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“NJ Pastor Tell Married Members… To Ditch”

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Facebook!

Thou shalt not commit adultery. And thou also shalt not use Facebook.!!!

The Rev. Cedric Miller said 20 couples among the 1,100 members of his Living Word Christian Fellowship Church have run into marital trouble over the last six months after a spouse connected with an ex-flame over Facebook.

The Neptune, NJ pastor, is ordering about 50 married church officials to delete their accounts with the social-networking site or resign from their leadership positions.

At first he had asked, his married congregants to share their login information with their spouses, and now plans to suggest they give up Facebook altogether.

“I’ve been in extended counseling with couples with marital problems because of Facebook for the last year and a half,” he said. “What happens is someone from yesterday surfaces, it leads to conversations and there have been physical meet-ups. The temptation is just too great.”

On Sunday, he plans to “strongly suggest” that all married people stop using Facebook, lest they endanger their marriages.

“The advice will go to the entire church,” he said. “They’ll hear what I’m asking of my church leadership. I won’t mandate it for the entire congregation, but I hope people will follow my advice.”

Sorry people but I agree with Pastor Miller, people use Facebook as an opportunity to invite others to social gatherings, to share Scripture or talk about what went on at church, for businesses., etc. and those are all positive and worthwhile things but the downside can be just too great.

It’s an individual’s choice and an individual’s decision but a useful tool can become a trick of the enemy.

Oh and the picture represents what the Bible says: “if something causes you to sin, whether it’s your eye, hand or foot, you should cut it off, because it’s better to be blind or lame and going to Heaven than to have all your parts and end up going to Hell”

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94 thoughts on ““NJ Pastor Tell Married Members… To Ditch””

  2. Typical organized religion thinking.

    Instead of questioning whether the people involved are really suitable for positions of trust, remove their preferred method of being untrustworthy.

    Next.. he’ll need to order them to cancel their instant messaging and cellphone accounts. Just to be safe, better disconnect their home phones and take away their car keys as well.

    And Trace you agree with him????

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  3. Yeah Trace this is an individual choice cause I have one question: If said married couples lived close enough to old flames, what was to prevent them from randomly meeting at a shopping mall or community event even if they both have Facebook accounts? GTFOH!!!!

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    1. Question: Does Rev. Miller truly think his flock are indeed sheep who can’t think for themselves and/or face consequences of their actions?

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      2. That’s right @Anthony,
        Its not Facebook, its the person or marriage. If I see an old flame walking down the street and I hook up with her, are they going to tear up the streets? They still haven’t made guns illegal because they know its the person thats predisposed to commit the crime, not the gun. Just another instance of the “church” sticking their noses where they don’t belong.

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      3. Slick
        I DISAGREE!!! It IS good advice. Does it matter that it came from a reverend.??? Either way, it’s temptation and the individual’s choice. if you choose to FUCK UP ya marraige then that’s your choice.

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      4. slick,
        a pastor is responsible for the WHOLE man not just part of man. he’s concerned about his members…and if he was tempting than he can only imagine what his members must be dealing with.

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      6. See, that is the thing @Mrs and fabulousOne:
        It’s stupid advice. It’s blaming a symptom not a cause.

        Quit facebook because your married? Sounds like this pastor is a bit out of touch and confused as to what most people do on facebook.

        Makes you wonder why he sees it as only a place to get laid……

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      7. “why he sees it as only a place to get laid”……@jamilla,
        cause for some people it is.,some people wanna RELIVE that HS shit, some people lookin 2have an affair. people gon do what they wanna do…but this minister because he’s counseled several mbrs because of this epidemic, felt he had to speak out on it and rightfully so.

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  4. Maybe this is all a smoke screen and the pastor is asking all his members to drop facebook so HE can fight his own temptations without fear of being discovered by a member? Just sayin’….

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  5. WOW!!
    Your character isn’t really yours until it’s tested. You can play all of the games you want on how superior and special you are, but until you test it against temptation, you are only playing pretend. I suppose for some any temptation is too much. What a house of cards. It will take so little to make it come tumbling down. Old flames are only one worry, there are so many others.

