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Why Women should NEVER give a Man money?


It’s never a good practice and a bad habit to start. The transfer of money in relationships often complicate things, especially when the intent women have for the men they love often backfire. Some women will sacrifice their financial security by trying to buy a man’s love. That never work because men are socialized to provide and protect. But if a woman is treating him like a child then he will not gain financial responsibility to empower himself. Men who may accept money from women secretly resent or disrespects the woman that can give him money. This type of man will prefer to spend his life with a woman who made him believe he can overcome his financial obstacles, no matter how long it takes. Provided she’s willing to wait.

So what’s the difference between giving your husband money vs. a boyfriend? one of my readers asks. There’s a major difference, couples who are not married should not co-mingle their finances without the benefits of a contract. Whereas a married couple is building a financial foundation together: for better or worse. When dating, give that man emotional support; which can be far more valued than that of a dollar. Amen!! Amen!!!

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73 thoughts on “Why Women should NEVER give a Man money?”

  1. I would feel some kind of way asking my woman for money. A man should hold his own and I’ll always believe that. My pops instilled that in me when I was young.

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  2. Deliver me from a broke ass man!!! If my man ever ask it is over! Period. If you asking to borrow then you can’t provide. And if you can’t provide we have no future.

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      1. Hello family. I like how Tra answered the question in wisdom, I hope whomever she’s speaking to take heed, it can save them the headache in the long run.

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  3. I watch that judge Judy religiously and she have so many cases of women who loan money to their boyfriends only to breakup and not get it back so they wind up in court. Smh thank you Tra

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  4. Personally I see nothing wrong with loaning a man money. If he’s a man of his word he’ll pay u back but if his word ain’t shit then that’s an issue.

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    1. Nah it’s not a slippery slope it’s pretty cut and dry IMO. If a man need to borrow money he should asks his friends, his male friends b4 ever asking his woman. Hail she shouldn’t even know.πŸ™„

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  5. Interesting how the man resents the woman who has it. Really? Get it 4self why resent her? I’m all for supporting my King but the line has to be drawn somewhere. Even in a marriage contract you must protect yaself. Look at what MaryJ is going thru.

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  6. I made the mistake of loaning my man money and neva got it back and sad part about it was, he thought that shit was ok. He knew he could never ask me again. And no we’re not 2gether we’re on friendship terms now. But I blame women for sorry ass men, I’m talking bout the ones who don’t wanna work just mooch off his momma and the system. If his momma didn’t raise him to be a responsible man then he won’t know what it’s like to be a responsible husband.

    Thank you Tracy because this post is short and sweet but a mouth full of all the right pointsπŸ’―πŸ’―

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  7. Love the saying up top. Because it’s true. Negroes will have you feeling guilty because you work hard for your comforts when they can do the same things.

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  8. Yea this post is loaded. It’s ok for a women but frowned upon when it’s a man I get that..And I would go to any other male in my life b4 asking a woman.

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  9. Ion know for some men it’s embarrassing while others take full advantage.

    My sister’s husband was laid off some years ago and she carried the household for a minute but that’s her husband. So no comparison there. In life you never know.

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  10. Money will change the dynamics of any situation. You gotta be careful and know how to deal. But I’d rather have her depend on me then me depend on her. Anything other than that is out of order in my opinion. A man should be a man and always have something to hold onto. Or at least get his hands on.

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  11. Thank you Tracy for the write up. My uncle have a habit of begging me for Money it’s so uncomfortable. πŸ™„ like seriously? You supposed to be doin better especially since you had a head start in life.

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  12. I loaned my boyfriend money, we even in fact had a joint account. Well needless to say, he spent the money only to delay what I thought was our future I was never so wrong. Here we are 5 years later and we’re no longer together. So this was a painful lesson for me but a true testament to this write up. Never loan money or inter mingle your money. I’m a living witness.

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  13. Yea giving a man money ladies is neva a good look and of course it depends on his intent. Some men be out to use you. Yea I SAID it.

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