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‘Is it ever OK being content as the side chick?’ Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”


You know that woman who does absolutely nothing for the project, but still receives a good grade for all of the hard work the other person puts in? Yeah well That’s a side chick. Reaping the benefits of a relationship without actually putting in the work for it. And that’s why side chicks are becoming such a big deal. This generation of women would much rather take the easy route out, instead of settling down and sticking it out in a functional, serious relationship.

Some may argue that being a side chick isn’t a very attractive option, and that women take the back seat to the main woman in a man’s life. But in this case, it’s all about perspective. While some may see it as coming second, some women see it as coming first without ever having to run the race. Some women feel as if they’ve already paid the price of being in the “main woman” seat for many years, therefore content with having the new “side chick” status.

Nine times out of 10, the side chick knows of the man’s current relationship status. And more often than not, she is the shoulder to cry on, the therapist he confides in when he is having relationship issues. One of the most appealing aspects of being a side chick is not having to worry about the arguments. Since the man often comes to the side chick to complain about the issues he’s having in his main relationship, the side chick generally experiences the “good side.”

Tune into “Conversations Of A Sistah” at 6:30 p.m. EST with host Tracy L. Bell on Blog Talk Radio for her commentary “Is it ever OK being content as the side chick?” 

All “conversation links” in this post will access the show.

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121 thoughts on “‘Is it ever OK being content as the side chick?’ Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

  1. some women think it’s a big deal being a side chick because of that sistah up top who plays the ‘side-chick’ role very well. folks addicted to scandal wanna mimic Olivia Polks behavior. not realizing the programming is real.

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    1. folks addicted to scandal wanna mimic Olivia Polks behavior. not realizing the programming is real.
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      Exactly!!!

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      1. folks addicted to scandal wanna mimic Olivia Polks behavior. not realizing the programming is real.
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        I don’t watch NONE of the fuckery on television today. If it’s not positive and uplifting I’m not giving my attention to it.

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      2. folks addicted to scandal wanna mimic Olivia Polks behavior. not realizing the programming is real.
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        WoW and scandal is a very popular show. I don’t watch any of it.

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      3. folks addicted to scandal wanna mimic Olivia Polks behavior. not realizing the programming is real.
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        I don’t watch NONE of the fuckery on television today.
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        Neither do I, and just to think Olivia Pope is loved its whats so sad 😦

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      1. Good mornin people
        And @Slickrick ain’t no side chick statuses this way. It’s ALL OR NOTHING for this sistah. Fuck the programming.

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      2. Good morning everyone…..Yes I was a side chick a long time ago and for a year trust me that man loved the shit out of me!
        I was even scared after a while that his wife would come and kill me one day. I didn’t date him cuz of gifts etc… i liked his personality and the fact he was married never bothered me! It started to bother me later when he was talking bout he wanted to divorce his wife!? Then I realized he would do the same thing to me. 😥 #dontjudgeme

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      3. Good Morning almost Afternoon Fam.
        I’ve been a side-chick 3x sadly men are predators, they’re like animals in the jungle they hunt and seek out the easiest prey.

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      4. they’re like animals in the jungle they hunt and seek out the easiest prey.
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        Really? And it happened to you 3x because you were easy? just asking

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      5. Nicole,
        I could sense the lies and the BS but without proof all you can do is trust your man’s word and give him the benefit of the doubt. Sadly in my case(s) his word was B.S. and all he did was tell me lies. When a man lies to you from day one why should you be held accountable? Many people want to blame the female when it takes two. I never went out searching for someone else’s man, and I never had an interest in being a side chick but I was hunted and unfortunately I fell for the bait.

        I still can’t figure out why men are the way they are. Why do they seek out these other women knowing they’re in a committed relationship? and they never tell the whole truth.

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      6. When a man lies to you from day one why should you be held accountable?
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        Meaning: when you DON’T know or realize you’re the side-chick? But when you do know and you do sense it, then what? I mean we all get that feeling in our gut. so did you get the feelin or IGNORE it?

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      7. Sup Fam.
        I’m sure Tracy will NOT take calls on this because some of these comments and confessions are a bit much.

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      8. Whats up y’all.
        As i said in my statement downstairs. The side-chick may not always be the wife. she could just be another GF. if this is the case both women are side chicks. because he don’t have a solid commitment to either of u.

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      9. Helloer good peoples.
        If a woman doesn’t “know” for a fact that she is a side chick, her intuition meaning her gut feeling should tell her so by the way that he treats her.

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  2. I always say that if you accept less than you will get less. Many who are side chicks simply allow themselves to be put into this category.

