Yeah., this is the same conversation with a different title.
According to the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, 1 in 5 American Moms have kids with different birth fathers. And as usual this new study shows that black women have multiple father family structures.
Also according to this study, 59 percent of black women have children with more than one father, while Hispanics come in second place at 35 percent and whites come in last at 22 percent.
Esteemed psychologist of the “Today Show” and resident psychologist of VH-1’s “Daddy Day Camp” Dr. Jeff Gardere, sees it “as a phenomenon based not just on poverty and racism, but more on the issues of lower marriage rates, higher divorce rates, less available men who are willing to totally commit and women who can either go it alone or manage the situation with multiple fathers.”
I think I can speak for most black women that no one plans to have children by different men. For many of these women, the children produced with different men occur in unplanned pregnancies.
Dr. Jeff Gardere said there is a flip side to this issue is, black men will date the Mother of their children for years with no intent to marry them. These men love their children and take care of their responsibilities, but when it comes to making the relationships they have with their baby mama’s official, there’s a lot of backpedaling.
So the question is, why are men comfortable “dating” their baby mama’s for 10 years and never making it official, causing many of these kids to be born out-of-wedlock? Growing up in single parent households.
Damn such a heavy post. and the day after mother’s day too. wow.
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SMH
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That’s right black men are as much to blame as the sistas who are opening their legs to 5, 6 different men. women need to be more selective about who they lay down with and how to control their sexual habits by practicing birth control.
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This issue is indeed a sickness, and this “blame men” (when too many times its reported that these women don’t even know who the damn father is) is tired! Brothas wear condoms and sistas practice birth control!
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That’s why i keep my shit WRAPPED!
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That’s why i keep my shit WRAPPED! –> I COSIGN DAWG! LMAO!
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@Tracy, WTH..
Black Women can’t win.. If these men were held more accountable then many women would not be left w/the burden of being a single mother..
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Both parties should use Birth Control.. it’s not just one person’s responsibility!
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So the question is, why are men comfortable “dating” their baby mama’s for 10 years and never making it official, ->Why do women continue to date these men for 10 years if it is not official? when they determine that’s enough! then these men won’t get away with it!
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Men DO NOT only have sex with women they consider marriage material. Alotta men are fucking women they just don’t wanna marry.
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Alotta men are fucking women they just don’t wanna marry.
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then wear a condomn damnit! or don’t fuck em! it’s that simple!
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@Broiwn, multiple kids by multiple men –is just asking for problems period!
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GTFOH, alotta women fuckin these men n gettin pregnant cause they think it will lead to marriage. If a man don’t want yo ass he don’t want you!
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GTFOH, alotta women fuckin these men n gettin pregnant cause they think it will lead to marriage. If a man don’t want yo ass he don’t want you!
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as stupid as you sound unfortunately sometimes, this is triue!
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alotta women fuckin these men n gettin pregnant cause they think it will lead to marriage.
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It’s a sad state of affairs about the multiple fathers in the black community. I think a lot of black women (may) think if they get pregnant then the man will marry them. Doesn’t work ladies! Sex and marriage are two different situations.
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Here’s an idea how bout, no matter what race you are…. don’t have sex unless you’re married and intend on being married the rest of your life.
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Morning Fam,
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I know ya’ll ain’t jst gonna ignore me..
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Morning Daisy…
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Morning Daisy Boo!
Morning Fam.
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Good Morning Daisy
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Whaddup people.
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Morning Daisy and erbody else
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Wassup Daisy. Hey Fam.
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Morning all.
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whaddup, whaddup, whaddup fam
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Morning ceo fam.
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Morning Daisy, Joanne, Brown, Sane, Slick, QTip, Nicole, Ace, Random, and 2Thick!
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Morning people
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good morning fam!
I’m happy 🙂 as hail cuz the Lakers WHAT? LOST!!!!
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Morning!
@Ant, me too, Kobe that ole old beady eyed bastard
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GOOD DAY I SAID GOOD FUKN DAY PEOPLES!!!
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Morning,
@Anthony, I’m glad they lost! Their arrogant azzes needed to get a reality check….especially Kobe…
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Go Mavs!!! All the way!!!!
Morning Daisy! Morning everyone.
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Moanin y’all 🙂
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MORNING FAM!
SHOUT OUT TO THE CELTICS for that win over the HEAT 🙂
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Morning CEO Fam! Hope all the ladies had a blessed Mother’s Day.
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Whaddup Doe………..How bout dem Lakers
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Good morning all
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Afternoon all.
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wassup erbody.
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Hello everyone. 🙂
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afternoon fam
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wassup people.
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Good afternoon ceo family
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hello!!!!!!!!!! Just checkin in!
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hey felicia, daisy, joanne, yvonne, keewee, q, nicole, sane and erbody else.
whatz good people.
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WHADDUP!
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hey people.
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afternoon ceo family.
I know alotta women besides black ones who have 3 and 4 kids by different men. this is an indiviadual choice not racial.
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hey everyone.
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These studies always find the NEGATIVE to say or study about black people/black women. I know a whole lot of white females who have different kids by different men so their studies are bullshit! We are all not having mutiple babies by different men.
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I know a whole lot of white females who have different kids by different men so their studies are bullshit!
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I agree people are people and we all do the same things.
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Education is the key in making smart choices regarding SEX n CHILDREN that will effect the rest of your life.
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Educated women from all groups tend to have one partner unless they are divorced or widowed. Less educated women have babies at a much younger age, seduced by the bling from some older punk who will never be a father
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The key is to stay on your kids ass until they graduate. If they can’t afford college send their azzes to the military. 3,4,5 kids with no mate is pure misery.
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NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN HAVE BABIES OUT OF WEDLOCK.
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NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN HAVE BABIES OUT OF WEDLOCK.
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The study is not saying ALL but the majority!
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Yes and white women are having more abortions than black women too.
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Yes and white women are having more abortions than black women too.
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Pink, I agree. I believe there are more White women versus women of color who have abortions. But, if we believe the information that the media reports, it’s the other way around.
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Yes and white women are having more abortions than black women too.
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@Pink, I agree. I believe there are more White women having abortions versus black women having them.
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Most of these women with 4, 5, 6 baby daddy’s are ho’s with no flesh of self control. and these men with an equal amount of 5, 6 baby mama’s are whores too. let’s point the finger at both parties.
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wow…..this is a grim reality.
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wow…..this is a grim reality.
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yeah for those who chose to live it!
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wow…..this is a grim reality.
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yeah for those who chose to live it!
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I agree, life is about choices. If you want have unprotected sex with every tom, dick and harry be ready to live with the consequences. even if that means 4 n 5 babies from 4 n 5 different daddies.
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Erykah Badu has 3 different babies by 3 different men
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Let’s Do more RESEARCH people. Then we can decide for ourselves. Simply because it’s reported by the media don’t make it so. Peace! and Blessings!!
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less available men so some women will accept anything.
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less available men so some women will accept anything.
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“less available men”
Realy? That’s an excuse for different baby dadies?
You sounds like an oxymoron to me.
And, don’t tell me there’s a shortage of good men!
Cause, that tell’s me you mothers haven’t been doing shit!
Different baby daddies is as personal a choice as choosing abortion.
Shame and scandal!
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Far too many women in these communities pump out multiple children from multiple men, and very often neither of these ‘parents’ have the ability (or even intention) of supporting these children financially or emotionally.
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