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“What’s Your Motive For Marriage?”

The ReadyWriter

I was in a conversation the other evening with this friend of mine, when he started talking about the reasons people marry.

Call me a fool because I’m morally conscious but, I believe love is the only reason two people should get married and the fact that, they want to spend the rest of their lives together.

My friend declared, my reasons may be justified however, in this day and age a little unrealistic. He then gave me “6 reasons” why couples marry and love was not one of them.

1. Money, and when you have an indispensable amount, he said, life is so much easier. Yes money can provide all the material possessions your heart desires but you can’t take any of it with you when you leave this earth.

2. Power, and with power comes prestige, and when you marry into it, you become powerful by default.

3. Family ties, when your families already know the person you’re going to marry.

4. Children, if you wish to have them or become pregnant during your courtship.

5. Living habits, you both share the same thing and you both live the same way (i.e., if he’s messy and you’re messy – you’ll both live happily ever after in a pigs pen).

6. Lifestyle, drinker’s, druger’s, swinger’s, porn stars, Bible thumpers and partiers, those who share similar interest have ways of finding each other.

While my friend’s lists and reasons may be true, none of the above would work for me.

For what reason (s) would you marry?? I want to hear from you…

Feel free to add your own lists as well.

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118 thoughts on ““What’s Your Motive For Marriage?””

  3. Comfort: whether the persons good for you or not, you’re comfortable with them.

    might be wrong but its true..might be sad but its a fact! lol.

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  4. Feel free to add your own lists as well.

    Yup. I’ve got some:

    7. Trophy: Certain men or women marry a person with certain physical attributes and they want to “show them off” or prance around with them as if they are a prized game bird.

    8. Maid/Nanny: Some people are lazy and don’t like to take care of the home or their children so they marry someone who has no problem doing so

    9. Control: Some people are extremely controlling and they will marry a person who allows them to dominate them with little or no resistance

    10. Self Hating Racists: Some people want to procreate with a person of another race because they hate their own race

    I’m sure that I can come up with more.

    Hopefully it will be some positive reasons to get married. lol

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      2. @Slick, I just saw that…My partner was going with dis chick who had HERPES. She caught it in between their breakup. Bitch gotta karoded koochie. who want that?

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      5. That’s why I gotta know where my man been b4 anything jump off between us. oh hell NO! 2many diseases out here today and it seems as if new ones are coming OUT every other minute.

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    10. #19 – Marriage Pact…
      If you agree with the one you love that you will get married @ a certain age., then you marry them.

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    13. #22 – A good set of tools!!!

      #23 – Ha.m.m.e.r

      #24 – Saw.

      #25 – Some Pliers.

      You know s.h.y.t needs fixin’ ’round here!!!

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      4. #29 – A STRONG back!!
        Aint nothing sexier than seeing a man pushing a law mower or taking out the garbage.

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      5. #30 – TRUST!!!
        If I TRUST you, we may have a chance. and trsut should be another factor for getting married.

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      6. @Adam, it can’t just be about the sex. I know somebody who got married cause the sex was good and they have no real communication. niccas don’t even know what to talk about. so believe it or NOT the marriage gotta take place outside the bed. if there is no substance the marriage is doomed.

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      11. “Greencard,” “Arranged Marriage,” “Family Obligations” – all these are very valid reasons added to the list!!!

        WOW.

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      12. @Mrs.
        #29, you are 2-funny. I was just looking at a guy the other day thinking about how nice the muscles in his back were….LOL

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      13. @Mrs & Keisha, ima keep it real. when i see a nice back on a brotha., i be thinkin bout that stroke! lol. that’s right. #dontjudgeme.

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  7. I aint gon lie yall….I want a big, strong black motherfer that’s gon turn my azz out just by lookin @me. I want him 2b able to sling my azz around the bedroom and the house at will.

    Then I want him to *DO ME* like i’ll neva forget. Have my azz thinkin about him all day. lol.

    Damn I’m hot just thinking about it. lol.

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    1. Good morning people.

      @Tamala, it’s too early in the morning to be reading about your fantasies girl. you need 2 take it down a notch. cold shower needed maybe?

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    2. Get it @ Tamala, tell us some more of what you want from your man baby. we listening. ya shit is going well with my bagel and coffee. lol.

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    3. I wanna man with a limp!!!

      You know the ones that one leg is shorter than the other and they walk like their “wobbling!”

      Oh hell yeah that’s what I want!!!