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  3. I know a lot of women who go along with the BS and be fully aware of the main chick and still choose to go along with the situation. smh 😡 I would neva let a man play me like that.

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    1. Obviously there is a deeper rooted issue here but at the surface this is an ego boost for some men and women. For her, she likes the fact that she has the next girl’s man running after her. She enjoys doing something that others view as wrong (forbidden fruit). 😆 sick but true #facts

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  4. It’s so sad 😥 that we live in a society where men having a side chick a.k.a mistress happens way too much. where are the standards of people? smh

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  5. Television/Reality television is what is giving side chicks LIFE. Some women take pleasure in being a WHORE!!!!

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  6. Mm this is not good in my personal opinion, but there are plenty of women who go along with this type of dynamic. and I know a few. If each of us know someone who is a side chick or has one, that’s one too many.

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  7. See some sistahs don’t mind the side chick role because first of all, she isn’t truly into that man so for her, it’s less of a hassle and more fun as far as she is concerned. It’s sad but true. And it has to be worth it for her too. Like if she’s getting something out of it.

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  8. Wow 😆 I can’t imagine what Tracy knows about this topic she bout to spill tonight. Truth is, there are some fucked up people in this world. 😆

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  9. The truth is our world, society and community are filled with damaged and hurt individuals. hence the reality of side chicks

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  10. It’s the disappointments in love and relationships that have caused many people to operate within these side chicks beliefs. there are so many fucked up dynamics to it and people have television to further co-sign the bullshit.

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  11. Being a side chick is safer than being the main chick. women don’t want the feelings tide to a relationship. It’s like fucking without the benefits of having your heart in it. This ensures they won’t get hurt. A side chick is a safe place.

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    1. Being a side chick is safer than being the main chick. women don’t want the feelings tide to a relationship. It’s like fucking without the benefits of having your heart in it. This ensures they won’t get hurt. A side chick is a safe place.
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      Well that’s fucked up. So because there are no feelings involved, it’s OK to fuck up someone else’s relationship?? Guess the saying stands true “hurt people-hurt people”

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      1. Actually yes Slick, women put it out there that they can be used. Not consciously, but in order to date someone who is already in a relationship, you have to be willing to accept things that don’t add up. You accept dumb excuses for why he suddenly can’t talk, why he always has to call back. You accept that your instincts and his behavior are both warning you that something is not right. You ignore it because you don’t want to face it. You wonder why you aren’t being introduced to his friends and family, why you’re being isolated from the rest of his life. You tell yourself it’s nothing and everything is fine. Some women will accept all of this and others will not. Cheaters know which woman you are. They are like sharks who can smell one drop of blood in the water from 2 miles away. They know a woman who is wounded and who will ignore the signs and keep seeing him. They know, and like sharks they circle around the woman who is willing to be the prey.

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  12. It’s a FUCKED UP woman who can agree to the arrangement of fucking another woman’s man behind her back. Point. Blank. Period. 😡 end of story

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      1. My passion is, I hate weak ass men and women and it’s this type of behavior that destroys the family unit. The black family especially. It’s easy to be a whore but harder to be a loyal, morally conscious individual? FOH people make choices and the wrong choice have consequences. So this has nothing to do with who fucked my man.

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  13. Side chicks have NOTHING TO OFFER!
    Unfortunately many women have yet to reach their potential. They haven’t evolved as a woman and they simply get by on great looks and sex.

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      1. If side chicks are whores? What are the men who have them? #Justasking
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        Side chicks allow the man to set that value for them. He cosigns her self-worth by placing her 2nd in his life. Making his status like that of a pimp. He’s no better actually

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      2. Oh I think the men can be labeled whores as well, because if men would just stay away from other women that are not their wives! It would make it harder for women to be side-chicks.

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      3. Nicole truth of the matter is, too many men are emotional pimps and a lot of women accept the side chick role to avoid the hurt.

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      4. Nicole,
        Being a side chick is the false illusion of the physical for the woman. and a false boost to the man’s ego.

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  14. There may be a bitterness factor at play for some women because she has been burned and hurt in the past so this makes her feel like she is in control. Some women also feel it’s just a thrill for her. It’s sick and twisted but real.

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    1. Don’t be fooled Princess, men don’t fall in love with anyone but themselves. The side chick should fall in love with herself and want to be in a relationship where she is valued enough to be the ONLY ONE that she knows of in that relationship.

