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“A Double-life, Men living on the downlow!” This Thursday on Conversations Of A Sistah

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They date women out in the open, some even marry to fit into society’s mole of expectancy, then have homosexual relationships on the side; this is considered as “men living on the down low”. Then you have those single men, who keep the company of women, claim them as girlfriends, talk about marriage but never marry, another strong possibility of a “man living on the down low”.

These men identify and “Front” as heterosexual, but have sex with men; some avoid sharing this information even if they have female sexual partners. Some people call it being slick but I call it being SICK!!!!

In today’s society, homosexuality is frowned upon as living in the norm. Man on man action is considered a perversion regardless of how many rights and privileges they fight to obtain. Due to these fighting issues and strong controversies, men who desire other men live the life of homosexuality behind closed doors. They keep this life a secret because as a “male friend” of mine recently said, “they don’t want to be ridiculed or judged due to the opinions and belief of others”. For this reason down low men don’t want to be under the radar or ostracized for being GAY, so they stay “in the closet” or down low.

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Pictured here, is the beautiful Miss Ondrea L. Davis, author of the book, “How could my husband be GAY?” Ondrea, 35, is not only an author and speaker but the mother of three children, who has penned this inspirational true story; not only because her husband was gay but because she felt “this was an issue no one else wanted to talk about.”

Oh but on “Conversations Of A Sistah” we’re going to “talk about it!!!!” This will be an explosive conversation that you won’t want to miss!

Ondrea has expressed, that she will take whatever questions you may have for her regarding this topic for the show. In fact, Ondrea “welcomes your questions” those questions within reason, of course.

So tune into “Conversations Of A Sistah” this Thursday night, December 6, 2012 at 8:00 PM on “Conversations Live“.

As usual you can sound off here or send your questions to Ondrea for the show at conversationsofasistah@readywriterproductincompany.com

You can access the show at any of the “Conversation” links in this post or follow the link for my show segment here! 

Side note: The photo of the two men (in bed) above, are in no way related to my guest mentioned in this post or the title of her book. The photo was randomly chosen for this post, to fit my topic for this week; point…blank…period! 

Alex Hargrove (AKA Lexy) …is the winner of tonight’s trivia question and will recieve a complimentary copy of Ondrea Davis’ book, “How could my husband be GAY?”

Congratulations Alexis! And thank you for tuning in!

Published by The ReadyWriter

Writer, Published Author, CEO of ReadyWriter Production Company and Blog Talk Radio Host.

212 thoughts on ““A Double-life, Men living on the downlow!” This Thursday on Conversations Of A Sistah”

  2. ok, there are so many questions i could ask like didn’t her gay husband jeopordize her health? emailing tra…i think i woulda killed my man if i found out he was trey gay.

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  4. she’s real pretty and vuluptious!

    anyway i’m curious to hear how she found out her man was gay and if her children are from him? wow just when you think you’ve heard it all.

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      1. davis is beautiful
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        yes she is but not beautiful enuff for her husband NOT to want another man!
        That shit is “sad and sick!” UGH!

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      3. davis is beautiful
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        She is so i’m wondering her husband must’ve came at her like he was a str8 hetrosexual man when in all acuality he was GAY. making him what? BI-SEXUAL? Let me send my questions to the show.

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      5. Morning Fam.
        is anyone else hurt just by seeing two men in the bed together knowing they don’t have a desire for a woman? That alone blows my mind.

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      6. is anyone else hurt just by seeing two men in the bed together
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        it’s disgusting but hey, only another HOMO can appreciate looking at it I guess.

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      7. is anyone else hurt just by seeing two men in the bed together
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        NO seeing 2men in bed don’t hurt me…if a man desires another man, 2eaches own, HIS LOST!

        Happy Wednesday Fam

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      8. NO seeing 2men in bed don’t hurt me
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        NO it don’t hurt you @Daisy as long as dat nigga ain’t yo man!

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      12. is anyone else hurt just by seeing two men in the bed together
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        NO it’s a sickness and they don’t even know it. SmDh Sad.

        Morning
        *BBallen
        *Corp
        *Adriane
        *Tammy
        *Al
        *Lexy
        *Angelhair
        *Daisy
        *Keisha
        *Wanda and anyone else I missed. Morning all.

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  8. Why marry a woman if you desire a man? And to look at these 2 fine men in the bed 2gether is just insulting, nausiating and sick! can’t wait to hear this show to hear ondrea’s side of how she knew or found out her husband was gay. i mean were there any signs? let me blow tracy’s inbox up.

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  10. Tracy start warning a nigga b4 springing this shit on da eyes. who wanna see 2 freaky gay motherfuckers in the bed???? GTFOHWThis!!!

