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I would not belong to a church where the Pastor is single…


Be it woman or man, if they are single pastors I would not attend their church.

Why? Because I believe in this particular leadership position, one ought to have a partner to be an example for its members that; love and heterosexual relationships is God’s ultimate plan for man.

The marriage and love between a pastor and his or her husband or wife, should be so igniting that they’re fostering relationships of their single memberships and encouraging marriage in the long run.

If a couple is happily married that energy will reflect on the growth of its members, if the leadership couple has issues within, that congregation will not grow.

A minister should be concerned about the WHOLE man, not just delivering God’s Word every Sunday, collecting an offering and going about his business. While in the meantime, you have single men and women sitting up in church secretly yearning for more.

Does your church have a single’s ministry? Does your church have social activities geared toward singles? Does your pastor even discuss relationships from onset to maturity? Is your pastor even concerned about the single adults in his ministry? And lastly, how many couples have your pastor’s married this year?

A church without goals is not concerned about souls!!!!

I hope this answers the question from one of my loyal CEO readers.

Please note: The pastor and his wife above was a random photo chosen and not directly associated to the message in this post.

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73 thoughts on “I would not belong to a church where the Pastor is single…

  1. that’s why niggas ain’t hookin up in the church. that’s why they goin to the bars and clubs cause the church tryda be all holy about stuff like this. then when you get to the church the same niggas up in the bars n clubs sittin up in the church. a revolving relationship door.

    but you on point @trace pastors tryna keep women single.

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      1. A church without goals is not concerned about souls!!!!
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        I laughed my ASS OFF when I read that y’all.

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  2. A church without goals is not concerned about souls!!!!

    You better preach!!!!!! Alot of pastors ain’t trying to be all up in ya business like that but if they are concerned about they’re singles, they would be pressed to marry them off.

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    1. if they are concerned about they’re singles, they would be pressed to marry them off.
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      single mothers especally.

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      1. if they are concerned about they’re singles, they would be pressed to marry them off.
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        single mothers especally.
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        WHY single mothers especially? What are they the only ones hard up for a man?

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      2. if they are concerned about they’re singles, they would be pressed to marry them off.
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        single mothers especally.
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        WHY single mothers especially? What are they the only ones hard up for a man?
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        because most single women want their children’s fathers to be in that household with them…there’s a woman in Brooklyn, who has a business/org. called “2nd chances” and she’s in the business of hooking singe mothers up with they babies daddies.

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      3. if they are concerned about they’re singles, they would be pressed to marry them off.
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        single mothers especally.
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        Singles period!!! not just those who are single parents but i think i see ya point

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      4. WHY single mothers especially? What are they the only ones hard up for a man?
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        I think what Bobby means is that single mamas need to be married first and foremost cause they have chirren to consider. nobody said nothing about being desperate heifer U did.

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  3. Tracy my pastor is a single woman and the woman is bad!!!!! and she does have a husband. I’m happy there and yes she is encouraging her single people to hook up.

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  4. i’m not interested in not nan man in my church but my pastor does say, if u dating make sure he loves God and willing to attend church with you. needless to say, i ain’t brought my man to church yet.

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  5. A church without goals is not concerned about souls!!!!

    LMMFAO!!!! 🙂 I like that shit!!!!!! That’s a hot rhyme @Blog queen.

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  6. so who’s the pastor and i’m guessing that’s his black wife???? the way their hands are intertwined…i knew they were married.

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  7. IF THE PASTOR SINGLE 9X OUTTA 10 HE SCREWING HALF THE WOMEN UP IN HIS CHURCH. HELL IF HE MARRIED HE COULD STILL BE DOIN THE SAME DAMN THING. AND SOME WIVES WILL SIT THERE JUST BECAUSE THEY WANNA BE THE PASTOR’S WIFE. GTFOH!!!

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    1. IF THE PASTOR SINGLE 9X OUTTA 10 HE SCREWING HALF THE WOMEN UP IN HIS CHURCH. HELL IF HE MARRIED HE COULD STILL BE DOIN THE SAME DAMN THING. AND SOME WIVES WILL SIT THERE JUST BECAUSE THEY WANNA BE THE PASTOR’S WIFE. GTFOH!!!
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      which is why Tracy said: “If a couple is happily married that energy will reflect on the growth of its members, if the leadership couple has issues within, that congregation will not grow.”

