How do you deal with hurt? on the next “Conversations Of A Sistah”


June 9, 2015 by The ReadyWriter


We remember all too well the scene from “Waiting to Exhale” when Bernadine “Bernie” Harris (one of the 4 characters in the film), abandons her own career dreams and desire of having a catering business to raise a family, and support her husband, who leaves her for a white woman. She then vents her hurt and anger out on John (her husband) by burning his clothes and car and selling off all of his personal items for a $1.00.

This gave Angela Bassett’s character a sense of satisfaction. She felt partly vindicated and somewhat satisfied having burnt her cheating husband’s belongings to smithereens’. A clear indication that Bernadine was hurt and hurt feelings can prompt brooding or resentment and can sometimes lead to an even greater emotional distress.

These were some of her ways of dealing with the hurt and was the most talked about scene when the movie released in 1995.

But…how do you deal with hurt?

Join me ‘LIVE’ on the air Wednesday at 6:30 p.m. on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via blog talk radio, as I delve into this topic.

You can access the shows by using any of the “Conversations link” in this post!

In the meantime, sound off here and I’ll see you on the air!


67 thoughts on “How do you deal with hurt? on the next “Conversations Of A Sistah”

  1. 2thick4you says:

    Yes the most powerful scene from the movie IMO


  2. HarlemGirl says:

    yup erbody deal with hurt differently. Lisa Left eye Lopez burnt dat kneegrows house down she was messing with O_o


  3. Adriane says:

    Loved that scene from the movie 😆 Bernie wasn’t playing.


  4. Yvonne says:

    Like the show topic Tra. Gotta GF goin through right now behind her man


  5. Bobby says:

    There are several levels of hurt and it’s not always an emotional hurt from the outcome of a relationship. Some people are hurt from loosing loved ones. 😥


  6. Daisy says:

    Good show topic Tra


  7. Anthony says:

    Trace. Trace!


  8. Browngirl says:

    Can’t wait. 🙂


  9. Felicia says:

    I freakin LUV it! 🙂 tuning in as usual.


  10. gia says:

    what helps me is to have a really good cry 😥


  11. Starr says:

    I was always told as a child that no matter how painful it is, God never put us through anything we can’t handle. Can I get an AMEN?


  12. QTip says:

    Hurt only challenges us to become stronger.


  13. Cameo1 says:

    Feeling hurt is a reasonable response to a situation, but how you deal with it, is another thing altogether.


  14. Zenna says:

    “But…how do you deal with hurt?”
    All depends on how one gets hurt…whether it was physical or emotional. Physical and emotional is different yes but I think I’d take physical pain over emotional pain any day.


    • Coco says:

      It never feels good to be hurt emotionally or physically, but life goes on and the joy of it returns along with the diminished capacity for the old hurt as well.


  15. Tamala says:

    “But…how do you deal with hurt?”
    I cry, usually a lot, but I only allow myself to be like that for a certain period of time ( how long depends on how badly I was hurt) then I pull myself up and start to get on with things. I can’t mope about anything for too long.


  16. Coco says:

    Time heals all wounds.


  17. Danny says:

    Well… it would first start to help with figuring out what is causing you the hurt… depending on what it is or WHO it is… that is how you would deal with it. Then let go if ya have too.


  18. alscream says:

    Damn Angela Bassett set shit on fyia in that scene, shit is funny.


  19. Sane says:

    I was hurt once…many, many moons ago 😆


    • Floridagirl says:

      I was hurt once…many, many moons ago
      Don’t even try it. Because it is unrealistic to live a hurt free life. O_o


  20. Applebottom says:

    Loving this topic Ms. Bell. and tuning in.


  21. Floridagirl says:

    Being hurt and getting hurt is all apart of life, it’s all about how you deal with it.


  22. Henrietta says:

    “Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for”. – Bob Marley

    Have a blessed day.


    • CorporateBitch says:

      Well that makes NO DAMN SENSE. Ain’t nobody worth being hurt and suffering for nobody. ~FOH


  23. CorporateBitch says:

    I deal with hurt by going on living and waiting for the sorrow to fade.


  24. RandomChick says:

    You can’t keep a good woman down.


  25. Rezzie says:

    Seek help with patience and prayer, and this indeed will heal all things.


  26. Lilly says:

    “How do you deal with hurt?” –>> Quietly on my own


  27. Lisa says:

    Gonna be a Good show


  28. Keisha says:

    I cuss


  29. Ebony says:

    Wow! Just wow.


  30. Civil says:

    A hurt woman is a dangerous woman.


  31. Aceman says:

    Trace MY GURL!!!


  32. Adam says:

    Sometimes you don’t wanna find out how some people deal with hurt. Women especially.


  33. Ionna says:

    Good show topic!


  34. Mrs. Hawthorne says:

    The hazard of life generally though is also the distinct possibility of getting hurt in some way. Here, I am not referring to something as unsubtle as a black eye, but to the more insidious pain of inner hurt, and that crushing feeling of inward offence is the deepest.


  35. shawnia says:

    we’ve all been hurt True….and the last time I was hurt I didn’t think I was gonna recover.


  36. Lexy says:

    I’d rather comment after the show.


  37. Val says:

    Whatever the case may be, hurt scars you and you carry it with you through many of your days. Real Talk


  38. Yes says:

    I’m LMAO that car thou. Angela know she was NO joke in that scene.


  39. Miss Ang says:

    I’m bout to tune in people. 😡


  40. Omar says:

    sometimes it can take years to get ova a hurt. depending on how significant it was 😦 I’m ON Fam


  41. Nicole says:

    Good evening yall and happy :hump: day…show was good Tra but had me 😥


  42. Crystal says:

    Show info was priceless! Heard the rewind again. Good show.


  43. Kayla says:

    Tracy made some good points in tonight’s commentary.
    “Hurt is to wound the feelings of… to cause mental pain to… or offend in honor of one’s self-respect.” <<<<<—- Best line of the night!


  44. gia says:

    Show was good.


  45. Ionna says:

    Good show tonight. A lot to think about.


  46. Yasha says:

    Loved the show! Tiz all.


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