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If Your Pastor is single…he’s OUT OF ORDER!! Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

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Jamal Bryant

Why is a single pastor OUT OF ORDER? Because marriage is considered a normal state, the married pastor has the protection of his wife. Not his mother, lover or undercover brother but the protection of his wife.

Your married pastor is supposed to have the status of a leader in the home, the fulfillment of the marital relationship and thus the freedom to relate to the congregation as one who is already committed within the covenant of marriage. Your pastor should also be one who is able to serve as a model for other men within the congregation and the watching community. If he (your pastor), is NOT operating within all of these and more, he’s OUT OF ORDER!!!

In 2012 I semi-addressed this topic in a blog post as to why I would not belong to a church where the Pastor is single. Why? Because I believe in this particular leadership position, one ought to have a partner to be an example for its members that; love, faithfulness and heterosexual relationships are God’s ultimate plan for man.

Join me tonight at 8:00 P.M. on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via “Conversations Live” for my commentary “If Your Pastor is single…he’s OUT OF ORDER”!! 

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144 thoughts on “If Your Pastor is single…he’s OUT OF ORDER!! Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah””

      6. Morning all………Tuning in tonight esp. since some of these single ministers think they look normal running da church wit they mamaz as 1st lady 😆

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      12. Ebony,
        A single man should NOT be a senior pastor. if divorced that depends on the reason: i.e., did he cheat? is he gay? I mean this debate is long and wide but the Word remains the same.

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      38. Happy Anniversary to US as well as Tracy for her 2nd Anniversary show. 😛
        Time flies and she’s done well.

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  5. Thanks Ms. TraBell for tonight’s conversation because my pastor is divorced and folk walkin OUT the church like cray cray….Um gonna need to hear this. 🙂

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  6. These pastors today think anything goes in the church and that people will adapt to their new order or modern day agenda when its STILL NOT God’s will.

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  14. Awesome write-up Ms. Bell and I don’t doubt your commentary on this subject matter will be the same but you do know there are many, many godly singles in ministry who are honoring God with their bodies? right?

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    1. Yes Zenna
      I AGREE!!! Normal Christians are sexually desirous as any other healthy human being but are patiently waiting for the righteous context to express it that’s all.

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  15. Ion know I think churches and their search committees should evaluate men for pastoral ministry based on their character, gifts, and maturity, not on their marital status. O_o

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      2. But you can bet ya holy britches he gay
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        why? because he’s single? ——> Exactly unless he’s a eunuch you ain’t human if you don’t desire sex what man wouldn’t?

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      4. Um whatz a eunuch?
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        A man who’s balls been castrated, impotent, can’t have sex and has no desire too.

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      5. a single man would have to be very disciplined to not get caught up @Angelhair, so your pastor is either 1 of 3 things, gay, on the downlow or just a HO. Cause in a large ministry he would have found a good woman by now.

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      6. But you can bet ya holy britches he gay
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        Ain’t no single pastor single and faithful with his dyck O_o I seriously doubt it.

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  18. we have a married pastor in our church he’s not the senior pastor but he sure loves the attention he get from all the single women in the ministry. I O_o his slick ass all the time.

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  19. Ive never seen a pastor who wasn’t married. Why is this? Is it considered weird to be a single pastor or even a single preacher?

    Oh and BTW No one is talking about the Catholics so you can just STFU about them!

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      1. I was gonna say Catholic priest have to be single. They can’t marry.
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        That’s why the most of em come out gay and be messing wit lil boys.

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  21. Each pastor must answer to God for whether or not he has relationships, dates or gets married. But a single one in this day and age would be suspect O_o

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    1. I’m LMMFAO 😆 that Tra used Jamal Bryant’s pic for this write-up.
      Is he even still reaching?
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      Yep and i noticed he jumped on Al Sharpton’s bandwagon of justice to stay relevant.

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      1. I’m LMMFAO 😆 that Tra used Jamal Bryant’s pic for this write-up.
        Is he even still reaching?
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        After his wife left him for impregnating a church groupie he still preaching his outlandish topics and they appear on youtube.

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      2. After his wife left him for impregnating a church groupie he still preaching his outlandish topics and they appear on youtube
        ******
        say what now?