    However i gots to hear this show and HOW this woman found out her man was gay. now dats fucked up! she fine too.

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  11. OMG!!!!
    OMG!!!!
    TAKES ALOTTA COURAGE TO OVERCOME FALLING IN LOVE, HAVING CHILDREN WITH A MAN ONLY TO FIND OUT LATER THE MAN YOU BUILT YA LIFE WITH IS GAY!

    THAT’S SOME SERIOUS BETRAYAL! AND DON’T GIVE ME THIS SHIT THAT SOME PEOPLE FIND OUT AFTER THE FACT., I CALL BULLSHIT ON THAT EXCUSE.

    TUNING IN FOR THIS….I WANNA KNOW WHAT WERE THE WARNING SIGNS IF THERE WERE/ARE ANY

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  12. 2 brothas in between the sheets. Blog Queen really knows how to drive her point. Not a nice vision to see and that’s fa sure.

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  13. “This will be an explosive conversation that you won’t want to miss!”

    No I don’t think I will want to miss this. The author is very pretty and I’m curious to know what this outcome did to her self-esteem? Did she have any clues her husband was gay and what kind of changes she went threw as an outcome? Wow. Can’t wait for your show 2morrow night., will email offline with my questions.

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  14. Ok Tracy this show of yours is going to be mind blowing. her husband was gay and look at her. I can’t even fathom that. she’s beautiful. of course i know she’s divorced. SMH…and the 2 dudes in bed too much going on in this damn post. I can’t…..i’ll be back after I have my tea.

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  15. Oh my dayum!
    What is she telling her children?
    How are those children affected?
    This is a very delicate situation her GAY husband has put her in.
    I would be MAD AS HELL with his azz.
    Did she know he was GAY?
    How could she tell he was GAY?
    Maybe he was bi-sexual?
    OMG so many questions and I need to get a grip because this is truly sad.

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  16. That pic 😦 SMH
    The author, Ondrea Davis God Bless her. She had the courage to write a book and to tell her story. I wonder how is this effecting her children? and how will it effect them when their old enough to understand. I hope her husband has taken repsonsibility for the consequences of his lifestyle and the predicament he’s put her in. wow.

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  17. “A Double-life, Men living on the downlow!”

    Ok so this is going to be a POWERFUL conversation because this is a HEAVY topic. The church don’t wanna deal with this because some of these ministers/pastors know how they living and they have FAGGS and DL men running all up n threw their pews..But this is an epidemic and it needs to be addressed whether it’s in a book, tv show of blog talk radio. The topic is long overdue!!

    Uma be ‘FRONT&CENTER’ for this one.

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  18. The Bible call it: STRANGE FLESH.
    When you desire to lay, lap and lick on the same sex. Yes it’s sick! IDC how many rights they wanna have God doesn’t acknowledge “same sex anything”.

    Ondrea is the victim of following her heart and look what she got BETRAYAL. I would love to read her book but in the meantime I gotta hear Tra’s show!

    Great topic Ms. Bell 🙂

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  19. If I found out the man that I married was GAY i’d have to kill him.
    1. for jeapordizing my safety physically
    2. for the betrayal
    3. for the hurt
    4. for the emotional devastation it would cause

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  20. Hey everyone! Thank you so much for all of your complements and concerns. I cannot wait to speak with Tracy and answer your questions tomorrow night. Thanks for supporting this wonderful show! Have a great day & talk to you tomorrow 🙂

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    1. Hi Ondrea. I have goose bumps as I type this comment. 😉
      Peace & Blessings to you for having the courage to write your story. I can speak for many of us in saying we “can’t wait to hear the show tomorrow too.”
      Tracy is good which is going to make “your topic” even juicier.”!!!!

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      1. Hey Ondrea!
        I sent my questions to the show for Tracy (aka. we call her Blog Queen) cause I know you can’t answer them here Trace will come in here and SHUT US down But….this is my dedication to you gurl!!!!!

        At first I was afraid, I was petrified,
        kept thinking I could never live
        without you by my side.
        But then I spent so many nights,
        thinking how you did me wrong,
        and I grew strong
        and I learned how to get along.

        Oh go on now go, walk out the door.
        Just turn around now
        ’cause you’re not welcome anymore.
        Were you the one who tried
        to break me with goodbyes?
        you think I’d crumble?
        you think I’d lay down and die?

        Oh no not I.
        I will survive.
        Oh as long as I know how to love
        I know I’ll stay alive.
        I got all my life to live
        and I got all my love to give.
        and I’ll survive. I will survive. hey hey

        It took all the strength I had
        not to fall apart.
        Just trying hard to mend
        the pieces of my broken heart.

