That’s what Mo’Nique said on her show, as she went into what women need to do in order to keep a man happy in a relationship. Mo’Nique and her guests seem to think that black women work too hard to take control in their relationships.
Her disposition seems to imply that black women have been taught to be too independent and this leads to the breakdown of their relationships. This is not only the case with black women but all women of different races as well.
She actually says that black women “ sit down” (in the bathroom) for a reason and that men “stand up” for a reason. Obviously, this rhetoric may not sit well with many black women, but some of you may wonder if Mo’Nique has a point.
On the Mo’Nique’s show which airs on BET, a couple provides an interesting perspective on black women being subservient to their men. That’s all well and good, if a women is subservient to the right man, who’ll respect her modesty in order to submit to such a will.
If you care to see the video from Mo’Nique’s show, follow my link here!
Conversations Of A Sistah 
with her open marriage she can’t be givin any advice on love. sorry MO not on this one Boo.
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You gotta be married in order for that submission shit to work.
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You gotta be married in order for that submission shit to work.
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married, payin my bills and takin care of me. 🙂
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Both people in the relationship have to WANT the committment.
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MONIQUE CAN’T GIVE AWAY ANY ADVICE ON RELATIONSHIPS…SORRY…..I LIKE HER WORK BUT SHE IS DEF. NOT THE MANTRA OF BLACK LOVE. SMH NO!!!!!!!!
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MONIQUE CAN’T GIVE AWAY ANY ADVICE ON RELATIONSHIPS…SORRY…..I LIKE HER WORK BUT SHE IS DEF. NOT THE MANTRA OF BLACK LOVE. SMH NO!!!!!!!!
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MO is in and open relationship with her husband which means they can BOTH do what they want, then bring anything back to their bed. No thank you Mo, keep it movin boo.
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Relationship advice from a women who’s married to a DL brotha and they have an open relationship? No thanks won’t even see the video.
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Yes women are independent because they have been taught to work hard and take of yourself (not all women) but those who value their independency have.
Teamindependentsistas!!!!!!
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Mo’Nique need to stay with comedy. Just becuz she have a show don’t mean she’s in a position to be handing out relationship advice. what works for you may not work for another couple.
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I’ll submit to my man, sure will, provided I remain a full partner in the relationship. 🙂
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Maybe in an ideal world the black woman might submit to the black man, if she respects him enough and he’s worthy of it.
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Don’t start talkin shit ladies, submission is for a husband not a boyfriend! let’s not get shit twisted…you submit to a man when you’re in a committed relationship and he respects your mind, body and opinion. outside of that you would be selling yourselves short!
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you submit to a man when you’re in a committed relationship and he respects your mind, body and opinion. outside of that you would be selling yourselves short!
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I know you mean marriage right? Because Monique’s asinine statement regarding single women being single because they won’t submit is beyond ridiculous!!!! She is one dumb bitch. I would never SUBMIT to man I’m not married too!
Knew there was a reason I don’t watch her show.
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waiting for civil to confirm what he meant by -> you submit to a man when you’re in a committed relationship
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I know you mean marriage right?
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of course I meant marriage. you can be in a committed dating relationship but submission comes after marriage ladies by all means.
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Lets define submission ya’ll:
a). a willingness to yield or surrender to somebody, or the act of doing so
b). total submission to authority
oh hell yeah those terms gotta be for marriage cuz the only person (right now) who has authorty over me is my daddy, why? Because he’s taking care of me and paying my tuition. #endofstory
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Hey Ya’ll, I agree.
I can’t conceive the idea of just submitting to just any ole man.
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so a wife’s job is save her energy to fuck her man after working all day, coming home to cook and take care of his snot nose kids? They sound dumb as all hail and listening to that bullshit pissed me off!!!!
Oh and we’re suppose to be into his dreams? fuck ours? GTFOH!!!! Mo is bugging, I won’t even take what I heard seriously cause it’s a bunch of bullshit.
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Nothing wrong with submitting to a man, if he is submitted/committed to GOD. A man that finds a wife finds a good thing and he treats her like something GOOD!!!
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Nothing wrong with submitting to a man, if he is submitted/committed to GOD. A man that finds a wife finds a good thing and he treats her like something GOOD!!!
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Amen!!!!! Best comment I’ve read thus far!!!!!!
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Good morning 🙂
That was just for you, I knew you’d like that!
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What a load of pure unadulterated BULLSHIT!!!!! from everyone who spoke on the subject.