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    1. Again I say:
      Yield not to temptation, for yielding is sin
      Each victory will help you some other to win
      Fight manfully onward, dark passions subdue
      Look ever to Jesus, He’ll carry you through.

      Chorus:
      Ask the Savior to help you
      Comfort, strengthen and keep you
      He is willing to aid you
      He will carry you through.

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  6. Someone I know actually found her husband’s old flame on Facebook. She passed on the info to him and they started talking. Next thing you know, the husband and old flame hooked up and he left his wife to move in with the old girlfriend. By the way, the husband and wife had been married well over 30 years.

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    3. @Vaughn, Jesus was tempted…hell we all gon be tempted @some point in our lives., but it’s about what you do with the temptation.??

      The pastor is urging his mbrs to get rid of their pages if they can’t handle the pressure and the temptation.

      Temptation is not only thru facebook., temptation comes in ya life every single day.

      How many of you would return a million dollas if you found it??

      I’ll wait.

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      2. A GOOD ONE @Man…Just goes to show you that ‘temptation is temptation’ and either way it’s a concious decision.

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    5. @Man,
      don’t be rollin up in here with ya logic. i might return half of the money but tell myself, i deserve the other half for finding it.

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  9. Facebook responsible for marital problems? GTFOH!!
    If you hook up with an old flame through FB it’s because you wanted to hook up with that old flame.

    The pastor should blame the telephone for being the vehicle to make the date2. Better yet disposable cell phones for aiding and abetting cheaters, or movies for glamorizing infidelity.

    How about you just blame the person doing the cheating. Damn! This is beyond ridiculous.

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  10. Face Book is not only a place for ‘unexceptable’ flirtations and their attending problems, but can be a security risk for your personal info as well.

    How come Trace didn’t mention how she has a facebook page.??’

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    5. No offense @ Point., but she PUT you in your place. shouldn’t have gone there..betcha ya didn’t expect her to respond to ya azz either huh?

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    7. Because Trace shouldn’t have too ‘Mr. let me make my point!’

      I addressed the use of my facebook page on Aug. 19, 2010. I suggest you check the archive or better yet follow that link here: http://httptruthandmythhomesteadcomphp.wordpress.com/?s=facebook

      My stance on the subject is not necessary to bare repeating.

      Now carry on…
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      POW!! POW!!!!!!

      Guess she SHUT the shit DOWN!!!!

      Where you at Tra???? where you at???

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    11. LOL @ Adam,
      I co-sign….it was like boom, bam., boom., she ate his azz up, then was OUT!!!!!

      I can see the blood on da floor!!!!

      lol..

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    12. *turns on mike*
      can we get a MOP in isle one please…blog queen killed a reader for his comment. thank you.

      watch ya step people, there’s blood on the floor.

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    15. @Pointman,
      Let this be a lesson 2U baby., Know WTF you talkin bout when you address Tracy in her house. This will avoid future keyboard lashings like the one you just recieved.

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    16. Tracy said the following in that post:
      A little over a year ago my administrator Carolyn created a Facebook page for me, with strict instructions and a concrete understanding, that the purpose is strictly for easy access to my websites for extended business purposes only!

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    22. I’m cracking up @these comments.

      Guess Pointman walked right into that one.

      Hey Ms. Bell if you’re still lurking. 🙂

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  12. Married people will screw around regardless of FB. Not a fan of FB here either but if your marriage is shaky and/or you are screwing around on your spouse, it most likely has nothing to do with FB.

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  14. Why are we always trying to find something/someone to blame for our actions. People wanting extra marital affairs will do so. Their actions are based on their morals and character. We all have faults, just be prepared for the consequences.

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    1. I agree w/Daisy,
      “your actions are based on your morals and character”

      period!!!!

      When you have morals you’ll build character.

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  16. Absurd IMO.
    Better poke out your eyes while you’re at it, too. Because you might look at a woman who isn’t your wife, or a man who’s not your husband., then what?

