It’s never a good practice and a bad habit to start. The transfer of money in relationships often complicate things, especially when the intent women have for the men they love often backfire. Some women will sacrifice their financial security by trying to buy a man’s love. That never work because men are socialized to provide and protect. But if a woman is treating him like a child then he will not gain financial responsibility to empower himself. Men who may accept money from women secretly resent or disrespects the woman that can give him money. This type of man will prefer to spend his life with a woman who made him believe he can overcome his financial obstacles, no matter how long it takes. Provided she’s willing to wait.
So what’s the difference between giving your husband money vs. a boyfriend? one of my readers asks. There’s a major difference, couples who are not married should not co-mingle their finances without the benefits of a contract. Whereas a married couple is building a financial foundation together: for better or worse. When dating, give that man emotional support; which can be far more valued than that of a dollar. Amen!! Amen!!!
And damn Trace blew that question out the water๐ฃ๐ฃ
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You mean she blew the answer out the water ๐
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And amen again!!
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Real men don’t ask.
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When a nigga think she in love he’ll ask. Not talking bout me but seen couples where this bee’s the case.
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Me too but I see that as taking advantage. Still not a good look.
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Exactly. And both men and women are guilty of doing that.
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When a nigga think she in love heโll ask
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That’s why it’s not an even keel
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True. Doesn’t make it right but it happens
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I would feel some kind of way asking my woman for money. A man should hold his own and I’ll always believe that. My pops instilled that in me when I was young.
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Deliver me from a broke ass man!!! If my man ever ask it is over! Period. If you asking to borrow then you can’t provide. And if you can’t provide we have no future.
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Damn you hard core.
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If you asking to borrow then you canโt provide. And if you canโt provide we have no future.
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Dayum๐ฒ
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Good morning fellaz
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Good afternoon sexy.
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Wassup
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Afternoon fam
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Hey people. Tracy answered somebody’s question
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Hello fam
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Hello everyone.
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Hello family. I like how Tra answered the question in wisdom, I hope whomever she’s speaking to take heed, it can save them the headache in the long run.
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Hey y’all if you wanna ruin any relationship, just start loaning money…It’s not a good practice to get into.
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Daisy
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Bballen and Crew….wazzup????
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Hey fam
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Happy Monday all!!!
She told the truth and shamed the devil๐คค
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Sup peeps.
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Good afternoon fam. This post deserves 2 snaps and a clap๐
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Hey Fam
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What’s good people.
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Hello one and all.
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Hello fam
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Ooh some of these comments are ๐ฅ๐ฅ
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Fire? They tell the truth on how we really feel. Money will do it everytime.
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How y’all doin otherwise?
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Afternoon y’all
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Whaddup FAM!!!!
It’s been a minute.
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men are socialized to provide and protect.
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Blog Queen you ain’t never lied and Sistah shouldn’t let a man tell them no different
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Ouch!!!!
It’s make it hurt Monday because Trabell is telling truth๐
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I like this because some women really don’t know. And get played and taken advantaged of royally
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I watch that judge Judy religiously and she have so many cases of women who loan money to their boyfriends only to breakup and not get it back so they wind up in court. Smh thank you Tra
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Personally I see nothing wrong with loaning a man money. If he’s a man of his word he’ll pay u back but if his word ain’t shit then that’s an issue.
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It’s a slippery slope especially if your man knows you got it to loan it. Either way if he asks it would be a turn off for me.๐
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Nah it’s not a slippery slope it’s pretty cut and dry IMO. If a man need to borrow money he should asks his friends, his male friends b4 ever asking his woman. Hail she shouldn’t even know.๐
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I agree. Go man to man that’s an even keel but not man to woman cause her ๐ is likely in it.
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Exactly @Xmen
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Interesting how the man resents the woman who has it. Really? Get it 4self why resent her? I’m all for supporting my King but the line has to be drawn somewhere. Even in a marriage contract you must protect yaself. Look at what MaryJ is going thru.
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I cosign this ๐๐๐ฏ๐ฏ
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And KaBoom Boom!!!๐ฏ๐๐ฏ๐๐ฏ๐
You said it all.
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I made the mistake of loaning my man money and neva got it back and sad part about it was, he thought that shit was ok. He knew he could never ask me again. And no we’re not 2gether we’re on friendship terms now. But I blame women for sorry ass men, I’m talking bout the ones who don’t wanna work just mooch off his momma and the system. If his momma didn’t raise him to be a responsible man then he won’t know what it’s like to be a responsible husband.
Thank you Tracy because this post is short and sweet but a mouth full of all the right points๐ฏ๐ฏ
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Sorry to hear that. That’s messed up thou
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Wow๐ฒjust wow.
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Truth.com
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You better tell the truth Tra!!!๐๐
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Trace I agree. Men have no business asking to borrow money.
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Mm.
2 snaps and some claps ๐๐
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Love the saying up top. Because it’s true. Negroes will have you feeling guilty because you work hard for your comforts when they can do the same things.
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Yea this post is loaded. It’s ok for a women but frowned upon when it’s a man I get that..And I would go to any other male in my life b4 asking a woman.
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And you should. It makes the play in field easier.
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Hmp
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If he living at home with his momma with no job and no car. ๐โโ๏ธ๐โโ๏ธ๐โโ๏ธ
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Lol๐ฒ๐is she running? Oh no.
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Ion know for some men it’s embarrassing while others take full advantage.
My sister’s husband was laid off some years ago and she carried the household for a minute but that’s her husband. So no comparison there. In life you never know.
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That’s different that was her husband unless he got lazy on her. Some men be looking for sympathy.
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A marraige contract is different because his money is yours and vice versa
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Dayum!!!!!
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Money will change the dynamics of any situation. You gotta be careful and know how to deal. But I’d rather have her depend on me then me depend on her. Anything other than that is out of order in my opinion. A man should be a man and always have something to hold onto. Or at least get his hands on.
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Yes it will. Cause when it’s the man you love, you can lose all respect for THAT ninja
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Oh shit she updated the heading.๐๐๐ฒ๐ฏ
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Thank you Tracy for the write up. My uncle have a habit of begging me for Money it’s so uncomfortable. ๐ like seriously? You supposed to be doin better especially since you had a head start in life.
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I loaned my boyfriend money, we even in fact had a joint account. Well needless to say, he spent the money only to delay what I thought was our future I was never so wrong. Here we are 5 years later and we’re no longer together. So this was a painful lesson for me but a true testament to this write up. Never loan money or inter mingle your money. I’m a living witness.
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Yea giving a man money ladies is neva a good look and of course it depends on his intent. Some men be out to use you. Yea I SAID it.
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Thank God my mamma didn’t raise no fool.
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