It’s that age old question that you know is coming up, especially at those holiday gatherings amongst family and friends. You’re fine, you’re beautiful, you got this “kick-ass personality” successful and established, so why are you not married? How come some man hasn’t come along and snatched you up?
Why do people care? What are they thinking in the back of their minds…how could you be living your life without someone to share it with matrimonially? How could you be surviving without a significant other? But what puzzles me the most is, why should “happily ever after” be contingent upon another being?
When did being single become a sin?
Tune in tonight at 6:30 P.M. on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via Blog Talk Radio, to hear my commentary, experience and opinion regarding this subject matter when these questions are thrown at me. As I take your calls, comments and opinions at 1-917-889-7872. Just remember to press “1” to speak with the host.
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In the meantime, sound off here and I’ll see you on the air!
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Yup that’s why when they ask me why ain’t you married? My answer is, “OH BECAUSE MARRIAGE IS PLAYED OUT?” Folks start falling out after that. 😛
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shacking up and having babies outta wedlock has replaced the traditional standards of marriage.
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shacking up and having babies outta wedlock has replaced the traditional standards of marriage.
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Not in my family.
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shacking up and having babies outta wedlock has replaced the traditional standards of marriage.
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2 each his own.
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shacking up and having babies outta wedlock has replaced the traditional standards of marriage.
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NOT 4EVERYBODY. ION WANNA DO EITHER. SMH
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shacking up and having babies outta wedlock has replaced the traditional standards of marriage.
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True!
Might work for some but not U.
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shacking up and having babies outta wedlock has replaced the traditional standards of marriage.
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Not in my family
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shacking up and having babies outta wedlock has replaced the traditional standards of marriage.
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Not for me, my parents set a different example.
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Q….I gotta hear that again. she was hyped.
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shacking up and having babies outta wedlock has replaced the traditional standards of marriage.
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Morning
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good morning
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Morning ladies.
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Good morning.
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Happy “Conversations Of A Sistah” Wednesday y’all.
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Ladies.
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Acquitta, Nicole, Bobby, Mahogany and Omar. Happy Wednesday…Good morning
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my bad I didn’t see U Olivijah 😛
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Morning all
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Whatz good fam
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Morning
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What’s happening y’all?
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Happy “hump day” peoples
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Sup.
I’m just here for the conversation is all.
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What’s good fam.
Real question::::: is people even getting married anymore?
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Whatz up fam.
I’m tuning in tonight for Tracy’s commentary on this subject. Until then. PEACE!
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Hello everybody
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Good afternoon one and all.
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Real question::::: is people even getting married anymore?
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Real answer::::: YES!
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Good afternoon.
I forgot to add 🙂
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Hey peoples,
Has Tracy announced when her show will end for the year? You know she always does a holiday break? Anyone know?
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Hey y’all!
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What it do y’all. 😛
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Acquitta
Nicole
Bobby
Mahogany
Olivijah
Omar
Bird
Henrietta
BillyBoy
Omar
2Thick
Civil
Coco
Man
Adam
Cameo
Ashanti
CDawg
Mrs.
Wanda’
Neesy and everyone else…..HELLO!
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Good afternoon everyone.
I think a lot of women have may have given up on being married. Their hopes are dead simply because they’ve made it so easy for men because they are afraid of being alone. some women can’t do it. some women can’t be alone which is a trap to settle. IMO
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Whaddup y’all. Who tunin in? I’m tunin in just to hear what she gone say. I wanna hear how she help woman or one of y’all answer this question. Mm
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Trace gone come up with the TOP five (5) answers to this question:
1. Fuck U
2. Ain’t NO man good enuff
3. Wait on Gawd
4. Fuck U
5. And seriously….Fuck U
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Good afternoon,
I’m curious as to how Tracy arrived at tonight’s topic more than anything. For those of us who’ve read “Conversations Of A Sistah” we pretty much know where should would stand and how she would answer this question. No?
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Trace gone come up with the TOP five (5) answers to this question:
1. Fuck U
2. Ain’t NO man good enuff
3. Wait on Gawd
4. Fuck U
5. And seriously….Fuck U
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This is funny. 😛 But um, she’d never curse on the air. STOP!
