I received an email from a loyal reader who wanted to share with me, eight reasons why I should marry a white man, instead of holding out for an African-American brotha.
Warning: his reasons may piss you off, but everyone is clearly entitled to their own opinion (s).
Hey Tracy,
Have you ever considered dating outside of your race? Black men are doing it and seeing in other women what they don’t see in their own.
I just wanna ask you baby, what are you waiting for? A solid committment and the ring?
Let me give you eight reasons IMO, why you should set your sights on Mr. white, in order to make it right!
- If he’s gay he’s going to tell you, not be on the down low and have you trying to figure that shit out.
- White men have a stronger family structure, they’ll take care of you, not look for you to take care of them. They come from a 2 parents household (like you and me).
- Your education will be respected not intimidating.
- White men don’t have illegitimate children all over the globe with 2, and 3 baby mammas.
- White men understand what defines manhood and that’s minus a thug life.
- They spend money they have, and are not going broke trying to impress you.
- White men don’t live in your past but will embrace you as their future
- and lastly Ms. Bell, white men are secure by a women’s strong ambitions, not threatened.
Stop waiting for a black prince charming because he’s never going to come. It’s time to taste the unknown baby.
Ok CEO family, I’m looking for you to sound off!! I wanna know what you think about hooking up outside of one’s race?
Conversations Of A Sistah 
Oh hell no!!!!! they smell like dog when they wet. they nasty. they never get cold, they always hot. i’m sorry but i could neva see myself kissing and/or fcuking a white dude!
hell no.
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Mrs Green i respect you so much for saying that.
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oh yeah tracy and fuck this dude, hold out for YOUR BLACK PRINCE, trust me they do exist!!!!
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@Tamala, I fell in love with and married a wonderful black man but I always had my options open for a good man of ANY COLOR! I’m all about who treats me right, who has the same goals and values in life, who knows how to treat a woman, will make a wonderful father to our children, be a good provider and be a God-fearing and overall GOOD HUMAN BEING.
That can come in any color so as someone here said, DO YOU Trace! LOVE HAS NO COLOR!!!!
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what i wanna know is, who the hail is the loyal reader??? he must be white cause he think his letter was alright. but reader, IF YOU READIN THIS, your reasons are WEAK!!!!! WEAK AS HAIL ya hear me? you can take those 8 reasons and shove them so far up ya azz!!!
Oh I’m sorry, i gotta RESPECT your opinion but hell NO!!!! i’ll wait on a black no good mudderfucker any day b4 i lay down wit a mr. white.
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@Starr – well damn!!!
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LMAO @ Starr, you’re a real hoot!
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Tracy girl please!!!! I live in a predominantly white area and I can tell you white men are just as screwed up as Black men its just better hidden. So the readers letter is bullshit!!!
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Is all that azz yours Yvonne? lol
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@Yvonne, lol at your gravi. wow!
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I’am engaged to a white man, and I have been with black men….. i do agree with some points in his letter but NO man is PERFECT black or white.
And things like ignorance, insecurites, bad decision making and bad credit come in all shapes and colors. But sadly his letter did make some valid points.
alot of the problems listed above are found in the african american community. don’t bash the guy because he pointed out SOME facts.
What’s this “READERS” motive anyway???
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If dude is trying to get with the “BLOG QUEEN” just try and get with her, leave the choice (about his ethnicity) up to her without trying to tare down the black man with his issues. not all black men got baby’s mamas and come from 1 parent homes. his letter is FUCKED up and i’m glad trace put him on blast!!!!
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Quite possibly the most ignorant, narrow-minded thing I’ve read in some time.
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he just want Tra that’s all. GTFOH!!!
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LMAO! his letter should have been printed on 2-Ply Paper so i could WIPE MY AZZ wit it!!! This nicca full of shit!!!!
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Dear loyal reader,
Dumbasses exist in every race!!!! Prime example yo stupid ass letter in this post!!!
