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If Your Pastor is single…he’s OUT OF ORDER!! Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

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September 24, 2014 by The ReadyWriter


Jamal Bryant

Why is a single pastor OUT OF ORDER? Because marriage is considered a normal state, the married pastor has the protection of his wife. Not his mother, lover or undercover brother but the protection of his wife.

Your married pastor is supposed to have the status of a leader in the home, the fulfillment of the marital relationship and thus the freedom to relate to the congregation as one who is already committed within the covenant of marriage. Your pastor should also be one who is able to serve as a model for other men within the congregation and the watching community. If he (your pastor), is NOT operating within all of these and more, he’s OUT OF ORDER!!!

In 2012 I semi-addressed this topic in a blog post as to why I would not belong to a church where the Pastor is single. Why? Because I believe in this particular leadership position, one ought to have a partner to be an example for its members that; love, faithfulness and heterosexual relationships are God’s ultimate plan for man.

Join me tonight at 8:00 P.M. on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via “Conversations Live” for my commentary “If Your Pastor is single…he’s OUT OF ORDER”!! 

In the meantime, sound off here and join me on the air!!

All highlighted links in this post makes it possible to access tonight’s show.

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144 thoughts on “If Your Pastor is single…he’s OUT OF ORDER!! Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”

  1. CorporateBitch says:

    Dayum!!!!!!!!!
    And NO you did not use Jamal Bryant as a PRIME EXAMPLE LOL 😆

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  2. Pamela says:

    Jamal Bryant PRICESLESS for 2night’s topic 😆

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  3. cameo1 says:

    LMAO 😆 I’m gonna love this shit.

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  4. Bobby says:

    Morning…..another good topic 😛

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  5. Gabriella says:

    Thanks Ms. TraBell for tonight’s conversation because my pastor is divorced and folk walkin OUT the church like cray cray….Um gonna need to hear this. 🙂

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  6. Starr says:

    These pastors today think anything goes in the church and that people will adapt to their new order or modern day agenda when its STILL NOT God’s will.

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  7. Rezzie says:

    As for me and my house we gon serve the Lawd!!!
    Looking forward to this show!

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  8. Lisa says:

    I’m going to LOVE this…..The bible says that a man finds a wife and obtains favor with GOD!

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  9. BillyBoy says:

    Relationships take energy. Marriage takes energy. I wouldn’t wanna be a pulpit pimp anyways cuss that’s what they are O_o

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  10. alscream says:

    If the pastor single he fuckin everything movin or he gay, either or.

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  11. Adriane says:

    The assumption is that a single in ministry probably has some issues with sexuality, because normal pastors get married. 😛

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  12. 2thick4you says:

    “Not his mother, lover or undercover brother but the protection of his wife”. —–> I Like that 😛 so TRUE!!

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  13. Civil says:

    Jamal Bryant is that hip hop PP talkin bout “these hoe’s ain’t loyal” 😆 LOL

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  14. Zenna says:

    Awesome write-up Ms. Bell and I don’t doubt your commentary on this subject matter will be the same but you do know there are many, many godly singles in ministry who are honoring God with their bodies? right?

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  15. Ebony says:

    Ion know I think churches and their search committees should evaluate men for pastoral ministry based on their character, gifts, and maturity, not on their marital status. O_o

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  16. Angelhair says:

    My pastor is single never been married but he is still effective. In fact he has the biggest church in Westchester County, NY.

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  17. Xmen says:

    Yup the pastor shouldn’t be single because single heifers be throwin they drawz at em er-sunday and Monday through Saturday too.

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  18. Ashanti says:

    we have a married pastor in our church he’s not the senior pastor but he sure loves the attention he get from all the single women in the ministry. I O_o his slick ass all the time.

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  19. Coco says:

    Ive never seen a pastor who wasn’t married. Why is this? Is it considered weird to be a single pastor or even a single preacher?

    Oh and BTW No one is talking about the Catholics so you can just STFU about them!

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  20. Yvonne says:

    Looking forward to tonight’s show.

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  21. Tamala says:

    Each pastor must answer to God for whether or not he has relationships, dates or gets married. But a single one in this day and age would be suspect O_o

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  22. RandomChick says:

    I’m LMMFAO 😆 that Tra used Jamal Bryant’s pic for this write-up.
    Is he even still reaching?

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    • Nicole says:

      I’m LMMFAO 😆 that Tra used Jamal Bryant’s pic for this write-up.
      Is he even still reaching?
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      Yep and i noticed he jumped on Al Sharpton’s bandwagon of justice to stay relevant.