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Good afternoon everyone. You guys are hilarious.
Truth be told, I hate when my relatives or friends I haven’t seen for a long time, ask me why I’m not married or when am I getting married. This does come up every holiday and believe it or not, it’s the reason why so many single people won’t attend their class reunions. With that being said, I’m looking 4ward to tonight’s show. 😛
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WaZZUP good people
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Hello everyone.
I’ll be tuned in either way.
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Hello and good evening everyone. Marriage happens IMO when it’s suppose too. 🙂
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Marriage happens IMO when it’s suppose too.
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Hold up Ms. Ang, 🙂
Is that what you say when you get asked the question of why you ain’t married?
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Hey Fam.
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whatz gud y’all
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Good Wednesday afternoon my niggaz and niggetts
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Oh man, this question and topic of conversation is not an issue for Tracy. Do y’all know how many times I’ve asked her to marry me? Smh. Wow!
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Zup
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NOBODY CALLED IN, Y’ALL A BUNCH CHICKEN SHITS I SWEAR!
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Al,
I had no 2 cents to add by calling in. I was enjoying the commentary so much.
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Sup y’all. Tonight’s show was SHORT, SWEET AND TO THE POINT!!!
For those who may’ve missed it, you really need to hear the REWIND. Seriously.
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QTip
I know one thing, she’s right about being happy 1st. People never THINK about that.
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Tracy’s words never rang truer. Especially when/as you get older. For some people you have not met the status quo if you don’t have a man.
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Well you haven’t met the status quo if you haven’t SNAGGED a man or a man hasn’t snagged you.
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I believe in ORDER…If there’s LOVE, then there should come marriage. Without change there can be no growth. But just because you are not married doesn’t mean you can’t establish both.
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quite frankly I think the question is sexiest because it comes up mostly with women not too much on men. a man can live until he’s 80 and half dead and no one will ever notice that he never got married.
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Palease!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
marriage is a huge step in life. when it happens it happens if it doesn’t you keep on keepin on. a piece of paper defines nothing only what you have with another being does.
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When did being single become a sin?
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It’s hard for some people to believe that you can be single and still be happy. It’s only when you live with the karma from the hurt you’ve caused others will your happiness be tainted.
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Tuning in. I’m not married because I LOVE being single way too much. Nobody to answer to, come n go when I want and don’t have to worry about someone else’s baggage. Being Single is the bomb.com
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come n go when I want and don’t have to worry about someone else’s baggage. Being Single is the bomb.com
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Henrietta whatz considered baggage for u?
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Henrietta whatz considered baggage for u?
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1. Kids
2. Baby mama
3. An ex wife
4. Child support
5. Any kinda of lingering drama is baggage for me
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LMAO 😆 cause kids is #1
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Any kinda of lingering drama is baggage for me
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It’s baggage for anybody.
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Mm…yeah… NO I don’t/can’t do drama
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1. Kids
2. Baby mama
3. An ex wife
4. Child support
5. Any kinda of lingering drama is baggage for me
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Yup but with every man you meet he’s got 1 of the 5 or all. No “thank u” LOL 😆
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Henrietta whatz considered baggage for u?
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1. Kids
2. Baby mama
3. An ex wife
4. Child support
5. Any kinda of lingering drama is baggage for me
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Well dayum! Half the niggaz I know got baggage then.
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Henrietta whatz considered baggage for u?
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1. Kids
2. Baby mama
3. An ex wife
4. Child support
5. Any kinda of lingering drama is baggage for me
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CoSign
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Henrietta,
Those 5 usually do it for me too. Esp. #1 😆
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1. Kids so you don’t want a man with kids?
2. Baby mama if he got kids he gon have a baby mama
3. An ex wife why? this 1 makes no sense to me. If he don’t luv her no more what’s the issue?
4. Child support Why? as long as he can take care of home what’s the issue
5. Any kinda of lingering drama is baggage for me ????????
Ladies the expectations need to be realistic is all I’m saying, especially when almost every other brother out here today got a kid or some kids.