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Every black dude aint Bobby Brown and every white mtherfer aint Brad Pitt (who cheated on his wife and left her for his HO..whoops) guess he’s a mr. right huh reader? GTFOH wit ya shit!!!
Tra, start taring these dumb ass letters up!!!!! send them to me.
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ya reader is racist Tra. and he’s amongst us right? wow.
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Readers letter is soo foolish and is based SOLELY on gendered stereotypes of black men.
what? Is he jealous because Tracy would neva even consider a white man?
I never thought that I would HAVE to defend the dignity of black men or attempt to theorize on behavioral differences.
Dude need to STOP with these unfounded, media based generalizations about why black women would fare better with a white men.
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I know too many good black men and too many trifling white men to believe that any of his generalized statements are true.
He’s full of shit!!!!!!
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HELLO Yvonne!!!!
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Please stop coming down on the brotha’s. We aren’t all bad. And besides white men have been dominating and raping the black man and the black women for centuries. So now you want to give them a license to so!!! GTFOH READER!!!!
Tra aint buying into the bs.
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Black women, I say to you, stop fightingg your black men and come together. And please Readers stop writing this ridiculus letters to Tracy!!!.
A person, whether black or white, should be with the person they feel most comfortable with, leave the race out of it. Love is what matters.
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false impressions people!!!
white men are NOT better than black men!!! That is a straight up blatant lie from the very pit of hell ok!
I know damn well a white man aint better than my daddy and i want somebody who LOOK like him2.
white is bright but PALE FROM THE PITT OF HELL!
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lol @ Nicole. I know that white I mean RIGHT!!! lol.
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LMAO!!! 🙂 Tracy just tryna SET US OFF!!!!
This is the most racist piece of crap I have ever read. How can this person be so ignorant?
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He/she’s a READER! and I’m dying to know who it is???
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Wow. I must agree with some of my fellow bloggers here. This “READER” don’t give the black man any kind of credit. He don’t know that there are many successful black men out here. I know plenty of screwed up white men (George Bush) and the many politicians of the world. But this fool basically knocked the Blackman down! damn that’s IGNORANT!!! and ignorance comes from SIMPLY NOT KNOWING!!!
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I am a black woman and I have no qualms about interracial dating, but I find this letter to Tracy narrow-minded and ig’nant (yes, I said ig’nant) mess of a story.
In an ideal world, there should be only ONE reason for a black woman to date a non-black man: LOVE.
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hell and the BLACK WOMAN should even AVOID that!
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I’m sorry. I’m not done.
I am ALL for dating outside of my race but I know too much to believe this nonsense. I know white men on the down low, white men who are terrible with money and have bad credit, white men who only date and therefore only cheat on black women and white men with anger issues. Dating a white man is not the promised land. It’s interesting that so many articles, magazines and newslets want to encourage black women to date white men but what makes you think that most white men want to date us?
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Hello Ebony! I agree!
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They can’t handle our hips or our big beautiful lips. they tired of kissing and feelin on cilicone. they scared 2taste the real thing. I don’t want no white boy. sorry but don’t.
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Like some of the comments its racist and white men hide their shit better. a white man doesnt have the ability to see past your color. he can love and kill u at the same time and get away with it.
so um, please!
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Tracy,
This letter is an abomination. Homeboy IS entitled to his opinions BUT…..he really needs to come back to earth.
Like the gravi Yvonne. lmao. 🙂
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IMO, it’s about WHO YOU FALL IN LOVE With!!! Black, white or otherwise.
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HOLD UP! HOLD UP! WTF???
Not ALL black men are ignorant. And not all lily white men are saviors!!! READER GTFOH tryna HIT TRACE UP.. I don’t like that shit!
Trace next time forward that shit to me, I’ll handle it!!!!!
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this is disgusting…for real yo. and i came from a 2 parent household nicca.
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I’m LOL….wondering how this “READER” can possibly generalize ALL black men? Sounds like he may have had some bad [personal] experiences and still bitter.