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      3. I’m LMMFAO 😆 that Tra used Jamal Bryant’s pic for this write-up.
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        He’s the perfect example because he’s still pastoring (divorced) a church and dealing with a bunch of groupies in his congregation

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      4. I’m LMMFAO 😆 that Tra used Jamal Bryant’s pic for this write-up.
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        He’s the perfect example because he’s still pastoring (divorced) a church and dealing with a bunch of groupies in his congregation
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        I know @Shawnia and I can believe people are still going because they just love their pastors.

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      5. He’s the perfect example because he’s still pastoring (divorced) a church and dealing with a bunch of groupies in his congregation
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        what I can’t believe is he has no shame and people are still following him O_o

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      6. what I can’t believe is he has no shame and people are still following him
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        Jamal Bryant is not the only minister who has sinned and is still sinning you got alotta of these ministers in these churches with their own agendas. I stop goin long time ago.

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      7. Jamal Bryant is not the only minister who has sinned and is still sinning you got alotta of these ministers in these churches with their own agendas.
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        That’s because these pastors think forgiveness involve a complete restoration to the former status when it does NOT!!! There is a difference between forgiveness and trust. And an adulterous pastor should not be restored again to pastoring

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      8. In all of the above circumstances God has forgiven the sin, but the status of the sinner is not the same as it was before they sinned.

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  24. This is going to be a good conversation tonight because some of these pastors think it’s ok to be single/divorced and still run the church and the people look over it.

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    1. I still think its strange that a church would REQUIRE someone to be married.
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      THAT’S BECAUSE YOU DON’T KNOW THE SCRIPTURES BUT I’M SURE TRACY WILL BREAK IT DOWN TONIGHT SO TUNE IN. 😛

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      1. I still think its strange that a church would REQUIRE someone to be married.
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        No it’s not! These desperate SINGLE woman would be tryna fuck him. That single pastor wouldn’t be able to stay faithful or keep his dick in his pants.

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  33. Ain’t no single man got no bitness pastoring a church there would be too any single women after that man. tempting him n shit. Y’all know how that work.

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  34. “If Your Pastor is single…he’s OUT OF ORDER!!”
    Trace you ain’t NEVA LIED! 😆 and I fuckin gots ta hear diss. alotta deese knee-grows OUTTA ORDER!

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  35. “Your married pastor is supposed to have the status of a leader in the home, the fulfillment of the marital relationship and thus the freedom to relate to the congregation as one who is already committed within the covenant of marriage. Your pastor should also be one who is able to serve as a model for other men within the congregation and the watching community. If he (your pastor), is NOT operating within all of these and more, he’s OUT OF ORDER!!!”

    AND BOOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    1. Tracy I guess you mean pastors who are single/divorced and or separated?
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      Yes Daisy I’m sure this is what she means in every sense of her point. We’re about to find out though.

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  38. If a man is single and head of a church, he is most likely gay. if he was married and got divorced he is most likely gay. if he ain’t neva been married and ain’t side eyeing a Sistah in his church again the nigga gay!

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    1. “woman being for man for

      (1) Mutual society and comfort,

      (2) The propagation of the race,

      (3) The increase and generation of the Church of God, and

      (4) The promised seed of the woman.”

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      1. “the Lord God gave direction and instruction to man, on how to behave according to his will.” Tracy L. Bell ~ Conversations Of A Sistah

        Show was powerful and informative.

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      3. 1st Timothy 3:1-7
        If anyone aspires to the office of an overseer (Chief, administrator, boss), he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach (which means without blame), the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, friendly, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity, keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church? He must not be a recent convert (meaning a man who is new to the ministry), or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil. Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace, or into a snare of the devil.         LOVED IT!!!

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  52. Tracy you’re right! Christians need to know who’s operating in truth or out of self. And start holding these SINGLE pastors accountable. I thank God my pastor is happily married to 1 woman.

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    1. Good points made I still disagree thou.
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      I saw your comment and you disagree because your pastor is single but do U think that’s normal is my question? Is he gay? If you don’t know or NOT sure pray for direction and allow God to lead you.

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  55. How come Mr. Cyrus Webb didn’t make tonight’s anniversary show a big deal like he did last year.? Anyway HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TRACY!!!

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    1. Can y’all imagine if Barack Obama was single and leading the country? LOL 😆
      This country would be in a mess! Ooh chile!
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      Mm hm Secret Service would be chasing his HO’s and theirs.

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