      So true!!!!

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      1. IF THE PASTOR SINGLE 9X OUTTA 10 HE SCREWING HALF THE WOMEN UP IN HIS CHURCH. HELL IF HE MARRIED HE COULD STILL BE DOIN THE SAME DAMN THING. AND SOME WIVES WILL SIT THERE JUST BECAUSE THEY WANNA BE THE PASTOR’S WIFE. GTFOH!!!
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        Lexy, your comment is negative sounds like u had a bad CHURCH experience.

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      2. Okay, that’s your 2nd comment to me. I know all churches and these so called pastors are not perfect that’s all.

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      3. Okay, that’s your 2nd comment to me. I know all churches and these so called pastors are not perfect that’s all.
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        Nobody’s perfect but if you Pastoring a church U better be or should be damn close! Cause when this life is over they will see God for the people who followed/follows them

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  8. great post ms. bell!!! 😉 i like this.
    i go to a church where there’s a singles ministry but i don’t like none of the singles that’s in the church. the pastor is asking that we bring our friends and other collegues. this way you have a variety to mingle with.

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    1. who cares if the minister is single as long as i get god’s word thats all that matters
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      But she has a point when she said: “A minister should be concerned about the WHOLE man” and that’s true. I agree with her on that.

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      1. who cares if the minister is single as long as i get god’s word thats all that matters
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        If he/or she is single and you’re single you’re likely to remain single

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  9. Please note: The pastor and his wife above was a random photo chosen and not directly associated to the message in this post.

    Well alrighty then.

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  10. Truth be told alot of ministers don’t give a shit about their members. preaching and goin home on sunday is just a job for them so they don’t care if their single mbrs get to heaven let alone get married.

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    1. Truth be told alot of ministers don’t give a shit about their members. preaching and goin home on sunday is just a job for them so they don’t care if their single mbrs get to heaven let alone get married.
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      This is true but that’s also the problem with most churches

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  11. so nobody’s gonna talk about the big elephant in the room how the pastor and his wife above got jungle fever.?

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  12. I would want a church home where the pastor is happily married, if he’s single he’s either gay or a jigalo. I want stability in every aspect of my life and that includes everything.

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  13. I’m LOL @ this post. Blog Queen is a trip! But she told the truth!!!! Alot of churches don’t give 2shits about single folk and their relationships. it’s all about the married couples but i will agree a ministry without balance is a boring ass ministry. Go Tracy for speaking the truth!!!

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  14. I’m a have to share this post with my pastor’s wife because we bought to start a single’s ministry. just that alot of singles in our church are not into each other like that, so we’re encouraging people to invite friends.

    Good post Tracy tho.

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  15. My pastor and his wife are not happy. i can just tell. she shows 0 interest in what is going on in the different ministries in our church and there IS NOT a single’s ministry either.

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  16. being a pastor/minister/pimp in this day and age means you a celebrity. and these pulpit niggas ain’t thinkin bout marrying they single mbrs off. some of these pastors/ministers/pimps wanna keep they asses as single and blind as possible.

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  17. “A minister should be concerned about the WHOLE man, not just delivering God’s Word every Sunday, collecting an offering and going about his business. While in the meantime, you have single men and women sitting up in church secretly yearning for more”

    So true……which is why you have some many christian living double lives.

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  18. @Tracy,
    I like this post!!! Lord knows you TOLD THE TRUTH!!!! That’s the problem with some of these churches today they are not dealing with all the issues encountered by the WHOLE man!!! There are so many issues/topics that some pastors are afraid to even discuss when you have to use God’s Word to meet today’s challenges!!!! and Christian women are not true to themselves knowing at the end of the day they WANT A MAN! Ain’t that much Jesus in the world. !!!!

    Whoa WHO!!!!!!!!!!!! ~ you told the truth!!!!!!!!!!

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  19. It’s hard being single out here today and some of these pastors don’t even know what to tell these young folk let alone start or have a single’s ministry…

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  20. these ministers are not about to be hookin they mbrs up. some of them don’t want their mbrs happy, they wanna keep them alone and miserable so they can prey on their emotions and get that dough on a regular.