And on that note, when yall (the ceo fam) finish taring him a new azz hole with your opposing comments he may reconsider his thought process and know that white ain’t all that bright.
carry on. lol.
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REALLY?!
As a black man, I’m getting real sick and tired of articles, media and internet messages like this, bashing my persuasion. People have preferences, but this “READER” don’t have to demean a group of humans to have them.
That tells us., those who LURK us HERE ain’t necessarily DOWN with us.
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I agree w/you BBallen., re: a person’s perfrence. It’s not that serious. People can date who they want. This is so stupid… what works for me might not necessarily work for you. DO YOU Tra.
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It’s up to Tracy to CHOOSE her MATE. and I seriously doubt dude will be white. justsaying.
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I know he won’t be white!!!
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@BB, SHUT DA HELL UP FOR REAL YO!!!!!
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As a black man that literally nullifies nearly every assumption this reader has made, I’m insulted. So in case your READING “READER” fuck you!!
and don’t have not nan baby or bad credit.
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This is a damn shame. Sounds like a lame attempt to bad mouth black men. This is not how black women see their fathers, brothers, cousins and male friends?
Sounds nothing like any man in my family and that’s the truth. With that being said, maybe it’s the company “READER” keeps.
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respectfully, i’d encourage dude to reconsider his approach.
pulling the white man is better than the balck man is some weak azz old shit!!!!
He might think he’s pointing out issues black men need to address and encouraging open mindedness re: interracial dating.
Please the black man need the black women’s support. not abandonment, unfair comparisons and generalizations.
peace. Ya’ll be easy on em now. 🙂
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*rolling eyes*
Date who u want to date blog queen.
Reader we dont need you to tell us shit. If a shorty aint checkin for u-find u some one else.
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It’s true, if the black man can date outside his race, why can’t the black woman????? If that’s the person’s preference. The reader is full of shit yall, he didn’t even have to go there.
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I CO-SIGN Civil!
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Please.
I AM TELLING YOU FOR FREE, DATE WHO YOU WANT. IT DOESN’T MATTER AS LONG AS THEY TREAT YOU RIGHT AND YOU ARE HAPPY.
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I agree with you Val.
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Well, Why should I waste my time in hopes of finding a black man who is on my level when I can meet other men who are and who are wanting the same things that I do?
I have dated a wide variety of black men and the overall thing that they have in common is that they are indecisive and still carry a boy-like mentality. They tend to lack any long-term goals, have little motivation to better their situation, and have anger issues that I am in no hurry to nurture.
Their sexual motive is clear, and if not me, then someone else. It seems they have a one track mind and cannot stray from a certain way of thinking.
I would LOVE to find a black man who is loyal, honest, protective, responsible and hard-working. I want to bring beautiful black children into this world with a black man.
But, I cannot raise him, too. I want a man who already knows. I want a man who understands what it is to have a strong family foundation, the importance of obtaining knowledge (books and life), and have qualities that are strong and present.
It seems like society is breeding our black men to become weak, to become effeminate. They are no longer strong enough to keep up a challenge with black women. They are no longer able to mentally handle the ups and downs of being our strong protector. They run to white girls, where its easy. and less challenging. They can run the show without any pushback. They have become weak…..
….and I do not want a weak man. So, if I have to date outside my race to find a man who is strong enough for me, then, it is what it is.
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You go gurl!!!
Well said!!!
But..Um….me thinks me wanna stick to my black men forever!!!
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@Olivijah J., I love black men too much 2 go white. and I don’t find other races attractive…so…i went black and neva went back!!!!!!
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@Ebony, that’s the problem some black men don’t share that same loyalty.
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well good for yo azz. i hope a real strong robust nicca will eventually be checkin for you., black or white.
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don’t do da white man trace it’s a trap!!! they always wanna enslave us one way or another. take that letter and burn it girl!
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i agree! no one needed to write a book about interracial relationships for me to know that I can date who I want. This black woman enjoys MEN… i prefer black men… but when they are hard to come by all shades of the rainbow still qualify. GET OVER IT fam.
