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Is it ever OK to reveal on a first date, that you masturbate? Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”


We’re in 2019 and the rules of dating seemed to have changed and with the arrival of new technology, the rules of social interacting and etiquette have changed as well.

Nowadays, technology is aiding in the demise of many relationships before they even get started. Because the cell phone, computer, and other electronics are such a big part of people’s lives, they become a big part of the dating scheme. People have become so dependent on technology that they don’t know how to communicate with prospective dates other than through the cold touch of a keyboard. They’re (behind a keyboard), so they can hide who and what they really are until you pop that hood live and in person.

But what is appropriate to ask and answer on a first date when making a first impression? And is it ever OK to reveal on a date that you masturbate?

Tune in at 6:30 p.m. EST tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah” with our host with the most, Ms. Tracy L. Bell as she sit down in our studios with Millennial Dating Coach Ms. Marquita Johnson (pictured left), a licensed professional counselor, nationally certified counselor, board certified tele-mental counselor, and certified professional counseling supervisor. Her specialties include women issues, dating, divorce and of course relationships.

This is one “Conversation” you don’t want to miss.

All “Conversation links” in this post is online access to the shows podcast.

Hope to see you on the air!!!

In the meantime, sound off here.

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205 thoughts on “Is it ever OK to reveal on a first date, that you masturbate? Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah””

      1. well i just said something to that effect downstairs. I think it’s freaky when you wanna talk about it with a man or woman you don’t know. That’s private imo not a spectator discussion. i was dating my woman for 6 months before even hitting on sex. and only after 6 months were certain conversations had and discussed but not on a first date. imo if a man throws that out there on a first date that’s his bait for something else.

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      2. I don’t think it’s a conversation that you strike up on a first date. Who’s that comfortable? These days nothing surprises me anymore

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      3. whoever the asshole was that told Tracy they masturbate that little fucker had a booty agenda. he clearly didn’t know her. smmfh

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    1. I think if a man told a woman that on a first date yes I agree he’s trying to tap into where she is on levels of sex. but that’s not a smart way of finding out. it’s like driving a point but steering clear of a direct intent.

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      1. Exactly.
        If a man told me that on a 1st date I would be like “so why TF you telling me that? I don’t need to know that shit!” I’m good.

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      2. Like the specialist said, make your intent known. If a man just wants a piece of booty why not just say it. Tracy woulda cussed his ass out but WTH tell her anyway. 😆 cause now she did a whole show about it.

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      1. Of course she was on a date? what’s the big deal? the woman is very much single with her fine ass 😆 and she said she was on a date when some man told her that. I say she should at least share his photo. 😆

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    2. well he def had something on his mind. but i think he took aim at the wrong one. kudos to the man for trying but Trace is a class act and she allows the BS to speak for itself.

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    3. I think the guy just wanted s.e.x. too @Tamala
      How creepy telling someone something so personal. Ugh.

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      1. she never disappoints and she discusses some things others are afraid to address. However, I’m guessing this is a topic because she thinks its inappropriate. I’m just curious as to where it came from?

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      2. a guy told her this on a first date. I’m sure that’s what she said. I’m going to listen again but I know she said this man said this on a first date.

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  1. Not on a first date but as a couple the conversation might be appropriate depending on the level of the relationship. Good topic of conversation though 🙂

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    1. Exactly I would never want to give someone the impression that I have no self control or that I’m a little freaky. you slowly work into those personal revelations.

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  2. There is a time and a place for everything. I know I wouldn’t wanna know that my date masturbates. and who would reveal something so personal like that? unless there was some underlining reason like, he think you’re gonna say “Oh yea I do too” FOH….that would be our last date

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    1. I agree with you.
      There is a time and a place for everything and I wouldn’t reveal something so personal on a first date. But we’re human people masturbate. 😆

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      1. But we’re human people masturbate
        *****
        I get that but that is information that should only be revealed on a “need to know basis” that would be like me telling my 1st date oh yea I like sucking dick O_o really? he don’t even know me.

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    2. See I would see it as, him trying to throw sex in the mix. period. on a 1st date. No I don’t think so. and if he did that would be our last.

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    1. Wassup Fam
      Yo if he tell you he masturbates on a first date and don’t even know you. he’s testin the waters to see how hot it is.

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    2. Good morning everyone.
      Let’s remain kind to one another as we talk about this before tonight’s show.