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      • shawnia says:

        I’m LMMFAO 😆 that Tra used Jamal Bryant’s pic for this write-up.
        Is he even still reaching?
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        After his wife left him for impregnating a church groupie he still preaching his outlandish topics and they appear on youtube.

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      • HarlemGirl says:

        After his wife left him for impregnating a church groupie he still preaching his outlandish topics and they appear on youtube
        ******
        say what now?

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      • shawnia says:

        I’m LMMFAO 😆 that Tra used Jamal Bryant’s pic for this write-up.
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        He’s the perfect example because he’s still pastoring (divorced) a church and dealing with a bunch of groupies in his congregation

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      • RandomChick says:

        I’m LMMFAO 😆 that Tra used Jamal Bryant’s pic for this write-up.
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        He’s the perfect example because he’s still pastoring (divorced) a church and dealing with a bunch of groupies in his congregation
        ****
        I know @Shawnia and I can believe people are still going because they just love their pastors.

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      • Nicole says:

        He’s the perfect example because he’s still pastoring (divorced) a church and dealing with a bunch of groupies in his congregation
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        what I can’t believe is he has no shame and people are still following him O_o

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      • Olivijah says:

        what I can’t believe is he has no shame and people are still following him
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        Jamal Bryant is not the only minister who has sinned and is still sinning you got alotta of these ministers in these churches with their own agendas. I stop goin long time ago.

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      • Rezzie says:

        Jamal Bryant is not the only minister who has sinned and is still sinning you got alotta of these ministers in these churches with their own agendas.
        ********
        That’s because these pastors think forgiveness involve a complete restoration to the former status when it does NOT!!! There is a difference between forgiveness and trust. And an adulterous pastor should not be restored again to pastoring

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      • Rezzie says:

        In all of the above circumstances God has forgiven the sin, but the status of the sinner is not the same as it was before they sinned.

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  23. Rezzie says:

    Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

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  24. Ionna says:

    This is going to be a good conversation tonight because some of these pastors think it’s ok to be single/divorced and still run the church and the people look over it.

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  25. Bird says:

    Mm i like this topic Blog Queen because alot of these ministers have Credibility issues.

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  26. Browngirl says:

    Mm 😛 good stuff tuning in.

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  27. Adam says:

    In a relationship, honesty and trust must exist. If you can’t afford to be honest, stay single and don’t try to pastor.

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  28. Felicia says:

    Let me get ready for some Tracy L. Bell quotes to remember 😛

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  29. Felicia says:

    I am not single. I am in a long distance relationship because my boyfriend/husband lives in the FUTURE.

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  30. Kayla says:

    Its strange that Catholics require their priests to be single, and many Baptist churches require that a pastor be married.

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  31. Angelhair says:

    I still think its strange that a church would REQUIRE someone to be married.

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    • Lexy says:

      I still think its strange that a church would REQUIRE someone to be married.
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      THAT’S BECAUSE YOU DON’T KNOW THE SCRIPTURES BUT I’M SURE TRACY WILL BREAK IT DOWN TONIGHT SO TUNE IN. 😛

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      • Man says:

        I still think its strange that a church would REQUIRE someone to be married.
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        No it’s not! These desperate SINGLE woman would be tryna fuck him. That single pastor wouldn’t be able to stay faithful or keep his dick in his pants.

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  32. Mittsey says:

    I don’t think it should be a requirement, but I think a married pastor is a good idea.

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  33. Man says:

    Ain’t no single man got no bitness pastoring a church there would be too any single women after that man. tempting him n shit. Y’all know how that work.

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  34. alscream says:

    “If Your Pastor is single…he’s OUT OF ORDER!!”
    Trace you ain’t NEVA LIED! 😆 and I fuckin gots ta hear diss. alotta deese knee-grows OUTTA ORDER!

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  35. Floridagirl says:

    “Your married pastor is supposed to have the status of a leader in the home, the fulfillment of the marital relationship and thus the freedom to relate to the congregation as one who is already committed within the covenant of marriage. Your pastor should also be one who is able to serve as a model for other men within the congregation and the watching community. If he (your pastor), is NOT operating within all of these and more, he’s OUT OF ORDER!!!”

    AND BOOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  36. Daisy says:

    Tracy I guess you mean pastors who are single/divorced and or separated? 😛

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    • Miss Ang says:

      Tracy I guess you mean pastors who are single/divorced and or separated?
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      Yes Daisy I’m sure this is what she means in every sense of her point. We’re about to find out though.