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      1. Princess I’m LOL 😆 I don’t know ANY MAN that will actually LEAVE his wife and be happy with that side chick. That is a myth MOST of the time and when it does happen on the rare occasions, it’s about less than 10% of the time. Let’s not bring society into it…what do you think you are there for if not for sex? That’s how it starts out and that is a fact it’s sex THEN you may catch feelings behind that (and this too could have a few exceptions to the rule). Number one…keep your legs closed to MARRIED MEN! What else needs to be said?

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      2. Don’t be fooled Princess, men don’t fall in love with anyone but themselves
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        Thank YOU!!!!

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  15. I believe even in marriages you make mistakes and choose the wrong spouse. Having an extramarital affairs are horrible. But I’d rather be single and happy and free to date at my leisure. Then be in a marriage that I am not happy in. I got no need for sides, when I can have it my way……

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  16. My husband started cheating on me with a side chick and I knew it from the beginning! Some women know and decide not to do anything….they stay lazy, don’t want to have sex, stop being attractive! Not Me! I hurried up and divorced him and I hope he made a better choice, because what I needed and wanted, and deserved he was unable to provide.

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  17. What makes a person the side chick if he does all the same things with both women. For instance, bring them around friends, family members, sleep overs, buy them things, go out on dates and take vacations etc?

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    1. Whoever comes after the first woman would be considered the side chick. Treatment doesn’t change the fact that he was already in a relationship with another woman. So being treated just as good or better would not change the perception by most that the 2nd woman to enter the picture is the side chick.

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      1. Any female that knows a man is married or living with someone gets all they deserve for trying to steal someone else’s partner – he is simply not available and instead of calling them side chick sex chick is more appropriate because that is all you are a bit on the side. If you like him you tell him to leave the relationship and when he is free to contact you but in most cases he won’t so find one that is single and respect yourself.

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      2. Any female that knows a man is married or living with someone gets all they deserve for trying to steal someone else’s partner –
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        Exactly.

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  18. Oh let me tell you. This side chick thing can go deeper than just a chick on the side. when that man will have his side chick parading in front of his wife with the wife thinking she family when in all actuality he’s fucking her. Talk about betrayal. That’s the ultimate betrayal.

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  19. The side chick is number 2, period.
    And the woman who lies to herself and believes that she’s got a real relationship because she’s with a man who has so little respect and concern for either woman is a FOOL.

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  20. Um, When it comes to a married man its a different situation but when you are both girlfriends then there is no one who is a side chick, you both are his side-chicks and if he is playing then he is playing both of them. period.

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  21. Wow.
    Comments high and the show hasn’t even aired yet.
    Wonder if Tracy will be taking calls on this subject? O_o Hm

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    1. Tonight’s show trust and believe will be commentary only.
      Tracy will NOT take calls, just because she will NOT wanna turn it into as the world turns.

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  22. Too many women go for the ole “Okie-Doke” for the sake of saying that they have a man, even though he is only a “piece of man.”
    I really wish women would wake up and smell the freakin coffee unless they’re only interested in the benefits O_o whatever works for her I guess.

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  23. And married men need to stop using their “Johnsons” as a communal piece/weapon. The whole community of women don’t need a piece of your dick…..and shame on you who don’t mind the share.

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    1. All side chicks should be walking outta here with their heads down.
      Shit.
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      why? she shamed no one. and she’s right. It was a show topic not “confessions of a side-chick” sounded like the emails she received was a bit over the top with more info than she could handle. that’s how i took it.

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  24. One thing Tracy said that was true. women don’t RESPECT each other enough NOT to fuck around with somebody else’s man. You know he has somebody and still willing to fuck him.

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    1. One thing Tracy said that was true. women don’t RESPECT each other enough NOT to fuck around with somebody else’s man. You know he has somebody and still willing to fuck him.
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      Exactly

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  25. I must say that there is no simple answer to why a woman or a man may be or have a “side chick”. Each situation is unique… it would be unfair and small minded to say all side chicks are this or all cheating men are that. As a woman who has once played the role as “side chick” I must say it had nothing to do with wanting to take the easy route and not put in hard work, in fact it was hard work. Hard on my emotions, my spirit, and self esteem. I can not speak for all women but i certainly did not enjoy it and did not set out to be anyones side chick. Sometimes you find yourself in situations you never thought you would.

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  26. Tracy your commentary on this subject was too true. I loved how you were goin to take calls but changed your mind. 😆 you shut the lines down!! You ain’t wanna hear no more confessions. LMAO of the side chicks you didn’t know was following this blog. Good show Queen-Diva

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  27. Trace you were passionate about your commentary. It was excellent but I’m not down with the side chick belief.

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