        And I spent so many nights
        just feeling sorry for myself.
        I used to cry
        but now I hold my head up high.
        And you see me, somebody new.
        I’m not that chained up little person
        still in love with you.
        And so you felt like dropping in
        and just expect me to be free
        but now I’m saving all my lovin’
        for someone who’s lovin’ me.

        Oh no not I.
        I will survive.
        Oh as long as I know how to love
        I know I’ll stay alive.
        I got all my life to live
        and I got all my love to give.
        and I’ll survive. I will survive.
        oh…

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      6. Ondrea U fyne!!!! Can you “hit a nigga up” after da show ??

        I know niggas be comin at you left n right.

        XOXO

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      10. ONDREA PRAYERS AND BLESSINGS FOR YOUR TRIALS.

        WE ALL HAVE A STORY TO TELL BUT YOURS SOUND TRULY CHALLENGING. CAN’T WAIT TO HEAR ALL ABOUT IT.

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      11. Tammy, I appreciate your kind comments. There are not many who want to deal with this subject, but it is happening too much. So why not me? I felt like I should speak out. That is it because I don’t want to get kicked off the show before I even make it on, LOL! Hope to have you tune in tomorrow. 🙂

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      12. That is it because I don’t want to get kicked off the show before I even make it on, LOL! Hope to have you tune in tomorrow.
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        Yeah @Ondrea, “DON’T” our CEO family here is contagious. If you address one you’ll be addressing all. It would be like doing the interview before Tracy had you on the show and Tracy will REMOVE our comments. But I look forward to hearing you on a more proper forum.

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      14. Oh my look at the love.

        This is the girl in the post. 🙂 Oh OK.

        HEY!!!!!!! can’t wait to hear your interview with Tracy

        Let’s be real we really can’t wait to hear your story.

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      15. Awww, that is sweet of you Nicole. Thank you for that dedication
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        I admire your courage @Ondrea and i know if you went thru having a gay husband then wrote a book and now gon talk about it, you survived!

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      16. FYI: I sent Tracy and her staf an email telling them how y’all tryna get the guest to talk before the show tomorrow. so be ware!

        No offense @Ondrea but FOLK NEED to stay in they lane.

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      17. I understand your concern Tamala. I do my best to follow “interview etiquette” and don’t answer questions or discuss anything in detail out of respect for the host.

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      19. FYI: I sent Tracy and her staf an email telling them how y’all tryna get the guest to talk before the show tomorrow. so be ware!
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        OMG @ Tamala, STOP BEING PETTY.

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      20. I’m not being Petty @Olivijah, Just looking out for Blog Queen….The guest shouldn’t be in here engaging conversation which ch’all before tomorrow’s show. Maybe she didn’t know which is why PUT IT ON BLAST! 🙂

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      21. I’m not being Petty @Olivijah, Just looking out for Blog Queen
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        she don’t need you to look out for her. Tracy has an administrator who monitors this blog. That’s her job not yours @Tamala.

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  21. More and more women have stories about their downlow men. it’s scary I tell you. Tuning in to “Conversations Of A Sistah” to hear this one. There’s always so many questions but now-a-days you gotta have own built-in GAYDAR!!!!!

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    1. I’m sorry but………I believe the 2 guys in the photo is a staged picture they really don’t look gay.
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      Brandy, that’s why the term is called ‘DOWNLOW’ because you have the manliest looking muscle bound men on the DOWNLOW. Look at Eddie Long he have muscles and everything but he was working his ‘dick’ inside another man’s azz. so don’t be fooled…Gay has no distinction unless you’re flamboyant!!!

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      1. Brandy, that’s why the term is called ‘DOWNLOW’ because you have the manliest looking muscle bound men on the DOWNLOW. Look at Eddie Long he have muscles and everything but he was working his ‘dick’ inside another man’s azz. so don’t be fooled…Gay has no distinction unless you’re flamboyant!!!
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        Cosign!~

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  23. I can’t even begin to think how another man could want another man. That shit is INSANE!!!!!

    And when I opened this post and saw these two GAY monfuckers in the bed, I almost lost my damn sammich! Trace gotta start warning the str8 brothas on this blog as to “whatz up”

    On topic: This sistas OMG!!! This sista is beautiful and looks like she all the woman a man would need!!!! YET……..Her husband still wanted a man that’s some real sick, twisted shit!!!! Alotta sistas would be messed up behind some sick shit like that and she got kids to boot. SMDH

    Yeah ok, like erbody else, I’m NOSEY and gotta hear her WHOLE story. I know Trace gon ask all the right questions, so I’ll be BACK when this show is over tomorrow night to add some more of my .2

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  24. Wow.
    For some reason I know Tracy is going to blow the lid off this interview. She talk about this subject in her book, “Conversations Of A Sistah” so I know she’s going to touch all basis. Of course I’ll be listening to this.

