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And the study is saying, this may be true especially for African-American couples.
The survey of religion, race and relationships found that African-Americans attend church more as couples compared to members of other racial and ethnic groups. This is according to the August issue of The Journal of Marriage and Family.
“Without prayer, black couples would be doing significantly worse than white couples,” said W. Bradford Wilcox, co-author of the study and the director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia.
In addition to worshipping together, African-Americans were found to be more likely than non-Hispanic whites, to participate in prayer and Scripture studies at home.
In general, researchers found that, people in same-faith relationships and partners, who attended services regularly were more satisfied with their relationship.
What’s your opinion on this? And do you believe this study to be true?
Conversations Of A Sistah 
What’s your opinion on this? And do you believe this study to be true?
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well this depends. R U talking bout those couples who may be shacking up too?
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Do U want answers from only the MARRIED FOLK here on your blog???
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I think what this study really points to is couples that put time and effort into their marraige will have a much lower rate of divorce. I think praying together gets couples to turn off the tv, the music, the crapberries, the computers, the texting and all the other distractions of life and focus on each other. I think having a healthy sex life is another way to spend time with each other.
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Do I think prayer is the only way to acheive spending time together?? Not at all. I have many non relgious friends that put a lot of effort into their marraige.
And it’s not all about Prayer either.
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I do think couples that spend quality time with each other will have better relationships. If pray helps couples meet that goal, more power to them.
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Wow!! I’ve been married 24 years without a prayer.
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Wow!! I’ve been married 24 years without a prayer.
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well whoopdy DOO for U!
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Wow!! I’ve been married 24 years without a prayer.
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Oh somebody is praying……..
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I have come to the conclusion that the leading cause of divorce is marriage.
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I have come to the conclusion that the leading cause of divorce is marriage.
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🙂 LMAO @ Toejam.,You STUPID!
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I’m not really surprised that a shared delusion could be seen as a reason for two people to stay together. It makes sense.
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I’m not really surprised that a shared delusion could be seen as a reason for two people to stay together. It makes sense.
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@Tyish, R U saying U don’t believe in God?
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Tra, IDK -What’s the take-home lesson here?
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One might test the hypothesis here: “Families in which both parents are atheists are more stable than those in which one is an atheist and the other is a regular churchgoer.” With that said: It could just as well be “Families that disbelieve together, stay together”.
C’mon now.
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Religion is nice. But this theory is far from realistic!
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Most people of faith are positive in their out look while most atheists are angry cynics.
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People who pray together stay together and people who stay together live longer and people who go to church live longer so read it an weep haters.
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@BAMMA,
You are So full of hate, anger and judgment for one who is claiming faith to have a positive impact on people. damn!
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Some couples still LIE, CHEAT, and LIE but they still stay together.
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Some couples still LIE, CHEAT, and LIE but they still stay together.
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Because *LIARS* MARRY a likeness of themselves. A *LIAR* will hook-up and marry another LIAR! Thus making them compatible. Funny…My sister Theresa and I was just talking about this last night Lisa. 🙂
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So Tra is this the reason for the post?
BTW, what’s up?
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So Tra is this the reason for the post?
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NOT AT ALL!
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Hi Tracy!!!! 🙂
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Trace!!!! What’s good baby?????
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Some couples still LIE, CHEAT, and LIE but they still stay together.
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Then turn around and they forgive each other.
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Christians will repent about their sins though.
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Christians will then repent about their sins though.
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Yep then turn around and repeat the same sin again. I was fucking this christian chick., she would let me fuck her on Saturday, then she’d be in church crying for forgiveness on Sunday., then back in my damn bed on Monday.
Case closed!
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🙂 LMAO@ Man!
repent..absolve..repeat.
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Some couples still LIE, CHEAT, and LIE but they still stay together.
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Because *LIARS* MARRY a likeness of themselves. A *LIAR* will hook-up and marry another LIAR! Thus making them compatible. Funny…My sister Theresa and I was just talking about this last night Lisa.
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@TRA.,and this is true!! I hate LIARS and if my man were one we’d be DIVORCED!
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Hi Tracy!
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Hi Ms. Bell.
I see you U are in and out of these comments today. 🙂
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Another very deceptive headline supporting religion and suggesting that prayer can improve ones life or sustain a marriage. By separating the black population from other ethnic groups the study has simply distorted the facts.
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Regarding religious participation, according to several studies, including a detailed survey by the Barna Group, those who identify themselves as being very religious – like Evangelicals and Baptists – have the highest divorce rate of any Christian denomination. Oops there it is!
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I studied this issue and the group with the highest rate of divorce is people who get married before 21 years of age. The divorce rate among this group is something like 80%. The divorce rate among people who wait until 28 years of age or more goes way down. In other words, you need to get out of your adololesent stage (me me me me me) before you can handle a relationship.
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As a Christian, I think the church places a TON of pressure and guilt not to have pre maritual sex. So a lot of Christians get married young to have “proper relations” and end up in divorce 2 years latter.