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black men been dating rainbow style FOREVER… so who cares. love who u want, as long as they treat u right and make u happy!
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That’s what I’m saying! *A HO* is *A HO* is *A HO* is *A HO*. whether he’s black, white, asian or blue! There’s a no good in every race of people, therefore that should NOT be the criteria for love and happiness. If he treat you right and worship the ground you walk on, that’s all that matters for me.
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@Ashanti, i hope that, *A Ho* is a *HO* shit is meaning both men and women.? Cause women can be ho’s too now.
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Love who you want to love. Just remember how horribly they age….LOL!!!
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and we all know that white people age horribly!!!
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@Ashanti, that’s so not nice. 🙂 black is beautiful.
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Tra, who’s the couple up top? is this a picture our “READER” sent to you?? They both look half white. light bright…..
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lol @ starr, you da damn messy one in da ceo’s house. just damn messy!!!!!!!!
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Hey date who you want to date and love who loves you, However let’s see if Black Women will get as much hate as Black Men who jump the fence. SMH.
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Tracy, Do the damn thing girl —> I did!
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what does that meam Mrs.? You got a white man?
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LOL…No…. but I’ve tasted the rainbow. When you get that itch you gotta scratch it.
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There is nothing wrong with dating or marrying outside your race but this letter is an all or nothing message!!!
At some point we should still care about our own culture and image and also should want to keep that alive and well… There is this separation message going on in the minds of many and I don’t like it…
There is nothing wrong with being black and loving blackness we are still a community that need to survive for our own people, image and race… Why do we adapted to this BS as if it’s in our DNA, love U and be the best U that you can be and stop hating each other…
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Any Black person (man or woman) who dates outside of their race is contributing to the eventual disappearance of Black people.
Over time all this interracial dating will result in no 100% African American children which in turn will lead to the absence on 100% African American people.
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Good point Brown. a bunch of mixed babies and people.
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@ Brown, that’s what I’m saying., a mixed race of people like the couple up top. who said that’s beautiful? I wanna see 100% blackness not no half white couples and half breeeded babies.
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again…@Starr, UMMM I AM NOT ATTRACTED TO WHITE MEN NOR DO I WANT ANY MIXED BABIES…So…
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Well Tamala, good for you. Trust me, we hear you.
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@Brown., the problem is, a lot of black women are not attracted to white men. Most black women have a “natural” preference for a black man. But as times change and the availability of eligible and desirable black men continue to decline, black women need to seriously consider dating outside of what is the “norm.”
Caucasian men are not the only other option. There are many eligible men from vast ethnic backgrounds who would be suitable and available.
Janet Jackson did it!!!
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Don’t no black woman want no white man unless he got sum money. Case n point @Yvonne Janet Jackson.
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We are the only race not to recognize attacks on us. If there aren’t enough black men, it is by design.
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Does the white man really want the black woman? If this was true why is it talked about so much?? Wouldn’t it be natural?…
Just because he has the balls to tell U?
I mean I would date a white man but not because he is white because he understands me as a woman and totally respected who I wanted to become which is the same things that I want from any race of man…
It’s not like they are really looking for us so what’s up with this letter?
I’ve heard white men say they would pluck a black woman but not marry her or take her home…
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UMMM I AM NOT ATTRACTED TO WHITE MEN NOR DO I WANT ANY MIXED BABIES…SO –> NEXT!!!!!
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Hello……say it again gurl!!! lol.
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Cant no cracker handle a black woman better than a brother, we all know that.
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LOL!!!! @ Ace., You AIN’T never LIED!!!
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Don’t no black woman want no white man unless he got sum money. Case n point @Yvonne Janet Jackson.
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@Ace, Man & Zion, a cracker damn sure can’t hold our sistahs down in da bed like the black man holds it down!!! we got the rythem. ain’t no sistah teaching yt ha-da dance in da sheets… gtfoh. lol.
