Research Study, Single Women

Study shows women are happier without children or a spouse


The U.S. marriage rate has hit a record low, according to the Good Men Project. About 57% of adults got married 10 years ago, but only 51% are getting married now.

Researchers think they know why.

A new study shows women are happier when they don’t have children or a husband to go home to. That same study shows men are happier and healthier when they are married.

Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioral science at the London School of Economics, said the latest evidence showed that the traditional measure of success has changed and happiness is no longer correlated with being married and raising children.

“We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.

Dolan says men benefited from marriage because they were much calmer. He added that marriage puts more stress on women and they die sooner as a result.

“[Men] take less risks, you earn more money at work, and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has to put up with that, and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children,” he said.

Dolan says men showed more health benefits from settling down, but middle aged married women are at higher risk of physical and mental conditions than single women.

“You see a single woman of 40, who has never had children – [you say] ‘Bless, that’s a shame, isn’t it? Maybe one day you’ll meet the right guy and that’ll change.’ No, maybe she’ll meet the wrong guy and that’ll change. Maybe she’ll meet a guy who makes her less happy and healthy, and die sooner.”

When the study was initially published in a London newspaper, the comments section was filled with angry wives and mothers who disagreed with his findings.

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63 thoughts on “Study shows women are happier without children or a spouse”

  1. I believe this to be true for the majority of women that got married assuming it was the key to happiness. Happiness is a personal matter. Children and Men can stress you out if you let them.

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    1. Afternoon y’all
      I ain’t buying it. Fuck these studies. we can have it all if we want and still be happy. don’t believe the BullShit!!

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    2. So many married women at my job complain about their husbands on a daily basis. From cheating, to not helping with the kids & household duties, being a bum, etc. I never liked being tied down to anybody.

      Happy Friday!

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  2. Men need women. They die sooner without one. Women live longer when they are unmarried and childless. It’s all about stress. I need a wife myself, but these HO’s can’t cook and they lazy.

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  3. I think the circumstances, surrounding *why* they did (or didn’t) get married and/or had kids, determines the persons happiness. There are folks who got married because kid(s) were involved, and now they’re unhappy or resentful, sometimes both 😆

    And then there are those who want marriage or kids, but feel unhappy or resentful that those circumstances aren’t a foreseeable option. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Bottom line, you have to find happiness in your situation.

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  4. No one should remain unhappy in a situation that they can change. Whether that’s through adoption, dating more, or divorce, no one should be unhappy. Life is too good, and too short, to be consumed in the negativity and the drama. You have the power to change your life and your circumstances.

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  5. Marriage and children aren’t everyone’s happily ever after and there’s nothing wrong with that imo. Different strokes for different folks..

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  6. Finances are only stressful when CREATED as is marriage and having babies …I have neither and I’m FREE AS ALL HELL … 😆

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  7. Men are pitiful if they get old and not married. I have some uncles who got divorced young and ran the streets afterwards, drinking and hoe’n til old age. 😆

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  8. I agree with this. I’m 24 with no kids. All of my friends have kids. They seem miserable. I don’t plan on ever having kids. It’s just not for everyone

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  9. Pros and cons to both:
    I married young and had my kids young. 90%of the time I love the way my life turned out (now that I’m older). It was a struggle in my 20’s.
    My sister in law never married and has no kids and now no man. She enjoyed life in her 20’s and 30’s but now in her 50’s she’s lonely.
    Best to do what works for you!!

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    1. I agree.
      But for me it’s about finding the right partner to spend the rest of your life with and the results of this study won’t even apply to you. 🤷🏾‍♀️
      And that doesn’t necessarily have to be a lover but could be a best friend or relative(s). A lot of people are miserable and unhealthy because they picked the wrong person(s).

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  10. I think when you are blessed enough to have a husband that deposits instead of constantly withdrawing/taking from you emotionally, spiritually mentally that makes all the difference. When the woman does all the heavy lifting all the time it drains her.

    I would marry the kind of man I just described, until I meet one like that, I’m good.

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  11. If a woman learns how to create her own happiness, she might choose more wisely because she will not allow anyone to threaten what she’s built. When a woman sees her happiness and self-worth tied to male validation, she may be more willing to compromise.

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  12. Unfortunately I don’t agree, although I have seen women who have been blessed with singleness. Some women have no desire for marriage and/or children. When I was single, I was very happy. My husband says he was lonely until I came along. Our relationship has blossomed and with or without my husband I am still complete. We have a great relationship and I would not change anything about it. Stress has never come from our relationship, it has come from low lives outside of our marriage. That’s why I will tell anyone, to keep them haters out your ear!

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    1. You are secure so you used good judgment in your choice of mate. Some women are so happy to be “chosen” and “booed up” that they abandon their discernment.

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  13. My husband waited for me and vice versa. I had been proposed to more than once but I was not going to settle for anything less than I deserved. My husband says I was the first and only woman that has ever challenged him. He was once a man that had women throwing their panties at him. I was the first to throw them hands. He laughs, because he knows I don’t play games!

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  14. Here comes another angle of attack for the pro-feminism, anti-marriage, anti-male agenda. As a black woman, I feel like the black family is under attack and these trash studies only make it worse. Black women have some of the lowest rates of marriage anyways…now the studies are trying to say that being single makes us happy? That, coupled with lower birth rates (including abortion) and a whole host of other BS (us being the face of transgender masculinity) is an agenda to destroy us.

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      1. This is my .2cents. MINE!!!
        And it’s not that I disagree with it – I think it advances a destructive agenda at play.

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  15. Its always going to be something…rather single or married- young or old…with these studies, statistics and opinions- just live ur life people.

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  16. Black people have to be spiritually ready for a family. We were created to coexist. Let the Divine Holy Black Ones lead in that. Also being single doesn’t mean doing everything we want. There’s is responsibility in EVERYTHING we do.

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      1. There’s nothing wrong with that decision. Black children are a blessing and should be treated as such.

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  17. True happiness comes from within not in relation to another person. Happy people attract more happy people…just like misery loves company. You are what you attract…simple!

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  18. The problem is women are each other’s worse enemies. That is the issue at hand, married women have a tendency (and I have been married) to look down on single women and TRY to make them feel inferior and less than.

    I have said it before and I will say it again, if a women’s biggest accomplishment in her life is being a mother and a wife… THAT IS SAD.

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    1. Exactly!! 🙌
      You don’t ever hear or see other men putting each other down if one of them are not married. In fact they encourage them to stay single. Wake up people.

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  19. Everyone I know that’s married who are my age is miserable…I cant think of one married woman in my circle whose man hasn’t been caught cheating and lying…they all got married for the wrong reasons…now the older couples I know their “formula” is different…you can tell it’s love but these 30 something’s whew chile…Idk if I wanna get married but I do want a partner I can be happy with…

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  20. I’d love to know how this ‘study’ controlled for bitter and older childless women who resolved to be happy given they can’t find a good man and/or have kids. It’s human nature to convince yourself to not want what you can’t have. And as long as social norms frown upon unmarried, childless women, I doubt if they are truly happy; unless they have Teflon skin

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    1. What makes you think childless or man less women are bitter? Furthermore why should a woman find a man when he should be looking for her? You have it backwards hun. There are many women childless and man less and just as happy😏

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