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As a Christian, I think the church places a TON of pressure and guilt not to have pre maritual sex. So a lot of Christians get married young to have “proper relations” and end up in divorce 2 years latter.
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TRUE!
That’s what gospel man H.Walker said of his marriage to “now they are divorced” wife Monique.
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As a Christian, I think the church places a TON of pressure and guilt not to have pre maritual sex. So a lot of Christians get married young to have “proper relations” and end up in divorce 2 years latter.
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To be honest, I didn’t go to church much between 18 – 27 because of this issue. Why? Because I had to have SEX. Damn that!
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I am not a Christian nor a church goer but the point is not about going to church but praying together in your relationship vs not praying together within the same faith.
Hi Ms. Bell. 🙂
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So, I guess if these couples also believe in the tooth fairy and the easter bunny their devotion to each other exponentially increases…WHATEVA!
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Ask questions and talk people before you COMMITT and get that ring!
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I would hope you would asked a few more questions before you got the ring.
More importantly KNOW the person you are going to marry before you committ to marraige.
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ANY shared purpose and comittment is good for any relationship.
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ANY shared purpose and comittment is good for any relationship.
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well put…And…I agree w/U Mark!
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Couple who drink constantly, tend to be happier. 🙂
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Couple who drink constantly, tend to be happier.
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until they turn 47 something, develop cirrhosis of the liver and after having squandered their lives maybe.
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my friends who are pot heads are still 2gether. and I don’t think they know what prayer is.
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I can’t speak for everyone else, but I know what faith in God has done for me and my hubby and our marriage! We are better than ever and we KNOW God did it. Prayer definitely works and has changed things in our lives and the lives of others around us.
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@Bamma,
You go girl!!!! There is a God and he does make things happen in our lives’
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Beautiful. Damn!!! Can’t wait to establish that w/someone special.
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If it works and doesn’t hurt anybody, its great.
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Good for you! Keep on praying Bama Jama!!!!
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It’s important to mention that, recently statistics also shows that almost the same percentage of African-Americans actually gave up their faith to become atheists. Little by little humanity is recovering their own conscious, and believe me, there is nothing better than to be the landlord of your own head. Skepticism is the first step to recover your reason.
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It’s important to mention that, recently statistics also shows that almost the same percentage of African-Americans actually gave up their faith to become atheists. Little by little humanity is recovering their own conscious, and believe me, there is nothing better than to be the landlord of your own head. Skepticism is the first step to recover your reason.
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Couples are going through HELL right now and the last thing they wanna here is about PRAYER. A Lot of families killed themselves in the last year or so alone all because they have lost their jobs and all hope of things to get better. So not everybody is believing in this paryer KICK when they are getting NO RESULTS.
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How about we each choose to believe based on our own reasoning, experiences and study, and we try to show some respect for each other by not assuming that those who don’t share our own belief system (and, yes, you have one) is stoopit.
How bout that!
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My guess is that they would have the same result had they correlated marriage longevity with, say, going to the movies together or going to restaurants together.
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My guess is that they would have the same result had they correlated marriage longevity with, say, going to the movies together or going to restaurants together.
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AnnMarie, that has nothing to w/compatibility or one’s faith.
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“Without prayer, black couples would be doing significantly worse than white couples”
Yeah OK*
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With prayer black couples will be significantly poor. That’s a fact. But the preacher, in the other hand, is laughing all the way to the bank. If you still not sure, next time you go to church observe the material belongings of your god… I mean, your preacher.
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With prayer black couples will be significantly poor. That’s a fact. But the preacher, in the other hand, is laughing all the way to the bank. If you still not sure, next time you go to church observe the material belongings of your god… I mean, your preacher.
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🙂 LOL but you still not right!
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Not in our case. 37 years together (32 of them married) and not one prayer between us.
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same here, congrats 🙂
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I have these standards about not sleeping with anyone who thinks it’s a dirty thing to do. Never mind marrying them. 🙂 Some ‘faiths’ aren’t compatible, I think. Some get along swimmingly, but those with the problems usually *are* the problems.
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When our respective clergypersons refused to marry us, we took that as a sign–not to give up each other, but to give up our respective religions. Worked out great for us.
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No amount of facts will sway you once you have been washed with the blood of the lamb. (i.e. brainwashed with the BullShit of Paul. 🙂
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As to prayer helping. It does. But, that is not the only thing required. With or without it a good marriage requires work, real work and a 100% commitment from both partners.
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Arlene.,Be that as it may, in today’s society it is a wonder anything helps to keep couples together.
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There is really devout governor in South Carolina. He prayed all the way to Argentina. He even took his prayer buddy to New York to meet his soul mate.
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when dat “Johnson” wanna wander, prayer won’t help. when that poohnahnah wanna another pole to climb prayer won’t help!
Get real people!
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when dat “Johnson” wanna wander, prayer won’t help. when that poohnahnah wanna another pole to climb prayer won’t help!
Get real people!
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BOY!!!! You NEED JESUS!!!!