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    3. Sup My Peoples.
      I’m willing to bet some fool really did tell Tracy this on a first date. all her real life shit always makes its way to a conversation. 😆

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      1. this guy was a pervert. yes she was on a date – she said she was on a first date. a first date. he was so wrong. he was full of shit had to be!! if a man told me he masturbated that’s code for so I’m ready. smh. disgusting!!

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    4. Whaddup.
      Telling a woman you masturbate is a bitchass move for some boo-tay. make no mistake about it. glad I’m not dating. whoa

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    5. Hello everyone.
      did anyone here submit tonight’s topic to Tracy as a conversation piece?
      Don’t be shy. C’mon now 😆

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      1. It’s just as she said, this guy told her that on a date. she knew it was inappropriate which is why it became an all out conversation topic tonight. whenever Tracy is challenged she look to her listeners and readers to weigh in just as we are. To top it of she called in a specialist to confirm it all. Gotta love her she will always prove her point.

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    6. Hey y ‘all.
      Good show. That Tracy put whoever told her they masturbate on the chopping board. 😆 but that shit was beyond inappropriate. O_o
      Awesome guest. she could’ve talked all night and I could’ve listened

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    7. Good morning Fam.
      It truly was a good conversation.
      Kudos to these comments thou. you guys got me rolling 😆

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    8. Good morning
      This topic blew my mind. Then I thought…. it also has a lot to do with what Marquitta said on the show yesterday evening ‘one’s level of maturity’
      date with a purpose people.
      Good show Ms. Bell xoxoxox

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    9. The person who told Tracy they masturbate. This guy was an idiot O_o
      we may not know who he is but he knows she brought it into a whole conversation on HER BLOG TALK RADIO SHOW!!! HELLO!!!!

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  3. Ooh this is one uncomfortable question. We would have to be on more than a first date b4 we could talk about that. Unless I’m already being plugged on a regular. 😆 First dates are not for all out and open conversations like that IMO

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  4. Ooh Mhm yea. That’s private. Unless we’re in a relationship she don’t need to know that even if she asked. Smh that’s the problem now people reveal too much too soon🤨🤔

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  5. How does that happen?
    I mean did I ask him? I doubt it because at that stage of getting to know him i don’t wanna know🤨 now if he just came out and told me in the middle if conversations I would 😏 and maybe never call his freaky ass back.

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  6. I’m seeing these comments and i noticed the sistahs up in here think masturbating is freaky. It’s not freaky, it’s a reality. men (just like women) get horny and they masturbate. Now telling someone out the blue on a first date is something different altogether. There is a time and a place for everything. And unless we talking sex or jumping into a sexual relationship, it need not be mentioned to her. that’s a question or a topic you ease into.

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    1. see i would take it like that too. it’s like he’s telling me he’s practicing in case we end up in bed on the first date. and by the way i don’t fuck on a first date. smh

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  7. This is one uncomfortable conversation imo. and if a man ever revealed something so personal on a first date i would most likely never call him back. but i need tra to set the scenario. did he just come out and say it? i would not come out and just ask someone i don’t know if they masturbate. for me that’s being out of place.

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    1. One thing about Tracy she is true to her craft and will put that ass on BLAST!!!! and she does it so lovely 😆 so kneegrows should tread lightly when dealing with her 😆 she don’t play. ok.

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  8. On a first date? what was the conversation? was masturbating his entire topic? did the shit just slip out? are we about to have sex? do he want sex and sex only? is sex the only thing on his mind? like how TF does this even come up on a first date and I don’t even really know you??!!!

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  9. actually it’s said that you should masturbate before a date with someone you’re really attracted too. this way when you’re on the date you can control your urge to wanna boink them. 🙂 however this is something I would never reveal until I get to know them better.

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  10. There’s a time and a place for everything. and that’s not a question or a statement to be revealed on a first date. if a woman told me that i’d think she wanted to ride my pony. you gotta ease into the freaky shit unless some booty is all you want or you just str8 freaky..

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  11. Whoa!!! It’s juicy up in here. 😆
    I love hearing everyone’s opinion on this topic. But OMG so personal. IDK maybe it’s just me.

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  12. If I was on a date and she told me she masturbate I would be like “slow down lil red Corvette”. 🚔 that’s a please fuck me move right there.