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  21. This post was a wake up call for me because the married women in my church think they better than the single women, They act like they’ve arrived n shit. It’s true what Tracy is saying, if your pastor is happy he will care about your happiness as well. we need to re-evaluate our leadership and do what’s best for us.

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    1. This post was a wake up call for me because the married women in my church think they better than the single women, They act like they’ve arrived n shit.
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      That’s because they think they got 1 up on single women when half of them are miserable in their marriages to begin with.

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  22. Does your church have a single’s ministry? -> No here @Bedside Baptist we have company @times

    Does your church have social activities geared toward singles? -> No but i’m ok wit it because i pretty much do my own thing on a regular

    Does your pastor even discuss relationships from onset to maturity? -> No cause they change quite often

    Is your pastor even concerned about the single adults in his ministry? ->really don’t know cause i’m only concerned with myself

    And lastly, how many couples have your pastor’s married this year? ->-> Oh did i forget to mention i don’t know cause i don’t really go to church

    LOL But atleast i answered all Tra’s questions.

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  23. Nice to see an interracial married couple.

    On topic: Alot of churches need to be creative in order to keep the mbership and morale up amongst its mbrs. Its true pastors should be just as concerned with the singles activities just as he would other auxilliaries.

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  24. 🙂 I like this. But its best to attend a church that has activities for the whole family, that’s why it should be a family oriented ministry.

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  25. “A church without goals is not concerned about souls!!!!”

    So @Trace when can we expect your book on poetry ? 🙂

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  26. A minister should be concerned about the WHOLE man, not just delivering God’s Word every Sunday, collecting an offering and going about his business. While in the meantime, you have single men and women sitting up in church secretly yearning for more.

    For some ministers they run their churches like a business, it’s all about money and keepin the lights on! They don’t give a damn about the people.

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    1. They don’t give a damn about the people.
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      That’s why some men and women live double lives. They holy on Sunday and FREAKS come Monday thru Saturday. A buncha fuckin hypocrites!!~

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  27. Thank you Tracy!!!!
    This is all good to know…I am looking for a good church home (while on campus) so these are some serious things to consider. Ain’t no church perfect but Lawd knows I ain’t tryna get mixed up in the drama.

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  28. I wouldn’t attend a single ministers church either.
    If the minister is a single woman, her sermons are bitch sessions and if the minister is a single man every sistah in there after em. so…why even bother.

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  29. Whoa!!!! I “thank God” my pastor meet all the expectations mentioned in this post. 🙂 He and his wife try to be up on all the happening in our church. so….

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  30. The married pastor who was in charge of our singles ministry was fucking some of the single women in the church. Needless to say, our pastor got rid of his ass, so now the singles ministry is ran by this older couple. and they so strict they make you not even wanna be apart of the single’s ministry.

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  31. nice looking couple up top.
    sorry fam i do not believe in nor do i participate in organized religion………. i believe we are in control of our own destinies. oh but i do believe in God yes i do.

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    1. sorry fam i do not believe in nor do i participate in organized religion………. i believe we are in control of our own destinies. oh but i do believe in God yes i do.
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      aren’t you contradicting yourself? how can you believe in God if you believe we are in charge of our own destiny? Is He not the controller of our destiny @Natasha???

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      1. aren’t you contradicting yourself? how can you believe in God if you believe we are in charge of our own destiny? Is He not the controller of our destiny @Natasha???
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        all i’m saying is people think God is this jeannie and miracles just gon fall out the sky, God be waitin on us to make things happen is all i’m sayin. Just like i don’t depend on man to rightfully DIVIDE the Word when i can read and comprehend it for myself.

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  32. “Why? Because I believe in this particular leadership position, one ought to have a partner to be an example for its members that; love and heterosexual relationships is God’s ultimate plan for man.”

    OMG so true!

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  33. Good post Trace!!! If a pastor need to be concerned about all that for his singles then DAYUM!!!! That’s a job within itself. LMAO!!!!! But I get where U coming from.

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    1. QTip, Hey!!!
      These pastors have a big enuff job tryna keep up wit they own damn kids let alone the singles in their church. PK’s are the worst too. Mmph!

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