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    3. I agree with him

      Facebook is being cited in reason 4 divorce. It has broken up alot of marriages & relationships

      Facebook & twitter are the DEVIL

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    4. NubianPrincess:
      That’s a crock of bull! Facebook is no more responsible for breaking up a marriage than you are. If your spouse is (was) cheating with someone they met through (on) Facebook then they are the one who is responsible. These people are adults not children that are easily persuaded or tricked. They knew exactly what they were doing, nobody made them cheat. Accusing Facebook of being liable for breaking up marriages is as ridiculous as when some men say “my dick has a mind of it’s own.”

      Please…

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  21. Rather than blaming Facebook, how about looking at the problems with communication, intimacy, and trust that are at the core of these problems? Honestly, if someone is happy and content in their marriage, they’re not going to cheat, regardless of who they find on Facebook.

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  23. Sounds like the right reverend may have had a run in with an old becky or something. Don’t make facebook the scapegoat! You have thd choice to confirm or ignore a person!

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    2. I AGREE.
      Marriages are built on trust, honesty, communication, commitment and mutual respect,,Facebook or not- without that you will not survive,,, just because a person is on Facebook does not mean they will cheat! And Facebook is but one medium in a technology driven world,,,people have been cheating before Facebook and they will cheat after…Trust Honesty Communication Commitment and Mutual Respect….

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    3. I agree.
      It’s like opening yourself up to another (avoidable) temptation when we all know there’s tons of it already at work, in social settings, school, etc… I know that if a person is going to cheat, they’re going to cheat, but to add the element of old girlfriends/boyfriends getting back in contact with you (for what?) it’s just asking for trouble, IMO.

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  26. We truly live in a new age. I understand totally where he’s coming from. Faith and beliefs need not be compromised

    If I was leading a flock I wouldn’t say no facebook but I would help them make informed conscious decisions

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  27. I agree with this pastor and i agree with MY gurl tracy. fb is a trick and it’s goal is to break up marraiges and relationships. yes some individuals are weak but when you ADD temptation to the weakness it’s diastrous and people are falling for the old ockie/dough.

    I don’t have a fb page and neither does my husband. guess we’re not with this modern technology.

    devil does the same thing with the same TRICKS and this is nothing new.

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    2. The pastor care for his members and don’t want them suffering. so he has to advise them to diss their FB pages because this has been the core base and reason for his mbrs marriages failing and ending in divorce. he said it, the temptation is too great. these mbrs have hooked up with old flames.

      my husband meet a hs flame i’d kill his azz and divorce him for that. why? because the premeditated cheating is there.

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  28. uh can we talk bout how these ppl to old anyway to be on facebook?? And why is FB and Twitter being blamed for ending relationships? how did ppl cheat and act a fool before facebook the site is barely 10 years old, if that so do ppl blame the telephone cuz when u wanted to cheat u would get the person’s number? iF A PERSON CHEATS ITS THIER ACTIONS THAT ARE AT FAULT NOT THE MEANS THEY COMMITED IT THRU!!

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  29. The Reverend Cedric Miller of the Living World Christian Fellowship Church had made a comment that he believed that married people should not be on Facebook.

    This weekend he confirmed that he had a sexual relationship involving his wife and another person ten years ago.

    In church today he apologized for his past but continued his crusade to have married parishioners end their Facebook accounts.

    Those in attendance showed their support for the pastor; however some have said they are not planning on taking up his message.

    Miller said that if church leaders decide he is unfit to continue to serve he would step down.
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    Dear Trace,
    looks like the good ole revum had some secret indescresions of his own. Sounds like he and his wife were involved in a 3some. Mm Hm….

    Rev. need TO STFU and practice what e preach!!!

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      1. Adriane,
        it was on the net..i had to post it for my fellow bloggers to read. the pastor knows his own weakneses that why he spoke about this shit.

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      5. @Starr,
        He wasn’t casting any stones he wanted his members to avoid the same TRAP he had fallen into. He was TEMPTED so he didn’t want his mbrs tempted.

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      6. @Brown,
        To Hell WIT DAT!!!! He had a ho game going on at one time or another and IMO had NO RIGHT speaking SHIT about tempatation.

        so what……ever……

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      7. @Starr,
        I can RESPECT a reformed HO (if that’s what he is), tellin the truth than a pastor who’s preaching one thing and living another. At least he admitted he made a mistake and has moved on from there.

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