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Ladies the expectations need to be realistic is all I’m saying, especially when almost every other brother out here today got a kid or some kids.
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Realistic is if, the playing ground is fair, like I got a kid and he’s got a kid but if I have/had none from the gate, yeah see,,,, that would be a real deal breaker for me too. #justsaying
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1. Kids -> so you don’t want a man with kids?
NOPE!
2. Baby mama -> if he got kids he gon have a baby mama
which equals DRAMA don’t want the middle man
3. An ex wife why? this 1 makes no sense to me. If he don’t luv her no more what’s the issue? 9x outta 10 she still got feelings and he may be still BE trippin on that
4. Child support Why? as long as he can take care of home what’s the issue?
It means my man would be taking care of 2 households, like he had me and a CONC….Nah no thank U
5. Any kinda of lingering drama is baggage for me ????????
any kind of left over feelings any kind a BS wit the baby mama/past life
“Ladies the expectations need to be realistic is all I’m saying”
REALISTIC? “YES” BUT THE DROPPING OF STANDARDS “NO”
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It means my man would be taking care of 2 households, like he had me and a CONC….Nah no thank U
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Ooh I’m learning but whatz a CONC? @Henrietta
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It means my man would be taking care of 2 households, like he had me and a CONC….Nah no thank U
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Ooh I’m learning but whatz a CONC? @Henrietta
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Concubine!
Definition:::: A concubine is a female who voluntarily enslaves and sells herself to a man primarily for his sexual pleasure. Concubines in the patriarchal age and beyond did not have equal status with a wife. A concubine could not marry her master because of her slave status, although, for her, the relationship was exclusive and ongoing.
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A concubine is a female who voluntarily enslaves and sells herself to a man primarily for his sexual pleasure. Concubines in the patriarchal age and beyond did not have equal status with a wife. A concubine could not marry her master because of her slave status, although, for her, the relationship was exclusive and ongoing.
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WoW!!! Ok.
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Mm
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DAYUM!!!!
I see shit real in this section. LMMFAO 😆
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@Henrietta, OUCH!!!! 😛
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Um, I need Nicole to give us the video for last night closing song cause it was NOT “single ladies”
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I need Nicole to give us the video for last night closing song cause it was NOT “single ladies”
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Sure was NOT. Tracy’s commentary focused on being comfortable, No I wanna say CONFIDENT in the skin that you’re in and being ‘HAPPY’ about it. So yeah Nicole need to change the station on this one. I loved the show.
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SATISFIED???
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Tracy, “Being single will save you a thousand times more stress than being in the WRONG relationship”
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Being single will save you a thousand times more stress than being in the WRONG relationship”
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That’s SO RIGHT!
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“Being single will save you a thousand times more stress than being in the WRONG relationship”
Amen and hallelujah to that!
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Marriage is so over rated. Maybe I feel this way because it’s not on my radar. *shrugs* 😦
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I do want a wife but only when I’m ready. so the questions on marriage don’t faze me. I’m having fun in the meantime thou
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Marriage is honorable and ordained by God. Every man oughta want a wife and every woman should want a husband..
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Every man oughta want a wife and every woman should want a husband..
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Not when they have the benefits of “marriage like” relationships then marriage by contract is not a reality.
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Every man oughta want a wife and every woman should want a husband..
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Nowadays a girlfriend or a friend will do, believe it or not everybody ain’t looking to get married. marriage means considering another person. and honestly since I’m not married I really don’t have an opinion on this subject.
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Nowadays a girlfriend or a friend will do, believe it or not everybody ain’t looking to get married.
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I can Co-Sign that @Adam. Not now anyway.
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Nowadays a girlfriend or a friend will do, believe it or not everybody ain’t looking to get married.
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Sho-ya RIGHT!!!
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Every man oughta want a wife and every woman should want a husband..
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OK
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Every man oughta want a wife and every woman should want a husband..
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This statement depends on your preference. Because women are now choosing women as wives and men are choosing men as wives. so smh
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“why should “happily ever after” be contingent upon another being?”