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    1. She talk about this subject in her book, “Conversations Of A Sistah” so I know she’s going to touch all basis. Of course I’ll be listening to this.
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      Felicia Tracy doesn’t discuss the term “downlow” in “Conversations Of A Sistah” but she SUSPECTS someone she’s been seeing is GAY…The term “downlow” wasn’t as prevalent when she released that book. Tracy was being told “this person could be bi-sexual-but I think she’s fully aware now of what this GUY IS” which is why I BELIVE she’s exposing it. 🙂

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      1. Tracy doesn’t discuss the term “downlow” in “Conversations Of A Sistah” but she SUSPECTS someone she’s been seeing is GAY…The term “downlow” wasn’t as prevalent when she released that book. Tracy was being told “this person could be bi-sexual-but I think she’s fully aware now of what this GUY IS” which is why I BELIVE she’s exposing it.
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        Ok @Zion, spill the damn tea!

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      2. Felicia Tracy doesn’t discuss the term “downlow” in “Conversations Of A Sistah” but she SUSPECTS someone she’s been seeing is GAY…The term “downlow” wasn’t as prevalent when she released that book. Tracy was being told “this person could be bi-sexual-but I think she’s fully aware now of what this GUY IS” which is why I BELIVE she’s exposing it.
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        Zion if Tracy had a similar experience then that’s why she’s exposing it. She suspected “Cole” the last guy she was seeing as being Gay.

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      3. Zion if Tracy had a similar experience then that’s why she’s exposing it. She suspected “Cole” the last guy she was seeing as being Gay.
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        Felicia I know that you’re a BIG FAN of “Conversations Of A Sistah” and i RESPECT that, I’m a BIG FAN too 🙂 But I NEVER SAID ONCE IN MY COMMENT That: “Tracy had a similar experience” Please DON’T twist my words. Tracy is EXTREMELY intuitive which is why I said: Tracy was being told “this person could be bi-sexual because she kind of KNEW this was ‘THE DEAL’ with this person anyway.

        @Acquitta, Tracy spills her own teas which is why she is a writer, author and now Blog-talk radio host. 😉

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      4. Zion if Tracy had a similar experience then that’s why she’s exposing it. She suspected “Cole” the last guy she was seeing as being Gay.
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        Get over it @Felicia, Cole is Gay. Tra gon tell you in her next book. And I ain’t have to talk to her to know that either.

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    1. The author (Ondrea Davis) in da house people.
      *******
      I know and the poor girl is being BOMBARDED. If Tracy sees her addressing everybody she’ll have a fit!!!!!

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      1. I am fine. I will not discuss much here. I see a lot of questions, but I am sure that Tracy will handle them all for you guys. I love interacting with people, so that’s why I wanted to come here and thank you all. She can trust me not to do to much before the show, LOL!

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      2. I love interacting with people, so that’s why I wanted to come here and thank you all. She can trust me not to do to much before the show, LOL!
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        How sweet @Ondrea but you’ll have the chance to address US after the show. Tracy needs to wheedle your topic 1st.

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      3. Oh Fa Real, the GUEST was in here already??? LOL 🙂 Oh No so it was OFF DA HOOK up in here ta day! Sista ain’t spose to speak UNTIL AFTER the show!!!!

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  27. DAYUM!!!!!!!!!!
    2 Dudes in the bed? Shit!!!!! Who wanna see that?
    Now the sista SHIT she fine. Her husband was gay? WTF was wrong wit that nigga.

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  35. This show will put every downlow man out there on blast with the TRUTH….”How can my Husband Be GAY? That’s a strong title. WOW! Can’t wait to hear her story. And yes I will send my questions to the show.

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  36. Ooh this show is going to be off the hook!
    The author was married to a GAY man? How that happen?
    Gotta tune in. Then I’m coming back to talk about it.

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  37. Oh God the brothas in the bed 🙂 LMMFAO Trace need to be slapped!!!!!!!!!! 🙂 for showing us this god awful image. I could take it if it was 2lesbos but men oh HAIL NAH!!!!

    We get it! Faggs, gay, her husband was a HOMO living in da closet, on the downlow but did we have to see that pic??? Got dayum!

    Don’t worry these nosey asses gon tune in.

