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The ‘Real Person’ vs. The Fantasy, How to Spot them.


Fake people excel at pretending, usually because they want it to be hard for you to figure them out. You can look for the signs of fakeness, but it often takes knowing someone for several months at least to see them in action and to see just how fake they really are. If you’re like most people, you are fairly straightforward and don’t have a secret agenda. But fake people do and that’s because they’re image conscious, and their goal is to look like they are all things to all people at all times!!!

Fake people are usually anxious, insecure, competitive, jealous and miserable individuals. They are threatened very easily, and are usually total control freaks. After all, think how hard they have to work to keep up that fake front. Their world could be falling apart but their fake front is their fantasy.

The main sign of a fake person is someone who never shows what they really feel, they try to hide when they’re upset or angry. Fake people hate real emotions because real emotions get in the way of the dimensional facade they work so hard to project. So for them they have no emotion. Deep down, these people are more insecure than you would ever believe.

In short, fake people are immature to the point that you can’t have a deep and consistent friendship or romantic relationship with them. Someone fake is most interested in being liked and adored by everyone, so they will never be too committed to you. Someone fake needs to be loved and paid attention to by everyone, not just one person. So they pretend they are loners, to appear to be mysterious, when in all actuality it’s attention they seek. Fake men and women frequently lead others to believe that they are romantically interested, and it usually takes weeks or months of broken plans or false promises before you see their reality. It’s all a fantasy.

Ladies and gentlemen, the goal is to find someone who has moral principles they live by, and real principles that are solid and constant. Fake people don’t live out their words or promises, why? because they’re FAKE!!!

Proceed with caution, ladies and gentlemen!

109 thoughts on “The ‘Real Person’ vs. The Fantasy, How to Spot them.”

  1. Yea and this is so true with men who try to impress, then fall way short when it’s time to deliver.

    Preach 🙌 Tra preach!!!!

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    1. Good morning ladies
      4real real…I dont ever wanna become a story on Traces blog. She can RIP a kneegrow with her words😂

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    2. Hello everyone.
      take heed to this. I was dealing with a man who showed no emotion AT ALL and all of his issues were hidden and came spilling out after 2 and a half years….. well. My high heels were def. clicking toward his door. I left skid marks. 😆 LOL

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  2. Dealt with this loser who was fake. Lied about everything and you know in your gut it’s a lie but you just chill until that time is up. His time was up.
    I was like✌

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  3. Fake people are the worst kind of people. Always pretending. I couldn’t do it I would be sick from always pretending all is well.

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  4. they’re image conscious, and their goal is to look like they are all things to all people at all times!!!

    That right there 💯👏✔🔥🔥🔥💣

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  5. I had a fake GF notice I said HAD because this part is def true 👉 “In short, fake people are immature to the point that you can’t have a deep and consistent friendship”…my ex GF was the great pretender. What did it for me is, she would ride around with her windows up in the summer and we would be suffocating but she didn’t want people to know she didn’t have air condition in her hoopty.

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  6. Ok Tracy thank you. Sounds like you dealt with a fake man and woman at some point. A fake man got lies. A fake women is more of a pretender.

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  7. A man will promise you the moon and the stars and we hold on and hold out until he cannot deliver…
    And you realize it was his fantasy one that he pulled you into. Oh but watch out when she awakes from his fantasy. That’s why you gotta be leery of these “all talk and no action kneegrows”

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  8. This post remind me of my girlfriend she married ole dude who swept her off her feet after 2 years she thought he changed when she realized the hidden monster was what and who he really was.

    Moral of the story ladies. You need to see every side of that joker b4 u say “I do”

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      1. Like a glass off a counter into a thousand pieces 🤨
        ******
        Ok Yvonne we gon need you to spill the tea☕

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      2. Ok Yvonne we gon need you to spill the tea☕
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        She reads this blog but I will tell you this… she said he was bankrupt and had kids she didn’t know about and because she was married to him, they tried to stick her with joint child support..some men pursue you for the come up especially if your loot is a little longer. Ya feel me😏

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      3. she said he was bankrupt and had kids she didn’t know about and because she was married to him, they tried to stick her with joint child support
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        Sorry but that’s her fault. Ladies it’s your responsibility to find out everything necessary about that man right down to the damn SS#

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  9. Don’t know whose worst a fake women or a fake man? Is the blow any easier if it’s someone you are not romantically involved with? Asking for a friend🤣

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      1. Don’t know whose worst a fake women or a fake man?
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        Fake is fake. PERIOD. This Male friend of mine married his girl after a 6 month courtship. They discussed nothing, no finances, who would pay the Bills. Nothing. They both lost their jobs and he started living off unemployment plus his pension didn’t look out for her at all. Didn’t even know she smoked weed. How you laying up next to somebody and both of y’all separate but 2gether. The shit was super backwards. After 6 months they were separated. Both their damn mask fell off. WTF it took a whole year for them to date, fuck, marry and then separate. Smh

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      2. @Pookie….the sex had them both fucked up. Then the thrill was gone. Wow. The fantasy was the sex was all they needed until reality set in.

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      3. That DOPAMINE will fuck you up everytime. Will have niggaz believing they can move mountains for you and shit 😂😂😂

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  10. “Ladies and gentlemen, the goal is to find someone who has moral principles they live by, and real principles that are solid and constant. Fake people don’t live out their words or promises, why? because they’re FAKE!!!

    🙌 say it Tra you ain’t NEVA LIED

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  11. Fake is when they one way with you and another with someone else or another crowd. Fake is when they one thing on Facebook but some other shit in real life. The fantasies are the lies of what can’t be fulfilled. Let’s know the difference.