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when dat “Johnson” wanna wander, prayer won’t help. when that poohnahnah wanna another pole to climb prayer won’t help!
Get real people!
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BOY!!!! You NEED JESUS!!!!
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And so do couples who have threesomes regularly.
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Couples who go to Church are more likely to feel like they HAVE to stay together due to conditioning.
Now I’d like to see if couples who pray together and stay together are also happy together. JMO*
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Superstition (religion) does not lead to a successful marriage, any more than it prevents crime.
Nobody will know whether or not a marriage has been truly successful until both parties are dead.
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Nobody will know whether or not a marriage has been truly successful until both parties are dead.
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@DEEDEE.. 🙂 I’m LMAO!!!!! That’s funny!!! 🙂
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It’s called madness of two. it doesn’t matter if its prayer, gambling, drugs, etc. If your mad about each other it’ll work.
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Prayer usually leads to the destruction of others instead of oneself.
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I agree with the headline. The most intimate thing a husband and wife can do is pray together. TRY IT and see. Men should be praying for their wives as often as possible. She will THANK YOU for it, trust me.
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I thought the most intimate a man and woman can do together is indulge in their respective deviant sexual fantasies.
But I guess prayer is close enough. WTH?
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I thought the most intimate a man and woman can do together is indulge in their respective deviant sexual fantasies.
But I guess prayer is close enough. WTH?
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It’s closer than you think. Both involve calling out to god!!!! LOL.
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The bottom line is this: Couples have a hard time talking to each other so when they pretend to talk to God, they spill the beans to each other so they can create a line of communication by proxy.
🙂 I’m LOL but it’s true.
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Some of these comments are crazy.
I’m asking that Blog Queen give Us a new post!
To hell wit this!!!
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The “Power” in prayer is so awesome. Especially when two come together in “God’s” name.
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Couples with strong common interests are more likely to stay together. The whole religion thing well, IDK about that.
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Paula White* DIVORCED
Juanita Bynum* Crazy as hell and DIVORCED
Bishop Thomas Weeks* Once married to Juanita DIVORCED!!!
BeBe Winans* DIVORCED
Hezakiah Walker* DIVORCED
Jamal Bryant* A DIVORCED HO!
Feel free to add to the married religious freaks lists people!
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Nicoley Cole, That’s a really good point!
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My personal experience tells me that couples that don’t pray together, also stay together. But we are godless.
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Some of you people are being NEGATIVE about the topic here.
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We are not all being negative. I’m for whatever works. I think some people here took it to mean that couples who pray together stay together MORE than those who don’t…….and that, I believe, is totally false.
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Religious people might do stay together.
Not because they want to…but because of ” THE shame” of an divorce.
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Sure, they stay together and have lovely extra marital affairs. many of them with hot co worshippers.
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I have a very wealthy uncle who was very active in the church and donated millions…. he and his wife went almost 3 years living in the same house not speaking to each other. But on sunday morning they were always seen going to church together, all smiles.
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Happily married for 21 years and have yet to pray with my spouse. We don’t feel that incantations make a relationship stronger.
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My husband and I pray together and YES we are a newly married couple. 🙂
He forgets out of habit but I insist. And I pray we will remain 2gether and be happy practicing our faith as we grow older. 🙂
OK so I’m in love. 🙂
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Aww Tabatha, we know sweetie. 🙂
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OK so I’m in love.
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I am TOO BABY *SMOOCHES*
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who gives a fuck what floats someone elses mutual boats…really!
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Gay couples who sing broadway tunes in duets 2gether, then fuck each other up the ass probably stay 2gether even longer.
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🙂 LMAO@ EastCoastNicca
“Gay couples”… Prop 8 – The Musical
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Evangelicals preach that faith and belief are the foundations of a good marriage. “The family that prays together, stays together” is one example. Marital guilt is a major industry for religion. It begins with guilt about how you are not living up to some biblical ideal from two guys named Paul and Jesus who supposedly never married; then you feel guilty about the way your sex life is going when your spouse loses interest.
It’s one guilt after the other. So please!
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Faith, love, and hope go together, people!
And they all come from GOD, fools.
It is always interesting to me that the atheist crowd think that people who believe are motivated by fear, dreading, and guilt, when it is quite the opposite.
It is motivation driven by love for God, love for each other, and hope, great hope , that our faith will come to fruition. When you love someone, you love God for giving you that opportunity to do so.
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I think the study serves to repel potential home wreckers. Who go after a man or a woman knowing they r married.
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Your title Tracy Bell, is a straight line intent for sarcasm. You love to start trouble on ya blog.
You are as messy as they come 🙂 lol.
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Marriage is the #1 cause of divorce. LOL.
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Marriage is the #1 cause of divorce
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And life is the #1 cause of death. Your point????
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Yeah couples are praying 2gether alright: They saying “Please God, just make this other person go away.”
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Been married for almost 50 years – never prayed together once.
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Everybody’s priorities concerning what’s important in their relationships are different. Prayer is not on the top of my list but I’ve done well thus far.
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True . True . True .
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