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  39. Tracy,
    I’m looking forward to “Conversations Of A Sistah” this week. I’m excited and curious to hear this girl’s testimony. God’s design was for the male and female to produce offspring and obey His divine command to “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it; and rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky, and over every living thing that moves on the earth,” (Gen. 1:28). He created us for a reason, and the “suitable helper” is just that, a suitable helper to carry out the commission that God stated. Homosexuality cannot fulfill that command and is a violation of the created order of God. That’s right!!!

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  40. The men in the bed! SMDH ..I wanna pluck my damn eyes out.
    Wonder what the author’s husband look like or is that him in the bed with other dude?

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  41. That photo is shocking.
    Don’t noooooooooooooobody wanna see that.

    I do wanna hear Ondrea’s story thou. As always I’ll be supporting our girl. Fucked up she was tricked and married somebody gay. That’s messed up.

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  42. Another hot subject on “conversations of a sistah” I see. Looks like we gon mix the holidays up on a high note. I want a holiday show Tra. Please and Thank you before your last show on December 20th!

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  43. Sad that this sistas been hurt.
    Some of our black men (assuming she was married to a black man???) are such a disgrace and disappiontment. We don’t even know when a Queen’s in our midst or in our lives or even how to treat real women. I must hear Ondrea Davis’ story I know it is going to be compelling. Thank you Tracy for another good show topic. Keep doin ya thing.

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  44. From the looks of these comments this show is going to be a WHOPPER and I don’t mean the burger either. 🙂 LOL

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  45. Alot going on. Guys in the bed together. And the pretty author in the picture. Interesting…This downlow sickness is an epidemic. Can’t believe this pretty woman was married to gay man. Wow.

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    1. How do you ROLL OFF OF this fine ass chick and into the azzhole of another man. GTFOH Shit is sick!!!!!

      Apparently he did, so tune in tomorrow and find out the rest?

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      1. @2Thick,
        Hail !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don’t know if I wanna know. Hearing this show gon piss me off I know. Some of these monfuckers out here just sick and they take women for granted.

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      3. Be Brave @Omar and tune in anyway.
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        I didn’t say I wouldn’t tune in, I gotta support Tra. I just hate to hear this sistas agony and she got kids too. SMH …I don’t get how another man can want another man esp. when you got somebody fine at home..and ain’t nothing like have a woman a black woman at that.

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      4. I don’t get how another man can want another man esp. when you got somebody fine at home..and ain’t nothing like have a woman a black woman at that.
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        Omar my grandaddy always said: “If God made anything better for a man than a woman he kept it for Himself”

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      5. Omar my grandaddy always said: “If God made anything better for a man than a woman he kept it for Himself”
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        LOL Intense, I know that’s right!!!

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  49. Good show topic. Can’t wait …I wanna hear Ondrea’s story. Sounds like having a GAY husband is a heavy pill to swallow.

    Morning all.

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    1. Good show topic. Can’t wait …I wanna hear Ondrea’s story. Sounds like having a GAY husband is a heavy pill to swallow.
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      YES LORD!!!!! I’m sure Tracy has a load of questions too. This will be a serious MUST HEAR!~

      Good morning Mahogany

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      4. Wassup y’all. I know every sista in here gon be tuned in 2nite.
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        SHO YA RIGHT!!!!!!!

        MORNING CEO COMMUNITY!!!!!!!!!!

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      8. Morning.
        This fool came in the “Zimmerman post” calling us NOGS so I emailed Tracy and had him removed. 😉

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      9. Morning Ceo Ladies and Gents.
        Despite the DISGUSTING picture of the FAGGS in this post. I’m looking forward to hearing Tracy’s special guest.

        Y’all have a good one see ya tonight!

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  50. Oh God the brothas in the bed is a bit much but I get it. SMDH.

    I pray this girl (Ondrea) is holding her head up and holding her kids down. Guess I’ll find out by tuning in tonight.

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  51. Oh FUCK NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    2 niggas in the bed???????????

    Let me back da hell out this post. That pic is offensive to the STR8 hetrosexual MEN on this blog Trace.

    Ondrea, keep ya head up and I hope to God you didnt catch ya nigga in the bed with another nigga. SMGDH

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      1. you are such a drama King @Slick
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        Drama King my TOE!!!!! Just the thought of 2 men butt fucking make u wanna lose ya damn breakfast, lunch and dinner while have the runs. Shit is OFFENSIVE on da eyes so early in the morning.

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      2. Ondrea, keep ya head up and I hope to God you didnt catch ya nigga in the bed with another nigga. SMGDH
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        That’s what I wanna know, did she catch him in the act or did she smell dookie on his dick?

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      3. That’s what I wanna know, did she catch him in the act or did she smell dookie on his dick?
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        FOUL!!!! Just FOUL!!!!!

