We remember all too well the scene from “Waiting to Exhale” when Bernadine “Bernie” Harris (one of the 4 characters in the film), abandons her own career dreams and desire of having a catering business to raise a family, and support her husband, who leaves her for a white woman. She then vents her hurt and anger out on John (her husband) by burning his clothes and car and selling off all of his personal items for a $1.00.
This gave Angela Bassett’s character a sense of satisfaction. She felt partly vindicated and somewhat satisfied having burnt her cheating husband’s belongings to smithereens’. A clear indication that Bernadine was hurt and hurt feelings can prompt brooding or resentment and can sometimes lead to an even greater emotional distress.
These were some of her ways of dealing with the hurt and was the most talked about scene when the movie released in 1995.
But…how do you deal with hurt?
Join me ‘LIVE’ on the air Wednesday at 6:30 p.m. on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via blog talk radio, as I delve into this topic.
You can access the shows by using any of the “Conversations link” in this post!
In the meantime, sound off here and I’ll see you on the air!
Conversations Of A Sistah 
Yes the most powerful scene from the movie IMO
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yup erbody deal with hurt differently. Lisa Left eye Lopez burnt dat kneegrows house down she was messing with
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Loved that scene from the movie 😆 Bernie wasn’t playing.
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Like the show topic Tra. Gotta GF goin through right now behind her man
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There are several levels of hurt and it’s not always an emotional hurt from the outcome of a relationship. Some people are hurt from loosing loved ones. 😥
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Some people are hurt from loosing loved ones.
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TRUE!
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There are several levels of hurt and it’s not always an emotional hurt from the outcome of a relationship.
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Indeed!
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Good evening ladies
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Y’all know Tracy love these kinda conversations.
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Good show topic Tra
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Good show topic Tra
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CoSign!
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Trace. Trace!
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Can’t wait. 🙂
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I freakin LUV it! 🙂 tuning in as usual.
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what helps me is to have a really good cry 😥
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I was always told as a child that no matter how painful it is, God never put us through anything we can’t handle. Can I get an AMEN?
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Haymen!
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Hurt only challenges us to become stronger.
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Feeling hurt is a reasonable response to a situation, but how you deal with it, is another thing altogether.
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“But…how do you deal with hurt?”
All depends on how one gets hurt…whether it was physical or emotional. Physical and emotional is different yes but I think I’d take physical pain over emotional pain any day.
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Zee,
It never feels good to be hurt emotionally or physically, but life goes on and the joy of it returns along with the diminished capacity for the old hurt as well.
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“But…how do you deal with hurt?”
I cry, usually a lot, but I only allow myself to be like that for a certain period of time ( how long depends on how badly I was hurt) then I pull myself up and start to get on with things. I can’t mope about anything for too long.
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Time heals all wounds.
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Time heals all wounds.
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Only if that wound is treated.
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Well… it would first start to help with figuring out what is causing you the hurt… depending on what it is or WHO it is… that is how you would deal with it. Then let go if ya have too.
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Damn Angela Bassett set shit on fyia in that scene, shit is funny.
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I was hurt once…many, many moons ago 😆
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I was hurt once…many, many moons ago
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Don’t even try it. Because it is unrealistic to live a hurt free life.
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Loving this topic Ms. Bell. and tuning in.
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Being hurt and getting hurt is all apart of life, it’s all about how you deal with it.
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“Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for”. – Bob Marley
Have a blessed day.
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Well that makes NO DAMN SENSE. Ain’t nobody worth being hurt and suffering for nobody. ~FOH
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I deal with hurt by going on living and waiting for the sorrow to fade.
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You can’t keep a good woman down.
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well hurt can’t keep a good woman down. is what I meant to say.
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Seek help with patience and prayer, and this indeed will heal all things.
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“How do you deal with hurt?” –>> Quietly on my own
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Gonna be a Good show
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I cuss
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I cuss
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Me2 and I could pull a Bernadine as well 😆
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I cuss
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Me2 and I could pull a Bernadine as well
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I cuss
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any human would.
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Wow! Just wow.
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A hurt woman is a dangerous woman.
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Trace MY GURL!!!
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Sometimes you don’t wanna find out how some people deal with hurt. Women especially.
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Good show topic!
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The hazard of life generally though is also the distinct possibility of getting hurt in some way. Here, I am not referring to something as unsubtle as a black eye, but to the more insidious pain of inner hurt, and that crushing feeling of inward offence is the deepest.
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OohWho!!!
we’ve all been hurt True….and the last time I was hurt I didn’t think I was gonna recover.
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But the question is…..how did you handle it?
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I’d rather comment after the show.
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Whatever the case may be, hurt scars you and you carry it with you through many of your days. Real Talk
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I’m LMAO that car thou. Angela know she was NO joke in that scene.
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I’m bout to tune in people. 😡
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Miss Ang….wassup you sad or mad about it?
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Well No
it’s just that tonights conversation is about HURT and we’ve all been there b4……………2 minutes till show time.
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sometimes it can take years to get ova a hurt. depending on how significant it was 😦 I’m ON Fam
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Sup Omar….I’m ON too
music queued up and I’m ROCKING to that beat!!!
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Good evening yall and happy :hump: day…show was good Tra but had me 😥
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show was good Tra but had me
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The ending..yes!
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Nicole post tonight’s ending song 😥 please!
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Yeah Nicole post that joint.
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Show info was priceless! Heard the rewind again. Good show.
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Tracy made some good points in tonight’s commentary.
“Hurt is to wound the feelings of… to cause mental pain to… or offend in honor of one’s self-respect.” <<<<<—- Best line of the night!
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Show was good.
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Good show tonight. A lot to think about.
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Loved the show! Tiz all.
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