      Those kinds of me are sexy as shit!!!

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      1. @Tamal, Ok you lost me with that one. a limp? oh no, it’s too early for ya jokes.

        @Man, you would enjoy the fantasy talk. 🙂

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  8. Good morning to my fellow ceo bloggers.

    whats going on up in here this morning????

    I’m checkin in before a new post. 🙂

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  9. Good morning people.

    I’m feelin Ms. Bell’s friend’s list. and had to digest this b4 i came back with my comment…that’s right.

    But here’s how I feel about it:

    1. MONEY – I don’t have NONE so he better have some.
    2. POWER – this will GO TO HIS HEAD and I may have2 kill a nicca. don’t want him to have it cause I damn sure don’t need to have it.
    3. FAMILY TIES – I RUN from NIGGAS who got NOSY ass family mbrs tryna get involved.
    4. CHILRREN – I would neva marry if I didn’t want chilrren, they’re the only reason to take the huge risks of marriage (unprotected sex, sharing of assets, being tied to that person for the rest of your life even if you get a divorce). That’s some real shit to THINK about.
    5 – LIVING HABITS, that prt is true, I attract the FREAKS like me (SHUT DA HELL UP MAN!!)
    6. LIFESTYLE – true again, I attract non smoking, drug free non practising christians. lol.

    dontjudgeme – Carry on.

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    3. “4. CHILRREN – I would neva marry if I didn’t want chilrren, they’re the only reason to take the huge risks of marriage (unprotected sex, sharing of assets, being tied to that person for the rest of your life even if you get a divorce). That’s some real shit to THINK about.”

      @Starr, you made some good points. I lol at them but I co-sign you on #4!!!!

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  11. Good morning all: once you get married you and your husband will have to share everything! even joint accounts. That’s one reason why I wouldn’t get married. I’ve been single to long and LOVIN my own money.

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      1. NO!!! I know someone who’s husband left her with 2 kids and 0.18 cents in “her/their” bank account. and homeboy is nowhere 2 be found. Lesson learned for Seperate accounts.

        Thank U.

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    1. LOL @ Nicole…you could just go to another room or wear ear-plugs to bed. my mom did it for years. Marriage is all about COMPROMISE people. you compromise habits when you get married cause we all have our faults and annoying little habits.

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    2. Snoring is just 1…men can be obnoxious period…they may fart at any given time and stank up the whole damn house. when you have your own you can just send their nasty azzes home. smh. ugh!

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      1. wow @ Ebony and Nicole. fartin and snoring is all apart of life aint it? what? you’s don’t fart? if you don’t den., how dat shit comin out? i mean is there a secret means on “how not to fart?” i mean c’mon now tell a brotha. yall talk like you know?

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      3. @Keisha, yeah and he tellin da truff!

        @Nicole, I agree with Keisha, you gotta compromise. my gurl snore and it don’t bother me., so im sure snoring is not a man thing.

        @Ebony, wth? is there a trick to not laying a hot one. if so let a brotha know like BBallen said. lol.

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      4. @BBallen&Man, of course there is body releases just as the body must function. but some men when they get comfortable wit their gf’s they fart and carry on w/o even being aware of what they are doing becuz they get so comfortable. I do not fart around my man and if i do its queit, lol

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      6. *EAVES DROPPIN* Not for nothing but, you can be tactful when you pass gas. unless it smells ya man won’t know. 🙂

        Notice I didn’t use the term “FART”

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  13. Marriage is definetly not a “must have” for me.

    However some people get married just to say that they are…HELLO!

    We think we love a person and can countinue to love them for the rest of our lives, when in reality set in we realize that its really not worth it.

    If i tell someone that i will be with them for better or worse i am telling them a bold face lie because theres always gonna be a condition on how much you’ll love someone.

    Marriage just dont carry the same values now as it did in the past. there are more HO’S Now then there are wives. everything is bout lust and greed, so the new attitude is, “whats love got to do with it!”

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    2. @Sandy,

      I agree with “there are many women, but very few wives.”
      That’s deep.

      too many sistahs today are desperate and on a mission. when you don’t seek and demand quality, you might get anything.