The husband lives in dreamland, his wife is ditzy and Mo’Nique is just a dumbass asinine trick.
Please, folks, get a life and use your head!!!! The best thing that Mo’Nique can do is back away from the table and shut her mouth!!!!!!!!!
They all sound stoopid!
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“A man must deserve the respect he demands.”
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Black women cannot be expected to submit to their men *until* our men can show us that they are ready to take their rightful places, in our homes, in society, in their communities as the *man* with all that being a real man entails.
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Oh Please!!!!
Monique is not a good role model n she damn sure ain’t got good sense, not on this subject!
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Really MoNique?
I believe in letting “a man be a man” to an extent. But her statement proves she is no role model and apparently not qualified to speak for any of us!
ASHANTI, I agree.
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It’s so apparent that you can’t take advice from just any ole body just because they on tv and have a talk show. her words don’t substaniate shit! IMO.
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It’s so apparent that you can’t take advice from just any ole body just because they on tv and have a talk show. her words don’t substaniate shit! IMO.
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Cosign!!!! I don’t even watch her show @ASHANTI, so you know damn well I ain’t tryna hear SHIT she gotta say.
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I love my black brothas I do, and understand some of our control issues (as a black woman), but relationships do not work out just because a woman “submits.” That part is so unrealistic!
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relationships do not work out just because a woman “submits.” That part is so unrealistic!
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some expectations in a relationship are unrealistic.
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The only man that truly deserve submission is GOD
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The only man that truly deserve submission is GOD
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Yes we know this but in a marriage there are two tangible human beings who must do that (submit to God) collectively. but thanks for always reminding us of Him and dragging him into our every discussion here on this blog.
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All my bitches betta submit whether we married or not.
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STHU!!!! cause we all know you ain’t married and don’t have no real bitches that’ll put up wit ya monkey ass.
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All my bitches betta submit whether we married or not.
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Oh STHU wit ya WISHFUL THINKING azz.
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LOL 🙂 @ ->WISHFUL THINKING azz.
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some of us (black women) are so independent and strong, (we can lift cars and change the oil in them) because we do what we NEED to do in order to survive. we independent women sometimes don’t know how to let a man BE the man and lead. when we see one and experience one, then we’ll let one. how bout that Mo’Nique. In the meantime STHU!!!!!!!
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What is this, husband no. 3 for Mo and in order to keep #3 he gotta be able to screw whom ever he want?
I will pass on the advise.
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I will pass on the advise.
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i cosign that!
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I will pass on the advise.
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me too that’s why I hear *crickets* in here don’t nobody care what Mo is saying.
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I will pass on the advise.
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DIDO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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shut up monique. ain’t none of us tryna hear you.
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where is ms. bell?
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she’s M.I.A…….noticed that long time ago. girly girl prbly gone already for the weekend.
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where’s erbody at???
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Holiday weekend, i’m sure many people been cut out.
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I agree with Mo somewhat. I do believe we Women need to sit our @$$3$ down and allow our kings to reign. However; You have to also know your role as a Queen so when he gets outta hand OFF WITH HIS HEAD!!!!!
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No offense, some of you ladies here take it a little to far. Submitting to your man doesn’t mean you have to be his slave. All she is saying is that you cant really be the boss and expect to keep a man. Men are natural leaders and we need a women who can sometimes just follow our lead. ima give yall an analogy right now cause i jus scrolled up again n read some of yall shit n some of you bitches is jus plain stupid, and actually think your relationship will work 50/50(it can but most likely it wont), its like yall wan stand up on the same pedestal where men stand. you have your own place. anyways my analogy involves batman n robin> think of your relationship as batman n robin . Now ladies, there can only be one batman in this relationship, and its not you. stop tryna be batman, your man is batman. you can be robin, batgirl, the joker, it dont matter>>>> my point is for this relationship to work robin(you ladies) must sometimes submit to batman and follow his lead okay. its as simple as that> it doesnt make you any less of a women to submit to a man, its natural actually, stop twisting the word submit in your head as a weak think, theres nothing weak about submitting, know your role ladies n stop tryna compete with batman ight.
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Monique is a loud-mouthed, overemphasizing baffoon. Those jokers she had on her show are swingers too. They are all making a mockery of marriage and have no credibility…Period. And I’m not going to comment on the submission piece because there will never be a concensus on that but I will say (and no disrespect to anyone) that I’ve read the comments on this thread and I don’t agree with “street knowledge.” Stay loved ppl!
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