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  53. This is going to be a juicy topic. I swear this downlow craze with some of these men is sick.!! Hope I’m not offending anyone but c’mon. It would be a hard blow to my self-esteem if my man left me for another man…

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  55. Ah man, this sistah is beautiful. This post breaks my heart and i haven’t even heard the show yet. my heart bleeds for the bullshit and the trauma these FAKE ASS men put women through, I swear. SMH

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  59. “Ondrea, 35, is not only an author and speaker but the mother of three children, who has penned this inspirational true story; not only because her husband was gay but because she felt “this was an issue no one else wanted to talk about.”

    She right!!!!!!! nobody wanna talk about it because they wanna keep this sick shit in the closet. this way men can keep doin what they do by having the cake n eatin it too..let it all hang out Tra!!! I hope Ondrae put da sorry ass knee-grow who left her for the downlow life on blast too.

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    2. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

      I wanted to win the book!

      I hate youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

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  67. My heart broke when she talked about that her sorry ass husband of hers and how he couldn’t tell their kids he was gay. so fucked up!

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  69. Ondrea is a strong woman and what an example to set for other women. she didn’t talk bad about her man to her kids. that takes alot of strength. I know God is going to bless her!

    Loved the interview. Tracy used her whole half hour. can’t wait to she comes back.

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  70. whats messed up is, her kids live one way at her house and another way at her ex-gay husbands. their exposed to 2 lifestyles. OMG i would be so fucked up having to adjust to that.

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  71. Thank you Trace, Ondrea addressed almost all of our questions. She was AWESOME!!!! Just awesome!!!!!
    I tell you our women are strong because of the bullshit these men put them thru.

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  72. that ondrea had me in tears 😦 especially when she talked about her kids and how one of them had a dream about her father oh god i couldn’t contain myself…and then she said the little girl was a daddy’s girl. oh wow the interview just messed me up for real ya’ll

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  73. what a story.
    but i was expecting her to tell us she caught him with another man or another lover but thank god he respected her enuff to screw around with other men away from her home. kudos to ondrea for her courage and i can’t wait for part 2.

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  75. I enjoyed the show Trace.
    Thank God she didn’t find dat nigga in da bed with the gardener or other some shit. I like how she made it clear too that she didn’t catch him wearing her drawers or any of that other bazaar shit dem gay niggas do. and i’m sorry i still think her husband was bi-sexual. That fool was confused.

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    1. and i’m sorry i still think her husband was bi-sexual.
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      I do too., cause he was still sleeping with her. She was still his desire unless he was faking it.

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      1. and i’m sorry i still think her husband was bi-sexual.
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        I do too., cause he was still sleeping with her. She was still his desire unless he was faking it.
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        I think she said that when he was really OUT THERE, hanging out, clubbing and drinking that’s when the sex stopped. he had his focus somewhere else.

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  76. Ondrea Davis is something else. Her story really touched my heart. Tracy allowed her talk as if they were too girlfreinds having a conversation. I really like her and I’m hoping she does come back and do part II with Tracy in the New Year.

    Can’t believe Blog Queen only have 2 shows left.

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      1. Her story really touched my heart.
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        Yes mine too….        When she talked about her kids and how this whole thing has affected them I coldn’t take it. 😦 Kids don’t ask to come here and he had an obligation to those children even after he betrayed her. Bastid!

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  77. I just wanted to stop by and say THANK YOU to all those who listened to the interview tonight. I really enjoyed speaking with Tracy and interacting with you all. I will be back tomorrow to talk to you guys more.

    But before I go…because you guys are such huge supporters of this wonderful show, I want to offer you a special I decided to run just for you all. I have never done this before, but I have never seen so much support a host as I have seen here and I love it!

    If you would like an autographed copy of How could my husband be GAY?, you can get it for $8 (plus $3.08 S/H). You can read my story for yourself and let me know what you think.

    Please send your name and email address along with the name of the person I should autograph the book to (if it is not you). The topic of the email should be CONVERSATIONS OF A SISTAH. You can send this info to odavis@foresight-publishing.com and we will send you a Paypal invoice for $11.08. Your order will be sent out within 24 hours.

    Again, thank you so much for all of your well wishes and kind words. I really feel the love here 🙂 Have a great night!

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    1. I just wanted to stop by and say THANK YOU to all those who listened to the interview tonight. I really enjoyed speaking with Tracy and interacting with you all. I will be back tomorrow to talk to you guys more.

      No thank you. your book sounds interesting. so i’m debating about getting it. 🙂 the price is more than reasonable too…I wish you all the best!!!!!

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      1. some of us need to give the gift of literacy for christmas as Tracy has said.

        good show ondrea i was really tuned in, i think your experience was something else but there are a couple of things that’s puzzling.

