This article is not only shocking but down right disgusting! A union is between a man and a woman, a husband a wife; for two are to unite not three. The third person in a marriage should be God, not another woman or another man. But in this article, this married man is in love with a man.
I’m a 57-year-old man. Fat. Bald. I have a wife I like. And a boyfriend I love. I’ve been “happily” married for over 37 years. Yet I’ve been leading a secret double life since I turned 50. In the age of Lady Gaga and her mainstream kink videos, a married man in love and having sex with another man is one of the final taboos. I used to think that myself. Nobody talks about it. There aren’t books or movies about it. It’s the ultimate closet.
What I’ve learned in these past few years is that men, even married men, can fall in love with men. A “bromance” can naturally involve touching and it’s completely normal. This is what men have been doing since the start of time, and what men are made to do.
I’m not going to feel bad about who I am — I did that for long enough. In the immortal words of Popeye, “I yam what I yam.” In the mortal words of Lady Gaga, “I was born this way.”
I will say it and say it again, YOU ARE NOT BORN GAY!!!! THAT’S A LIE FROM THE PIT OF HELL PEOPLE!!!! God is God and He is all-knowing… and God knew his intent in making woman for man, point-blank-period!
My boyfriend knows about my wife. She doesn’t know about him. Yes, it’s a problem that I’m married. It’s sad. I care for my wife and I don’t want to hurt her, which is one of the reasons why I’ve kept it secret for so long. I’m not putting her at physical risk, but the emotional risk is very real. I’m truly sorry about that.
So to hell with his wife, so what if she dies from aids or catch an STD, it’s about living a double life of fulfilling and satisfying a selfish need. Wow!
You’re not the same person at 50 you were at 20 (if you are you haven’t grown). So we are different people, stuck in the same institution.
I had been “curious” as a teenager and had one encounter with a friend. It wasn’t a good experience, I didn’t like it, so I convinced myself I never needed to do it again. Then I spent almost 30 years being faithful (the last 10 of those being celibate).
But if you’re curious, or at least not totally afraid of the idea of being with another man, those feelings never go away. Never. There are online support groups for married men who are curious, and that’s a constant. Once you have that urge, you always have that urge.
Sex is completely natural and normal for every creature on this planet — even sex among males. Sex feels good for a reason, and that reason isn’t solely so that we’ll procreate within the bounds of a marriage.
Sex is normal. Sex is natural. Sex is good.
Love is even better.
Even so, I wasn’t looking for love, I was looking for real male-bonding, friendship, a physical connection, and acceptance.
Once I was absolutely clear about that, I put a very specific ad on Craigslist and met another man looking for the same thing. I’ll go into details about this handsome, sweet, smart, funny, creative, kind, beautiful man soon.
Neither of us planned on falling in love. It wasn’t a decision or choice, it was a spiritual connection on the very deepest level. And for the first time in my life, it’s a complete love, spiritual, emotional and physical — and it’s completely honest, with no lies or omissions.
Love is a beautiful thing. And while I know that our love will hurt my wife, I also know it’s right. I know it with all my heart. And then maybe she can find real love, too.
If he was so in love with this man, he would tell his wife and set them both free; but instead he chooses to stay on the downlow in order to live an outward appearance of normality. I could respect him more if he was openly gay but he’s having the best of both his worlds with his double lifestyle.