructive it’s worth it. 🙂


  13. 2Thick4you says:

    I “LOVE” the movie ‘baby boy’ and they did argue like crazy but the sex was just as passionate.
    Get my drift? 😛


  14. Adriane says:

    When heated arguments become the norm, then that ain’t normal. Not cool., something’s wrong. very wrong.


  15. Yvonne says:

    In my opinion
    Arguments are okay in a relationship as long as it doesn’t lead to “quarrels” or “fights”


  16. Miss Ang says:

    Arguments are not about being right or winning a discussion but finding ways to listen and respect each other’s opinion . it is a process of reasoning.


  17. Henrietta says:

    Relationships were meant to be easy. 🙂


  18. ashanti2012 says:

    How can you be in a relationship and not argue. Not fight, when you say fight I’m thinking physical. but arguing is a reality in any relationship.

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  19. bballen says:

    I avoid idiots, arguments with smart people usually just end in both people walking away.

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  20. neesy20110 says:

    I think it’s okay and even normal to argue in a relationship. It could be considered a discussion in many cases.

    If it rises to physical altercations or some like negative space, there may be cause for concern.

    Otherwise you should be good … to :argue:

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  21. Bobby says:

    Arguments in the relationship isn’t bad I’d say, you won’t agree all the time, so naturally disagreements will arise, as long as you both keep respect at the forefront yall good


  22. pookienem says:

    Never walk away from someone whose worthy of your affection because of conflicting views, or whatever the argument maybe, now if he, or she is a problem they gotta kick rocks, life should be filled with laughter not sorrow people


  23. gabby2010 says:

    The term “argue” seems to have bad connotations, when it doesn’t have to.

    In my family I have observed two couples.

    Couple #1: They never argue. Always on the same page, polite, lovey-dovey, etc.

    Couple #2: Always arguing. And, not just privately. They argue in front of the whole family. To the point of making everyone in the family feel uncomfortable.

    Over the years, who would have thought that couple #1 would have divorced, and couple #2 would still be married?

    I have contemplated this and come to believe that couple #2 was actually communicating more than couple #1, even though it made everyone else feel uneasy.

    At the end of the day…they were, and still are, happily married. And, I don’t know what went wrong for couple #1, but I am surprised that they didn’t make it, because they seemed so very happy *shrugs*

    Gonna be a good show because this is an interesting topic as usual.


  24. tamala2010 says:

    Arguing should never spirals into violence, verbal abuse, or saying hurtful things that would be damaging to any relationship, an argument nonetheless is a sign that communication is happening. Arguing means that each communicator has a different perspective of what is being said and by discussing it the issue can only be resolved


  25. randomchick2011 says:

    Without arguing then no communication is happening and to me is analogous to having a relationship to Ward and June Cleaver. O_o


  26. bird2009 says:

    This is one of the things I think about a lot with my relationship with my husband. We are two different people, and a lot of the time, we have differing opinions and ways of handling things. And, although our fights suck, I do think it’s a necessary evil. The thing is, though, is how you argue or disagree. We’ve been coming to the point in our relationship when we are trying to be more respectful and responsible when we disagree.


  27. daisydukes2010 says:

    Fighting is the key ingredient in breeding passion. From passion comes love. Deep love. Earth-shattering, appetite-destroying, sleep-losing, skin-burning, can’t-live-life-without-each-other love.

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    • kaylabrown2010 says:

      Damn that sounds HOT!
      Makes me wanna go home and start a fight with my BOO right now. LOL 😆


  28. kaylabrown2010 says:

    Conflict is a natural part of healthy relationships. You are two separate individuals who will sometimes have different opinions and conflicting views about a decision that needs to be made.

    Whether that becomes actual fighting has a lot to do with how you both manage conflict.


  29. mittseybean says:

    Disagreeing is a normal part of relationships. Emotional discussions are a normal part of relationships. “Fighting” doesn’t have to be. Fighting, in my mind, is where everyone is talking, nobody is listening, and you are one sentence away from saying something that will hurt the other. so argue fair and be considerate of each other is my opinion.


  30. lexyjay2010 says:

    If your broken inside, you will fight. And this isn’t just a relationship, Its life. Broken people fight.
    So its often the case that conflict is not a case of a broken relationship, but rather broken people.
    You need to know this brokenness I speak of isn’t referring to a person as a whole. but part of them. You could be pretty much perfect. But have insecurity issues. And its that insecurity that will cause conflict.
    Looking at myself, relationships are just easy, Looking at others it seems way too complex. We live once and should be able to choose who, and how we spend our lives. Regardless of what the world says.


  31. omarnance2010 says:

    Minimal arguing over very minimal things. Disagreeing about how much you should tip the waiter when out dining and small things is normal. When you start insulting each other and escalate to yelling then escalate to the site of your partner disgusts you then it’s time to think about changing partners.


  32. masongrump says:

    It’s necessary I think to argue, depending on what kind of fighting or arguing it is. In my experience compromise is ALWAYS needed, otherwise you can’t reach a resolution and resentment sets in.

    Fighting happens too when people don’t communicate enough. It’s usually the result of it.
    There’s a huge difference between fighting over who’s turn it is to clean up and over someone cheating on their partner. Let’s keep this shit all the way real.


  33. valerieperry35 says:

    Fighting is not an omen in a relationship – it is okay, but it’s how you fight that matter.


  34. weeks2010 says:

    Welp, in my humble opinion this can speak to relationships amongst girlfriends too. when my gurlz sometimes get into fights amongst each other they start bringing up things that went down months even years ago. calling out how they dress, what they wear, talking about each others hair, just mean things that are sometimes not necessary but they drag out during these fights. so fighting can be common amongst friends not just those in romantic relationships.


  35. I think disagreement is a natural part of relationships and a major part of marriages. I think the danger comes when those disagreements turn into emotion driven arguments. When emotions run high it’s hard to come to a resolution based on facts, logic and fairness. It is a shame because most of the really important lessons in life are not taught in a school. Having a successful relationship should be one of those things and communication is one of the biggest aspects of having a successful relationship. Peace Sistah and where can I find your show?


  36. Starr says:

    7 minutes till show time. I made it.


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