Technically, it shouldn’t……you should be happily single b4 hooking up with somebody. marriage and a man won’t make you happy
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Nothing wrong with asking the question “why are u not married yet?” or whatever…. it’s all about how you respond and how you feel about said question. Is it bothersome when asked? I know it can be a real pain in the ass simply because society want you to believe you’re inadequate without a man or woman in your life. I say “live” “love” and be “happy” and all that other lingering stuff will fall into place.
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I use to hate being asked that question too. Can’t wait to hear how Tracy’s gonna spin it on the show tonight. Because I would always feel uncomfortable and wouldn’t know what to say when i was asked “You an’t married yet?” but I did or was made to feel some kind of way about NOT BEING MARRIED at the time. It’s all about being SECURE with whatever status life finds you in IMO
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My aunt Clara ~ Wanda when you gettn married gurl?
Me ~ when I fall madly in love and can’t live w/o him….until then I’ll keep doin me
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Why are you not married Neesy?
My answer:::::::::: -> Been then, done that, not ready to do it again. 😛
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I can’t wait to change my girl’s last name 🙂
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My BF keep talking about marriage but he ain’t make it official as of yet.
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Not being married is a pressure question for women not men. Not these days
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Tracy’s gonna spin the SHIT out This conversation tonight>>>>>>> until the cows come home. she gone have niggaz getting engaged for xmas. LOL 😆
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she gone have niggaz getting engaged for xmas. LOL 😆
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BBallen is the 🙂 a hint that you’re getting engaged this xmas?
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BBallen you getting engaged? do tell.
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BBallen you getting engaged?
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YES and for the record b4 y’all ask. We are HAPPY!!
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Reading these comments and they are interesting 😛 I am amused too I must say.
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Well I wanna get married cause the sex’ll be free. Giggling*
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Well I wanna get married cause the sex’ll be free. Giggling*
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Really? It might be FREE but it damn shole won’t be often LMMFA
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Well I wanna get married cause the sex’ll be free. Giggling*
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get married you’ll see. nigga it’s free now w/o the ring and commitment. you just have to position yourself to receive.
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Being happy regardless to your marital status should be relevant when faced with this question. I’m sure Ms. Bell aka Blog Queen will agree.
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Women who give up on love and marriage are easily prone at being comfortable in the role as the other woman.
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Truth be told I’m scared to get married. Marriage ain’t no joke.
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Tracy THE SHOW WAS HOT…I’M SO ATTRACTED BY YA CONFIDENCE. AND YOUR RIGHT IF YOU AIN’T HAPPY BEING SINGLE HOW YOU GONE BE HAPPILY MARRIED.
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Much Respect to Tracy, she was asked that question on Thanksgiving. See makes sense now. 🙂 Tracy almost PREACHED that commentary tonight.
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Good show! I gots to HEAR that again. Love how she played “Happy” by Pharrell at the end.
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Loved the show…..Tracy I’m so attracted to your voice. 😆 I LOVE your REALNESS.
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she has mad confidence. that’s what’s attracting.
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she has mad confidence. that’s what’s attracting.
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Tracy? aka Blog Queen? she does which is why I believe she’s not married. Some men are intimidated by a woman’s confidence.
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Happily single = (equals) —> getting and being happily married.
Loved the show!
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Excellent point n how to respond to this question 😛 I loved how you made it a point to stress how happiness is what matters in the gram scheme of things.
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Just caught the shows rewind and it was way too short. I wanted to hear MORE!!!! But you made ya point Ms. TraBell. It was a good topic.
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Tracy I like how you spoke from experience yet BLESSED us with the grace on how to love yourself in the process.
Oh YES I’ve read “Conversations Of A Sistah” and was so PROUD when you said “It took you a long time to get to your happiness” that truly brought tears 😥 to my eyes. You went from bitter to better and there’s a lesson in that.
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Oh YES I’ve read “Conversations Of A Sistah” and was so PROUD when you said “It took you a long time to get to your happiness”
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Yes after all that church BS she talks about in her book! And you peep how she speaks so openly about her “married pastor” and his wife. Sounds like she’s happy now where she is…..Good for her. It was a good show and a much needed topic.
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Gotta catch the rewind I missed it. 😥
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