      That’s why I believe ya gotta be prayerful. and if you been w/somebody for the long haul, and they’re sincere, you blessed…

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    3. @SANDY, THERE R LOTS OF BENEFITS WHEN IT COMES TO MARRIAGE. ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO THE LAW. THERE R 1138 FEDERAL BENEFITS, ALONE, FOR MARRIED PPL.
      WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO GETTING & OWNING PROPERTY (WHICH IS A WEALTH MAKER W/IN IT’S OWN), 96% OF HOME OWNERS R MARRIED. SINCE THE MAJORITY OF BLACK PPL R NOT MARRIED, & HAVE NO INTEREST IN ECONOMICS-THESE COMMENTS R NOT SURPRISING To ME..

      Good morning all.

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  14. Marriage sucks yall! don’t do it!!!

    It is boring as hell! I know my husband be creepin too…hooking up wit young hotties and exposing them to his herp! LMAO!

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    1. we here at the ceo blog…ingore comments from those who remain annoymous.

      anonymous is not apart of the fam here.

      so see ya.

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  21. Black folks need to wake up. 95% of our problems are tied to the break-up and break-down of the black family.

    At the root of family issues, blacks not getting married and blacks getting divorced at higher rates then any other ethnicity in America in other words….most black families being comprised of baby mammas and the baby daddies that so many of the BMs despise.

    Let me get deeper, there are no shared financial interests in BM/BD situations. Mama is doing her thing and trying to keep up in her home, while daddy is doing the same thing in his own home. ONE FAMILY, TWO HOUSEHOLDS= finances being chopped up. ONE FAMILY, TWO HOUSEHOLDS= kids being raised two different ways, ONE FAMILY, TWO HOUSEHOLDS= kids seeing mom revolve through her boyfriends and daddy revolve through his girlfriends (if he even brings his children around his home).

    This is not a good look or a good example for young black boys or girls. ONE FAMILY, TWO HOUSEHOLDS = an increased likelihood of poorer physical and mental health when compared to same-age married couples. ONE FAMILY, TWO HOUSEHOLDS= an increased likelihood your kids will struggle in school. Not to say all married couples’ kids never have trouble in school.

    ONE FAMILY, TWO HOUSEHOLDS = an increased likelihood that your black son will end up in jail deserting his kids or your black daughter will end up a single, BM.

    My point., at the end of the day we all need to get over ourselves, get over the petty shyt, and get a good woman on your team and build a family legacy based on faith, love, and respect for the women and your children.

    Most other cultures have this down packed, it’s the black folk who need 2catch up.

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      2. @Starr’s azz, are you tryna CORRECT the queen? when you get some real writin skills then you can do that. until then, sthu please and thank u.

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      3. @Slick, WHO DIED and left you the HOUSE PIMP? when I pull ya tail nigga then you bark until then you *shut the hell up*!!! and yes i spelled THAT out for you.

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      1. @BBallen, you wasn’t spose to SEE her you was spose to see the comment. lol.

        @ceodawg, your words ring true my brotha.

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    6. @ceodawg, damn you laid down some truth right there!!!

      dats why im so glad i aint made no babies yet and damn sure aint tryna make nobody no mama.

      im savin dat shit for last..way last…

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  22. Please yall… I laugh @ some of these comments.

    Especially when, so many men are so weak for Puzzy. Women can use their Puzzy to get them to do anything the women desires.

    If the Puzzy is wet, tight, smell fresh and is attached to a big ass, a cute face and longhair.

    That nicca hooked. lol

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    1. @Slick, Indeed!!!!
      Brothas take note to what they say about us? do you really think they have YOUR BEST INTEREST in mind?

      And remember the “Puzzy” is free!!!!

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      1. @Ace, YOU BIG DUMMY! (IN MY FRED SANFORD VOICE)

        AINT NOTHIN IN THIS WORLD FREE.

        SOONER OR LATER YOU PAY THE PIPER BABY.

        AND YES FOR THE PUZZY TOO…

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    2. @Slick,
      “If the Puzzy is wet, tight, smell fresh and is attached to a big ass, a cute face and longhair.”

      L’ing OL…Really? That shit might just be diseased. you don’t know what these women are carrying in dat puzzy.

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  24. Im not Marrying anyone until I can face the fact that I am 31 and not 25 #Canttellmeimnotyoung…LOL seriously though I want someone who shares my values, morals and concious views. When Love goes out the window we are going to need something to keep us together. When I get bored with washing dirty undies and changing stinky pampers I want someone to be there to help a Sister out I need that 50/50 love. I want some one spontanious and passionate who does not think the world revolves around them I can not take self centered individuals for too long. #Theybugme.

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