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@BBallen, and can’t no white woman hold down a brother “in the bed” better then a sista” that message works both ways niccas..
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ok let me BREAK-Up the all boys club here! I would urge any Black woman to do what ever it is she feels she need to do in order to find the love, support and acceptance that she needs and deserves…I love a good Black man but lets face it fellas, it’s NOT just about “holdin it down in da bed” let’s keep this shit real!!!
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@CB, Oh I would love and support any sista who was my shorty! and still handle my bittness between the sheets. sex between 2people in love is mind blowin.
@Ashanti, I wouldn’t know. I don’t DESIRE the white becky’s of this world. lol.
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@All, I’m lol and enjoying the convo but…the bottom line is this letter to Tracy from a “reader”.
Tracy L. aka “Blog Queen” is EXTREMELY *SECURE* in her own skin. and I know for a fact that she WOULD NEVER date a WHITE MAN!!!
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@Zion, IMO the letter is nothing more than a reminder to her that if black men can date interracially for years to say “look! you can do it too!”
I can’t remember once Tracy bitching about a black man being with a white woman up in this tip. her biggest passion are liars and cheaters. It’s the insecure black women who bitch and moan about it, when if they gon cross over to the white man they should just DO IT and STFU!
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@BB, I ain’t in no way crossing over but if I did and chose too that’s my business!! my point is just to add that the door SWINGS bth ways for both the black man and the black women regardless.
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@Zion, I agree with you 100% Trace ain’t down for no milk wit her tea., but i think it’s cute how the uncle tom reader tried. lol.
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@Ace, Never Never I love my sexxy chocolate black men can’t no body do it better!! I’d rather go through hell and back with my black brother than a white man.. what the hell do he (the white man) know about eating frosted flakes with water or making a wish sandwich nothing!!!!
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Listen up Reader, for the black women who have their hearts set on finding their ideal black soulmate/partner? they won’t lose hope! He’s out there even though, things may not be easy & very competitive nowadays,these men are indeed out there.
I think Tracy is patient & not too focused on it, after all, love comes when you least expect it. Love can’t be forced & if you’re open to dating? In which she is, ask her out & hopefully she may find you interesting.
In the meantime, please don’t dictate to her what kind of man is best for her.
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@Yvonne, I sooooo agree.
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Im my experience all the relationships I had with white men compared to black men……. the black men don’t measure up sorry! To much drama. I’m back on the dating horse right now and I’m hoping to round me up a George Clooney!
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@NurseBetty, well you go girl and good luck with that.
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@NurseBetty, See this is what I mean., bllACK WOMEN ACT SHITTY AND PICKY WITH YOUR OWN. WHEN YOU GO WITH SOMEONE OUTSIDE YOUR RACE YOU TREAT THEM BETTER!
It has been proven scientifically. Reverse your thinking and treat your own kind good. Raise standards for your own kind. If yall stop liking thugs and tolerating bullshit your frog will turn into a black prince of a better man!!
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TRACY WHOEVER WROTE THIS LETTER.. THEY NEED TO KNOW ITS 2010.
WHY DID WE EVEN NEED HIM TO TELL BLACK YOU AS A BLACK WOMAN TO DATE OTHER RACES.
IN THIS DAY N AGE – WERE GUYS ARE BEATING ,MURDERING AND CHEATING U BE WITH WHOEVER TREATS YOU GOOD. MOVING ON —->
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black men have been dating outside their race for years. too many black women are holding out for a black man and the reality is they aren’t doing the same for us.
Peace people.
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@ Amanda,
I know there are many cases of black men not doing what God called us to do, but check the stats. White Dudes, Asian Dudes and Latino’s do the same thing. Men rise to the standards of what our Women want. Set your standard high Sister and attract the Man you want, black or otherwise. Just take responsibility for the part you play.
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Lets not make this a big deal People!! You should date whoever you see fit to date., let’s stop making a big deal out of Black vs white! Just becuz the reader did doesn’t mean we have too.
