May 9, 2011 by The ReadyWriter
Yeah., this is the same conversation with a different title.
According to the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, 1 in 5 American Moms have kids with different birth fathers. And as usual this new study shows that black women have multiple father family structures.
Also according to this study, 59 percent of black women have children with more than one father, while Hispanics come in second place at 35 percent and whites come in last at 22 percent.
Esteemed psychologist of the “Today Show” and resident psychologist of VH-1’s “Daddy Day Camp” Dr. Jeff Gardere, sees it “as a phenomenon based not just on poverty and racism, but more on the issues of lower marriage rates, higher divorce rates, less available men who are willing to totally commit and women who can either go it alone or manage the situation with multiple fathers.”
I think I can speak for most black women that no one plans to have children by different men. For many of these women, the children produced with different men occur in unplanned pregnancies.
Dr. Jeff Gardere said there is a flip side to this issue is, black men will date the Mother of their children for years with no intent to marry them. These men love their children and take care of their responsibilities, but when it comes to making the relationships they have with their baby mama’s official, there’s a lot of backpedaling.
So the question is, why are men comfortable “dating” their baby mama’s for 10 years and never making it official, causing many of these kids to be born out-of-wedlock? Growing up in single parent households.