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  37. Miss Ang says:

    A pastor is the head of the church? Am I right about it?

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  38. Omar says:

    If a man is single and head of a church, he is most likely gay. if he was married and got divorced he is most likely gay. if he ain’t neva been married and ain’t side eyeing a Sistah in his church again the nigga gay!

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  39. Acquitta says:

    So excited 😛 the conversation is about to kick off in 10 minutes 😛
    Anybody gotta a single pastor?

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  40. QTip says:

    Music all queued up “P

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  41. QTip says:

    I’m just tuned in I don’t have a pastor 😆 LOL

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  42. Anthony says:

    Traffic is heavy in here tonight.
    Tracy KILLED IT!!!

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  43. Donte says:

    Damn!!!!!!!!!!

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  44. Lilly says:

    Happy *2nd Anniversary* Tracy
    Shame on us for not remembering or knowing. Show was awesome!

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  45. Sane says:

    Happy Anniversary* Tracy

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  46. Daisy says:

    Tracy good show 🙂 Congratulations on 2 years of Conversations Gurl.

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  47. Keisha says:

    Loved the show, I can agree a single pastor has no business leading a church. You really made your argument

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  48. CeoDawg says:

    Happy Anniversary Tra XOXOXO ~ Njoyed the show tonight. Love how you ended you sound sexy as hail

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  49. Danny says:

    Good show Trace Happy Anniversary

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  50. Felicia says:

    “An unmarried man has no business pastoring a church”…T.L.Bell~C.O.S.

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    • Lisa says:

      “woman being for man for

      (1) Mutual society and comfort,

      (2) The propagation of the race,

      (3) The increase and generation of the Church of God, and

      (4) The promised seed of the woman.”

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      • Mrs. Hawthorne says:

        “the Lord God gave direction and instruction to man, on how to behave according to his will.” Tracy L. Bell ~ Conversations Of A Sistah

        Show was powerful and informative.

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      • Joanne says:

        “If Your Pastor is single…he’s OUT OF ORDER!!”

        Lord knows she made this clear tonight!

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      • Rezzie says:

        1st Timothy 3:1-7
        If anyone aspires to the office of an overseer (Chief, administrator, boss), he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach (which means without blame), the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, friendly, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity, keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church? He must not be a recent convert (meaning a man who is new to the ministry), or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil. Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace, or into a snare of the devil.
        LOVED IT!!!

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      • Henrietta says:

        “If the head is out of order the body will be in disarray”

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      • Olivijah says:

        “If the head is out of order the body will be in disarray” —->COSIGN!

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  51. Joanne says:

    Congratulations Ms. Bell on 2 years of great conversation, awesome guest and plenty of blog talk 😛 LOVE U

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  52. Princess says:

    Tracy you’re right! Christians need to know who’s operating in truth or out of self. And start holding these SINGLE pastors accountable. I thank God my pastor is happily married to 1 woman.

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  53. Angelhair says:

    Good points made I still disagree thou.

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    • Val says:

      Good points made I still disagree thou.
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      I saw your comment and you disagree because your pastor is single but do U think that’s normal is my question? Is he gay? If you don’t know or NOT sure pray for direction and allow God to lead you.

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  54. Val says:

    Happy Anniversary to Tracy L. Bell and Conversations Of A Sistah…. 😛

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  55. Neisy says:

    How come Mr. Cyrus Webb didn’t make tonight’s anniversary show a big deal like he did last year.? Anyway HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TRACY!!!

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  56. Natasha says:

    Can y’all imagine if Barack Obama was single and leading the country? LOL 😆
    This country would be in a mess! Ooh chile!

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    • Henrietta says:

      Can y’all imagine if Barack Obama was single and leading the country? LOL 😆
      This country would be in a mess! Ooh chile!
      ——
      Mm hm Secret Service would be chasing his HO’s and theirs.

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  57. BillyBoy says:

    Tracy’s show be good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  58. Yasha says:

    good show tonight.

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  59. 2thick4you says:

    Going to get some much needed rest = Tearing UP some Snick Snacks. Tonight was good Tracy.

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  60. gia says:

    Tracy your commentary tonight was feakin awesome!
    God is not a God of confusion 🙂 but u killed it!

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  61. Gabriella says:

    *runs in blog* :wave: at errbody now I’m out!

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  62. cameo1 says:

    Show was good which is why my arse will keep right on attending bedside Baptist.

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  63. Felicia says:

    Did y’all grab ya Bibles for this? 😆

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