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It’s not a bad thing to expand our horizons regarding race in relationships. You can still have your preference but if marriage is your ultimate goal, sometimes being open to other races might just be necessary.
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I think this could be said for both black men and black women. I know some brothas personally that date white, hispanic, and asian women cause they want a good haired, light skin baby. The reasons they date them is all excuses. I know what the real deal is… but they aint gonna say that cause they dont want to admit they hate themselves.
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Oh I have a feeling that most of the brothas that you’re talking about, are probably THROWBACKS anyway. SO NO HARM, NO FOUL!
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😦 DEAD! Damn Olivijah…It’s getting hot in here!
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@BigBelly, I feel you and I CO-SIGN!
I’m out good poeople have a good night!
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Good night all, I know some of us will pick this up in the AM. lol.
@Big Belly-I agree.
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@BigBelly, sounds like the brothas you know might’ve had a hard time with black women when they were younger. I’d be interested in seeing what he looks like, and where he grew up. A lot of black men get “tricked” into thinking that white is better, but what they fail to realize is that if the cops are ever called into a domestic situation, or a divorce occurs, that white woman is coming out on top.
This is usually when black men get that nigger WAKE UP CALL that comedian Paul Mooney often talks about. I am successful as well, but the white man IS NOT my savior, and NEVER will be–they are GREAT for business, but they REALLY DO THINK that they’re smarter than black people, and are EXTREMELY CONDESCENDING, sometimes subtle, sometimes OVERT! Something tells me that your friend may end up on the BLACK WAGON again and in the end…LOL
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@Zion,
Paul *SELL-OUT* Mooney ONLY DATE WHITES. so I’m sure he’s well aware of the “NIGGER WAKE UP CALL”
Do you date white?
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@Ashanti, That is NEWS to me. Does he date white men, or white women? Because everytime I see him, my *GAYDAR* smacks me right in the left temple. and he has a daughter go figure.
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Im gonna think positive, because i love me a good black man. and i hope to find one. im not gonna lie though, when i see a nice lookin brother in the store givin me the eye and a white girl comes from out of nowhere talkin bout honey are you ready? it irritates the hell out of me. and then he gives me that “sorry im stuck look”. i wanna slap the mess out of both of them LMAO!
But in all honesty though i don’t think good black men are scarce, i think they are lookin for a good black woman as well…
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@Brown, I hate that shit 2. and I give the look right back at him like, oh well stick with your prize. you missed out! ah ha!!!
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None of those 8 points made ANY sense to me; however why not try dating outside of your race diva? what do you have to lose? #fingerscrossed. I just hope he is FIIIIIIIIINNNNNNNNNNNNNNEEEEEEEEE and not some Bill gates looking dude but if he is a geek look alike please let him have Bill Gates money. And then hook me up w his Brother LOL LOL
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@Miss Rina, Oh HELL NAW!!!!!!! I don’t think so!!!
I aint nan near white. and would neva have it!!!
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“None of those 8 points made ANY sense to me”
@Miss Rina, me either but hey some opinions can be ignant as all hail!!!
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I still wanna know WHO the reader is??? mtherfer don’t have the gutts to show himself.
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“not some Bill gates looking dude but if he is a geek look alike please let him have Bill Gates money.” “And then hook me up w his Brother LOL LOL”
LMAO!!! That’s funny Miss Rina. I wonder if geeky guys are even Tra’s type??
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This article can kiss my big ole black AZZ.. from right to left and work the middle!!LOL! moving the fu-k on!!
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I’d like to respond in anger and say this guy is ignorant, but the truth hurts. Many of the points are true reguardless if they apply to all black men and we know they don’t. Unfortunately many do and that’s what makes us angry. But let’s face it, black women would not even consider a white man or any other race unless they were dissaticfied by the men they had and deicided to go “other”. On the service and from a far white men look ideal, but there are issues with both races so I think it depends on the person and who your heart accepts.
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