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Fact vs. Fantasy In Love….Which is the Reality?

The ReadyWriter

Love-your-choice2-1024x556We all want to experience real love, but how would you define it? How do you know when what you are experiencing is real love?

Defining love is like defining a particular color to a person who has never been able to see color – you have to feel it to know what it is. The reason it is so hard to define real love is because you cannot experience it with your mind, and definitions are of the mind. Real love is of the heart, and is the result of your intention to be genuine, because love is NOT A FEELING; it’s a decision. And you make that decision based upon experience. 

But what about true/real love in relationships? Love is an action that if you don’t use it you lose it. Love is like any communication, if you never send it out, you won’t get a return. Love is something you give to others not something you feel because something happens to you. Love is something that grows from your actions and decisions and if you don’t have it, or is not experiencing it; then there is something you don’t know about love!!

In fantasy verses the facts about love, we may paint a pretty picture in our minds about this fantasy, which  isn’t necessarily built on the admirable qualities we desire in a partner. Instead, it may be based on gaps we hope to one day fill, mistakes we aim to correct, and familiarities we’ve grown accustomed to. However, one’s traits, faults and weaknesses should become a reality in growing our relationships. 

Love is probably the single most universally desired human quality that exist on this planet. Love is not something you can buy or barter, it is not taught in school, it doesn’t matter how rich you are, your IQ, race, creed, religion, social economic status or who you know. Love IS exactly as it does…So as some of you approach this Valentine’s Day, practice making a decision to love and then follow that decision up with actions that communicate love.

But remember…. love is not a feeling; love is a decision!

What will you decide?

Published by The ReadyWriter

Writer, Published Author, CEO of ReadyWriter Production Company and Blog Talk Radio Host.

66 thoughts on “Fact vs. Fantasy In Love….Which is the Reality?”

    1. I was counting on a real BITCH session post this morning. SHIT!
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      Well WHO pissed in your cheerios this morning 😛

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    2. People still fallin in love?
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      WTH kinda question is that? Of course people are still falling in love.
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      Hail I ain’t been to a wedding in ages. Shid……..Not like my friends are falling in love in records numbers either. so for me that was a legitimate request.

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  3. But remember…. love is not a feeling; love is a decision!
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    YES it is……………….. and I fucking HATE V-Day….see I can’t even say it. so I say V-Day LOL 😆

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      4. Good Monday Morning all.
        @Tamala, I’m undeniably in love with a man I will marry in June of this year. 😛 Praize Gawd

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      14. YO Y’all I saw 50 shades of black, shit was corny.
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        It was classic Marlon Wayans. But some parts of it was funny …like the YT room mate who was more black than the black gurl, although she was a st8 HOE. The mimicking of black people wasn’t too funny and the magic men dance spoof was hialrious.

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      15. After “white chicks” you couldn’t pay me to see another Wayans flick. Plus Marlon tries too hard to be funny when he’s not.

        Hello Fam

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      16. “50 shades of black” didn’t even make the box office numbers this weekend
        #1 N Kung Fu Panda 3 Fox $41,000,000 – 3,955 – $10,367 $41,000,000 – 1
        #2 1 The Revenant Fox $12,400,000 -22.5% 3,330 -381 $3,724 $138,171,368 $135 6
        #3 2 Star Wars: The Force Awakens BV $10,782,000 -23.4% 2,556 -809 $4,218 $895,426,162 $2007

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  7. Fact vs. Fantasy In Love….Which is the Reality?
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    Both can be actually. I fantasize about my girl all the time but at the same time not blinded by her faults. she pisses me off at times and that’s a fact. But if love can prevail despite all the other in between stuff then it’s all good.

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    1. IMO I don’t think you can decide, if you fall in love it happens you are not given a choice. I fell for my fiancé and tried my damnest to avoid love, a relationship and the whole 9, and the more I tried to avoid him the harder I fell. Had I chosen to REJECT or ignore my feelings the more miserable I would’ve become. So I don’t believe you have a choice in the matter.

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      1. IMO I don’t think you can decide, if you fall in love it happens you are not given a choice.
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        CoSIGN!!!!

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      2. IMO I don’t think you can decide, if you fall in love it happens you are not given a choice.
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        AGREE.

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      3. if you fall in love it happens you are not given a choice.
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        Yes sir, you can RUN like hell. LOL!!!!!!!

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  11. If you experience ‘LOVE’ as a fantasy then that means it’s not real. Fall in love but take your brain with you 🙂 I saw that on FB somewhere. LOL

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      1. Fall in love but take your brain with you
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        True cause Love can have you str8 trippin
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        Well everyone reacts to love differently. some people loose their ever living minds, some couples fight like crazy but love even harder, love is like a drug it has a different effect on people but have you str8 trippin yes it can do that too 🙂

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  12. What will you decide? ——–> Good question. If given the chance I’d choose love 🙂 Life is way too short to choose otherwise.

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  15. But remember…. love is not a feeling; love is a decision!

    What will you decide?
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    “Tis better to Love and have Lost than to not have Loved at all” 🙂

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    1. Valentine’s Day is this month but we talking about weeks away yet.
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      And almost every store is already flooded with candy and teddy bears -n- what not. O_o

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      1. Love was always supposed to be
        Something wonderful to me
        To watch it grow inside yourself
        To feel your heart beside itself

        Sometimes it hurts to love so bad
        (When you know you’ve given all you can)
        Sometimes it hurts to even laugh
        (You do your best but it’s still much too sad)
        Sometimes the pain is just too much, oh oh
        And it hurts like hell, that’s the way it feels

        True love, it has no hiding place
        It’s not something you just put away
        It’s always there inside of you
        Oh, and it shows in everything you do

        Sometimes it hurts to love so bad
        (When you know you’ve given it your best)
        Sometimes it hurts to even laugh
        (You feel a thousand miles from happiness)
        Sometimes the pain is just too much, oh oh oh
        And it hurts like hell, that’s the way it feels

        Oh oh, oh oh
        Here we are, the two of us
        So full of love, so little trust
        But dying for some tenderness
        Ohh, but too afraid to take the step

        Sometimes it hurts to love so bad
        (When you know what it can put you through)
        Sometimes it hurts to even laugh
        (There’s nothing funny if it’s killing you)
        Sometimes the pain is just too much
        And it hurts like hell, that’s the way it feels

        I know if there is any chance
        For us to find our happiness
        We’ve got to learn to let it go
        Ohh, forget all the pain we know

        Sometimes it hurts to love so bad
        (Sometimes it hurts so bad, baby)
        Sometimes it hurts to even laugh
        (Sometimes it hurts to even laugh, oh)
        And it hurts like hell, that’s the way
        Oh baby, that’s the way it feels
        Yeah, yeah, oh, yeah

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  19. Love is a beautiful thing when lived and experienced with the RIGHT person. And when it’s REAL ‘near or far’ it could never be a fantasy. 🙂

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  23. “Love is probably the single most universally desired human quality that exist on this planet. Love is not something you can buy or barter, it is not taught in school, it doesn’t matter how rich you are, your IQ, race, creed, religion, social economic status or who you know. Love IS exactly as it does”

    I like this Ms. Bell. 🙂

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