Beyonce, Infedelity, Jay Z, New Music

It’s “NEVER OK” for a Man (married or single) To Have a Side Chick

beyonce-lemonade-hbo-compressedI woke up to a flood of email messages this morning from blog readers and show listeners wondering what my thoughts and opinions were regarding Beyoncé’s new music “Lemonade”.

And based upon what I’m being schooled on is, Beyonce pouring out her frustration and bitterness in a collection of songs laced with lyrics of infidelity and deceit.

The gist of all the buzz is, Beyoncé’s husband of six years, rap mogul Jay Z cheated on her when she makes reference to Jay Z‘s mistress “Becky” in her song Sorry,” which ends with the line, “he better call Becky with the good hair.” Also referencing his mistress being a white woman.

The woman identified as Jay’s mistress is a fashion designer by the name of Rachel Roy. Roy is believed to be the catalyst behind Solange‘s (Beyoncé’s sister), infamous elevator assault on Jay Z in 2014. Surveillance video inside the elevator captured Solange wildly punching and kicking Jay Z as Beyonce stood by and watched with detached amusement.

My thoughts are #1, I can’t believe ‘good hair’ amongst women is still being referenced in 2016, along with the notion that women have to compete with white women for a man, their man or any man for that fact.

#2, That women are so damn desperate for a man, that they would actually think or accept it being ok for him to be with you and a side chick? What the fuck is wrong with women today? If he can’t  commit to you, kick his disloyal ass to the curb. Point, blank period!!

A male associate of mine said to me this morning, “Beyoncé is a strong woman to stay with Jay Z” Really? This has absolutely nothing to do with her strength but the message she’s sending to young woman regarding their self-worth. If you know he’s cheating and got a side chick, it’s not love it’s stupidity.

There you have it, my  2 cents and opinion on the matter..


“Can Bad Sex Ruin A Marriage And Lead To Divorce?”

Or is sex important in the marriage period?~

Kristina Dzara author and professor at Southern Illinois University, examined the role of sex in marriage and says it depends on three measures of sexuality in the first three to six months of marriage.  The frequency of sexual intercourse, sexual satisfaction, and agreement between spouses will and can predict if they will divorce by the 5th year of marriage.

Although there are a lot of factors that can contribute to divorce such as, marital quality, early marriage, cohabitation and so much more.  In order to get a better understanding of the effects of sexuality in marriage, she considered many of the following factors:

  1. Does frequency of sexual intercourse matter in terms of couples staying together?
  2. Satisfaction with sex and physical intimacy?
  3. And the effect of a husband’s sexual satisfaction with respect to the prospects of divorce?

The professor concluded, for wives, satisfaction with physical intimacy and marital satisfaction seem to be rolled into one overall factor. Not so for men. When men report being satisfied with their marriage, this reduces their likelihood for divorce, and if they also report being sexually satisfied, then divorce is even more unlikely.

What’s your opinion?


“The Movie: ‘Jumping The Broom’ Addresses Abstinence”

I saw the movie this weekend and why it is being dubbed a comedy, makes me wonder? But I like because the movie celebrates two very important things, marriage and family.

As two families from two different socioeconomic levels merge because their son and daughter have taken a vow of abstinence and, after a six-month dating period, are headed toward marriage. As two family cultures collide, communication breaks down and the planned marriage almost collapses.

The bride vows abstinence until married after being tired of going to bed with all the wrong men.

The movie has an all-star cast that includes Angela Bassett, Paula Patton, Laz Alonso (Lord I love him but he has such a flat ass), Loretta Devine, Meagan Good, Tasha Smith, Julie Bowen, Romeo Miller, DeRay Davis, Valarie Pettiford and Mike Epps.

 This movie (“Jumping the Broom”) explores the cultural and spiritual challenges of abstinence, motherhood, family, love and relationships alongside themes such as forgiveness, family secrets, and misperceptions.
I laughed and cried yet commend the fact that, moral standards were at the forefront of this movie’s theme.

Now I ask you., my readers, is abstinence before marriage a reality in your opinion?


“Black Women Need to Learn to “Submit” to their Men”

That’s what Mo’Nique said on her show, as she went into what women need to do in order to keep a man happy in a relationship. Mo’Nique and her guests seem to think that black women work too hard to take control in their relationships.

Her disposition seems to imply that black women have been taught to be too independent and this leads to the breakdown of their relationships. This is not only the case with black women but all women of different races as well.

She actually says that black women “ sit down” (in the bathroom) for a reason and that men “stand up” for a reason.  Obviously, this rhetoric may not sit well with many black women, but some of you may wonder if Mo’Nique has a point.

On the Mo’Nique’s show which airs on BET, a couple provides an interesting perspective on black women being subservient to their men. That’s all well and good, if a women is subservient to the right man, who’ll respect her modesty in order to submit to such a will.

If you care to see the video from Mo’Nique’s show, follow my link here!


“The Black Church Speak Out Against President Obama”

On his decision not to defend The Marriage Act

The Rev. Anthony Evans, who heads the National Black Church Initiative — a coalition of 34,000 black churches — is blasting President Barack Obama’s decision to stop defending the The Marriage Act.

The Rev. notes that Obama “has violated the Christian faith” by failing to uphold Jesus’ teaching that marriage is between a man and a woman.

DOMA was signed into law in September, 1996 by then President Bill Clinton. The law is intended to uphold and preserve the sanctity of marriage between a man and woman.

Gays, (and other special interest groups) who make up a substantial portion of the left-wing voting bloc, say the law is unconstitutional. Not surprisingly Obama, who was opposed to gay marriage up until now, all of a sudden agrees with them.

Obama’s new stance has angered the Rev. Evans who says black churches must “reassess their extraordinary support for him.”

Looks like President Obama will not be able to please everyone but he’ll have to take a position and make his position clear.

Anyway, it’s about time “the real church” take a stand against the president’s decision!