    Great post Ms. BELL✔💯👍

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    1. Fake is when they one way with you and another with someone else or another crowd. Fake is when they one thing on Facebook but some other shit in real life.
      ****
      Exactly.

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  12. Some people aren’t really all that they “post” to be. don’t take it all too seriously and find balance in the social media and real life….Especially men. They post one thing but LIVE another.

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  13. Fake people are only nice when it’s convenient for them or they usually have a hidden agenda. This sucks when that’s the goal in relationship ladies.

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  14. When you take a leap of faith and tell a person how you really feel and they tell you they feel the same way but actually they DONOT because nothing changes. Yea that part. They’re FAKE!!

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    1. When you take a leap of faith and tell a person how you really feel and they tell you they feel the same way but actually they DONOT because nothing changes
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      That’s leading you on. And not cool.

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  15. If a person claims to never get mad or upset about things then they’re fake. Why? Because fake people have zero emotions. Real people get mad and upset and feel passion or get pissed off, and nobody is 100% happy and smiling all the time.

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      1. If a person claims to never get mad or upset about things then they’re fake.
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        I’m not even gon fall for you if you can’t be transparent. I wanna see all of you. I can understand you being one way with me and another way with ya friends,but I better know both sides

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      2. I’m not even gon fall for you if you can’t be transparent
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        Exactly that’s crucial

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  16. We can definitely conclude that Tracy want some fake people that she knows to get this right here😂and get it good. The word FAKE is bolded in every sentence where its mentioned😂😂talk about pissing a writer off. This right here is🔥🔥 Tracy that chick in waiting to exhale who burnt 🔥🔥🔥 that cheatin niggaz clothes to ashes. Only I think she’d torch the whole damn house.😂😂😂 then write about it and have pictures.

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  17. If a person claims to never get mad or upset about things then they’re fake.
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    I’m not even gon fall for you if you can’t be transparent. I wanna see all of you. I can understand you being one way with me and another way with ya friends,but I better know both sides

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    1. I’m not even gon fall for you if you can’t be transparent. I wanna see all of you. I can understand you being one way with me and another way with ya friends,but I better know both sides

      I know that’s right 🙌

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  18. Oh well this had to be said given there are so many fakes and phonies in this world. One of my girlfriends use to carry fake money just so people could think she had it 😏 true story.

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  19. People don’t change they simply go back to who they really are. They put on airs in the beginning and when those airs are displayed if they are real deal breakers, I bounce. Yup like a rubber ball. See ya✌

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  20. Actually it doesn’t pay to be fake unless you really don’t care about the people you’re being disengenous too. Now if I’m really feeling you being fake with you will only make it harder for you to EVER take me seriously about you. Resulting in you not giving me the time of day. And if I want you, I would Neva play that card. Now if I don’t care about you, then yea uma be fake all the way left. It’s a loose loose depending on how you spin it.

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    1. Actually it doesn’t pay to be fake unless you really don’t care about the people you’re being disengenous too
      ******
      Was dating this guy junior yr. Was calling me 3, 4 x a day. Meeting me in class was hanging out hard. Then all of a sudden I hadn’t seen him like in a month or so. When he popped back up, I cut ties with him. That 30 to 60 day disappearance didn’t sit to well with me. So I dumped him. Sure did. Threw him dueces ✌✌ fee dont play that. And I was feeling him too. But after that I didn’t trust him.

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      1. Let me ask you this…did you give him the cookie?
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        HELL NO!!!! AND SUPER GLAD IT NEVA CAME TO THAT.

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  21. Hm. I know a lot of fake women. Pretend to have it all even a good man when even he ain’t shit. Love this post. Yes i do. I need to share it in fact.

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  22. Yea I dealt with this man who bragged about his dick when if it was 4 inches hard, he was doin good. But he could get me aroused with his conversation but couldn’t deliver in bed. Soon I realized his words were his fantasy and I put up with it for a minute. Then he would brag about his business which had failed and was struggling but i played along. I would be at his house and the lights would be out I thought nothing of it till I couldn’t see the light from his microwave b4 knowing his lights were cut off. His rap game was strong like he was the king of zumunda. Nigga didn’t have a pot to piss in but his fake fantasy game was on point. The ride was short and after a year and a half my ass jumped off. So yea this post sheds light on the truth💯✔💯

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    1. Yea I dealt with this man who bragged about his dick when if it was 4 inches hard, he was doin good.
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      I’m 😂😯😜🛌 OMG I almost peed in my jeans

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    2. “His rap game was strong like he was the king of zumunda.”

      LOL!!! 😆 LOL!!! LOL!!! 😆 LOL!!! LOL!!! 😆 LOL!!! LOL!!! 😆 LOL!!!

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    3. I dealt with this man who .bragged about his dick when if it was 4 inches hard, he was doin good.”

      You LYIN!!!! LOL!!! LOL!!! LOL!!!

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      1. so the big penis was smaller than his fantasy would allow 😆 😆 😆 Oh GAWD I’m dead 😆

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    4. Not for nothing Neesey but you wrong for revealing such personal details about your ex man and the demise of the relationship. You gave us a little to many personal details. Sheesh. Be sacred about some things

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    5. But he could get me aroused with his conversation but couldn’t deliver in bed
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      His conversations were real but filled with fake and false promises. like dreamin you can fly but in real life you have no cape 😆

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  23. It don’t pay to lie. Just be honest. If you aint shit live by it. don’t try to be a Romeo with peasant pockets. If you really ridin the bus don’t have her thinkn ya mama’s car you drivin is yours. don’t be makin her from ya basement apt if she ain’t on ya level fellaz

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