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      2. Ondrea,
        That’s a great price for the book. Still thinking about whether or not i wanna get it. I heard half the story, now do I want to read the whole story? Mm. I’m thinking.

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      3. That’s a great price for the book. Still thinking about whether or not i wanna get it. I heard half the story, now do I want to read the whole story? Mm. I’m thinking.
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        Whatz there to think about? Either you want the book or you don’t? But don’t be full of shit about it. 🙂

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      4. If you would like an autographed copy of How could my husband be GAY?, you can get it for $8 (plus $3.08 S/H). You can read my story for yourself and let me know what you think.
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        I should order the book since i didn’t WIN the complimentary copy. 😦

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  78. Thank you ondrea not a bad idea!
    You were awesome tonight. Your answers were not direct but thats ok maybe you didnt wanna tell it all. I look forward to part ii.

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  80. mornin everyone.
    the show last night was so intense i didn’t even breathe. i really wanted hear what ondrea had to say. i think tracy asked her all the right questions and alot of them she kinda strayed away from blog queen tried to keep her on topic. yeah see, she need to come back there are some things i still wanna know. but it was interesting.

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    1. morning pinky,
      i agree with ‘i think tracy asked her all the right questions and alot of them she kinda strayed away from’

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      3. wassup.
        so who getting her book? anybody? uptop she said she’s running a special. i don’t wanna read her book. oh hell no!!!! can’t relate to that.

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      5. al, bet you listened to the show tho
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        Oh no doubt i was spose too and was into it too…but i ain’t gotta buy her book.

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      7. Morning fam
        Y’all notice how CYRUS WEBB mentioned Tra’s show move. It was like he wanted Trace to tell the day. LOL 🙂 Did y’all peep that?

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      8. morning fam

        @sane, cyrus is covering his ass. he don’t want it to look like he kicking tracy off thursday nights all willie nillie. lol 🙂 he don’t want a boycott!!!!!!!!!!!

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  81. ok i’m debating about getting her book. it’s a story i’d never read but because she talked about how she didn’t talk about her man to her kids and how she didn’t want to be bitter, i’m thinking about it. i was so glad when Tracy brought that up.

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  83. last night’s show was something else. we need a part II dem poor babies gotta live knowing their father gay. that’s a damn shame and her husband is living that lifestyle yet she had to take the responsibility by telling them. he’s a sorry ass excuse of a man.

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  85. Ondrea “sugar coated” Tracy’s question I’m sorry. When a man wanna be with another man he is not going to have passion with a woman I don’t care if it is his wife. I think her husband used her esp. if he was struggling with his sexuality b4 they got married. I think he thought he would change the way he felt for a man but it just didn’t happen. now you have kids in the mix and that part was just Ugh!!!! Her kids don’t deserve to suffer for his decisions. He needs his ass whooped for that!

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  86. Good morning ladies and gentlemen, I wanted to come back in early this am and check in before leaving out for work. I would like to say that I definitely can’t wait to come back to the show. We could not address all we wanted to in the half an hour session.

    One of the reasons I consented to tell my story is to show the real deal about what happens in this situation. When you have not gone through this, it is very easy to say what should or shouldn’t be, what did or didn’t happen or what I should or shouldn’t have done. I totally respect everyone’s opinion, but one thing I try to get people to realize is that it is not always as cut and dry as it seems. The black and white answers that people may seek, they may not always get.

    In my situation, I honestly cannot tell you what happened to my ex to cause all of this, I can give what is just my opinion. He has never manned up and had an honest conversation with me. He always told me that he wasn’t interested in men, even after we broke up. t talked about knowing your spouse’s patterns on the show and that is what I did. In the beginning, because of the amount of time we spent together, no I do not believe he was dealing with anyone else. But after he started changing up is when my suspicions were peaked. That is when I knew something was wrong, but some of the signs were not that he was gay. Most people are looking for me to say I caught him in some type of compromising position. I didn’t. And so many women don’t.

    For a woman, many of us do not see all the signs people attack you for not seeing. I have been called everything from stupid to desperate for marrying a man I knew was gay from the beginning. Like other women, there were so many factors in my story that caused me to experience so much emotional pain and confusion. I was young when I got married, I was somewhat sheltered from my church upbringing, I was a stay at home mom with 3 kids under the age of 2 and at that time (the 90s) this lifestyle was not discussed much at all. It is not that easy to always pack up and walk away because you believe something is going on that you cannot prove.