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  13. Some people can be too open. Way to open. On a 1st date I don’t need to know everything. See that would turn me off.

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  14. she was a relationship coach this WOMAN WAS BAD!!! and she set the record str8!!!
    if a nigga said that shit to Trace she put his ass on blast!!!

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    1. That was some good info yesterday. when she said “I’m from the ATL my name is Quitta – “I hollered” she was so down to earth! It was like listening to a conversation between girlfriends. I know one thing she peeped how that guy was NOT the one for Tracy O_o telling her he masturbates. Just nasty.

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  15. It’s never OK to tell a woman, a respectful morally correct woman like Tracy that you fuckn masturbate. seriously?? he’s a looser!!! and I hope that was her last date with that nasty bastard!! homegurl called in a mental counselor to address the inappropriateness of his statement. Good show Tracy…..that GURL Quitta kept it real.

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  16. Its just like tonight’s guest said….. you never reveal so much information that this person now has about you. Tracy is so conservative, I can’t imagine telling someone like her that you masturbate 😆 Tracy must tell us more! This dude must be stuck on stoopid. Like str8 GHETTO!!

    Really good show. I’m about to hear the rewind. I like Marquitta, she came and delivered. That woman was awesome!!!

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      1. Ashanti
        I’m willing to bet we actually don’t know the whole story, she will probably tell it all in COS VOLII – how interesting.

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  17. Great show!!!
    Loved the topic. Tracy you covered every angle of this. I tell you.
    Awesome guest. Relationship and tele-mental counselor from A -to -Z I was totally impressed by last nights guest.
    Good show.

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  18. Our gurl Tracy is a badass BITCH!!!
    OMG I FUCKING LOVE HER!!!!!
    Last night’s conversation with Marquitta a.k.a. Quitta was OFF THE HOOK!!!!
    That therapist/Certified Specialist tore the conversation to smithereens 😆
    The whole masturbation topic took me to a whole nother level of inappropiateness when on a first date. I was like O_o Dayum!!! where was that stoopid ass kneegrow from? 😆 Tracy you always keep it classy and 100!!

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    1. It’s stoopid to tell a woman that on a first date if your plan on NOT SEEING HER EVER AGAIN. Especially when she don’t know you and especially when it’s a sistah like Tracy. 😆 you just can’t. we only know her from the stories she share along with her opinion on this blog as well as listening to her show.

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  19. I always tune in Tracy because I like to know from where your topics derive and let me say this, I know we all live and learn but you need to screen these fools a bit closer b4 giving them your time or attention. I know the date with whomever he was went no further because he was just tacky and ghettoish! you can’t be mixing silk with polyester. 😆 Palease!!!

    Good show and loved the guest. Please have her back for every relationship topic. 🙂

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  20. I see Tracy gon let this topic sit right here and marinate.
    Dayum!!!
    We don heard the tune, killed the masturbating bastid, buried him, stomped his ass and skinned him alive can we move on.
    That show was a trip thou. Quitta wit her country ass. said it all. when she said I’m a counselor from the rooter to the tooter, I was like “Aw Hell O_o we gon be here all night”.

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  21. GOOD SHOW!!!
    THAT TRACY CAN ROLL WITH THE BEST OF THEM.
    I CAN INSTANTLY TELL WHEN SHE’S REALLY VIBING WITH HER GUEST.
    DR. JOHNSON WAS VERY DOWN TO EARTH!!!
    I CERTAINLY WAS ABLE TO RELATE TO THIS SHOW TOPIC.
    I JUST LISTENED TO THE PODCAST AGAIN. AWESOME SHOW!!
    WHAT SONG WAS THAT SHE CLOSED THE SHOW OUT ON? IT WAS BEAUTIFUL

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  22. Good show.
    she said something very important and that is…make your intentions known don’t play with people’s feelings. that was some serious TRUTH.

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  23. I loved the show.
    Tracy is so happy in her conversations. so light hearted.
    The guy she went out on a date with had no boundaries and that’s not cool.
    wonder what happened that she decided to share it with us?
    As in make it a whole show!! 😆
    Hm.
    I know it’s gonna be in a book. 😆

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  24. I know one thing, Tracy did alot of laughing last night. I almost thought she was high but I 4got she don’t indulge. She was sure one happy ass.

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    1. she’s genuinely who she is, I’m sure we see the persona that she wants us to see but at the same time when i met her in person she was no different.

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