    As far as the sex goes, like with other factors, there are so many misconceptions there. I NEVER had a problem with the passion. Even after I left him, it still had not been proven that he was gay, but I still left him because he was doing something with somebody I was out. He continued to pursue me to sleep with me. So no, he never stopped trying. Never has there been a time that we were together and he was not performing as he always did or seem disinterested.

    Hopefully, my story will bring out the point that the DL lifestyle is extremely tricky at times. The foundation of it is deceit. Deceit is not just “I’m not going to tell her”. It goes further. It says, “I am going to cover this up if it is the last thing I do.” They are not going do things that will cause alarm because they want to seem “normal”.

    I know straight men do not understand this type of situation, but one thing I always point out is that men have ladies in their lives that they care about – sisters, mom, aunts, cousins, etc. – and it can happen to anyone. Not many of the women who have ended up in this situation set out to marry a gay/DL man. The reason this life is pegged DL is because they live in such a way that no one knows. They cover their tracks. They take up for each other. It is like a secret society and there is a brotherhood. We all should take measures to make sure we and the ladies in our lives are aware of what is going on.

    Regardless of what we think and all of our opinions, this continues to happen too much and it is not because the women are stupid or desperate. It is because these men choose to deceive the people that love them. That’s the bottom line. And the children are the innocent victims that usually have no voice. The offer for the book is for those who want it, but even if you don’t buy my book, just allow my story to cause you to be more aware that this can happen. It is happening more and more. Just learn from my mistakes, keep your eyes open and don’t let it happen to you and your loved ones.

    Sorry this was so long, LOL. That is all for now, but there is more where this came from. 🙂

    Hope you ave a great day all!

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      1. Hopefully, my story will bring out the point that the DL lifestyle is extremely tricky at times. The foundation of it is deceit. Deceit is not just “I’m not going to tell her”. It goes further. It says, “I am going to cover this up if it is the last thing I do.” They are not going do things that will cause alarm because they want to seem “normal”.

        Yeah you did say that on the show last night. why say it again? heck I believe you. I think your story is real deep and I don’t think it’s like the rest. I respect your tenacity to strive and the strength you’ve gained for your children.

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      2. Wow Ondrea.
        1st I would like to say, I respect you, I respect your story and I empathize with what you went thru esp. because there are children involved. you are the author of YOUR BOOK, YOUR STORY and YOUR EXPERIENCE. You did an interview with our girl Trace who’s also an author. Please respect the fact that other people (who heard your interview) is going to have an opinion but you don’t owe them anything Boo. @ the end of the day it’s still YOUR BOOK, YOUR STORY and YOUR EXPERIENCE. We weren’t there you were. We didn’t live it you did!!! Remember that.

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      3. I Cosign Tammy.

        Ondrea, keep doing ya thing! I enjoyed hearing your experience and i hope you’ll meet a good man. Like you said your stronger now. Gotta check out ya website.

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      4. Thanks guys! You are very encouraging 🙂 Yes, you can see that I have the writing bug now, LOL. I definitely respect everyone’s viewpoint. I knew when I was writing this that there would be differences of opinions and I am totally cool with that. I agree with Tammy; it is virtually impossible to understand all of where I am coming from unless you’ve been there. So, my goal is to get the information out there and give a voice to the many women who are too embarrassed or don’t have the platform. That’s all. I hope people learn from it and avoid the mistakes I made.

        If you want more info, my facebook page is http://www.facebook.com/AuthorOndreaLDavis and my Twitter is @OndreaLDavis.

        Enjoty your weekend!

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      5. Wondering if Ondrea wrote all that because of what I said? Mm. Can’t read it all now though.

        @Sane, I cosign. That comment is REAL LONG like another book. VOL II

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      7. Ondrea I’m not going to read your comment but I just wanna say this: The devil tricked your husband. Homosexuality is NOT OF GOD! And if you came from a ministry that was stong and grounded, your spiritual leaders would have tried to help him in order to prevent him from betraying you with his now chosen lifestyle. I’m sorry but your pastor failed you and I pray to God you are apart of another ministry. If a church can’t assist the whole man then why be apart of that church?

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  88. Oh hell no I can’t read what “the special guest said” it’s too long. I’ll be here all day.

    On the interview: Thought it was supper interesting just got pissed off when she talked about what her kids have gone threw. For me they were her lil champions her strength. If no one else was for her, her children were.

    Otherwise the show was great!

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  89. Couldn’t believe when she said her husband never told their kids he was gay? I was like ‘this punk as omnfucker’ !!!

    There are so many questions Trace couldn’t ask. This girl gotta come back to COS in 2013.

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  90. In reality, listening to Ondrea talk last night on Tracy’s show scared the crap outta me. I pray no man will ever decieve me like she was decieved. ;( It’s really scary when you think about it.

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