You cannot make a man marry you, nor can you make him love you., these two, very important instincts should be initiated by the man.
One of these questions came to me via email from a loyal reader:
Tracy I’ve been with this man for over a year and I have been everything he wants and more. I keep myself up and I work out and I look damn good whenever we hit the town and I present myself like a lady. I made it very clear to him that I’m not trying to do this dating thing for too long because I’m not getting any younger and he isn’t either!
He’s 30 and had his time to play around in the streets with the chicks who came before me but now it’s time for him to put a ring on it. I’m about to be 28 and I have a very strict timeline that I’ve told him about and he acted like he was okay with it. I want to be engaged by the time I’m 29 and married by 30 I’ve said it over and over but he hasn’t bought it to the forefront of discussion as a matter of fact he avoids it.
I don’t want to waste my time but he needs to step up to the plate. I have a job, I don’t have kids and not to blow my own horn but I’m physically attractive. He’s educated and got a good job so I don’t understand the hold up. He needs to put a ring on it asap. How do I get this message across to him because I can’t wait much longer. Your advice would be appreciated.
This letter is so simple and easy…The decision to marry has to be initiated by the man, in Proverbs 18:22, it states: “Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing”, your man has to recognize that you’re his good thing!
If he doesn’t, then you have to move on and not waste anymore time in a relationship with him that will not herald the results that you want. And this simply means, that you’re not pressuring him into a decision but you both don’t want the same things.
There are so many other issues I touched on with this reader, who failed to mention one very important thing: LOVE – marriage is serious and should not be ‘entered into’ lightly but should mean for the rest of your life…I wished her luck and advised her to be prayerful.
What do you want to tell her? She’ll be reading your comments below.
Conversations Of A Sistah 
why everything gotta fall on the man Trace?
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Ace, men were created by God to be the pilagers, to gain and conquer, you didn’t know that fool? If you want a women who will chase you, trust she will be chasing someone else as well.
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If you want a women who will chase you, trust she will be chasing someone else as well.
So true @Spice, my homey was in heaven cause his wife chased him down during their courtship., 5 years into the marriage she cheated on him, and treated him like shit!!!! ran after other niccas the very same way she ran after him.
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I cosign @Sane, Men enjoy the chase
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I cosign @Sane, Men enjoy the chase >> But some women don’t! they think a timeline is the key. but you don’t ever force a man to marry you. oh no.
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why everything gotta fall on the man Trace? >>> well who wants an aggressive woman? i know i don’t…you wanna turn me off run after me and have no substance, i’ll run the other way.
the man pursues the woman @ace, blog queen knows exactly what she’s talking about.
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I cosign @Q
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“Whoever finds a wife”
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That “WHOEVER” is the man people.
I like how Tracy give Godly advice this means that your words can be trusted, i don’t just take advice from any ole body but you told this reader correct and according to the Word of God. I respect you for that!
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@Rezzie, have you read Tracy’s book, ‘Conversations of a sistah?’ she gets a bit deeper.
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have you read Tracy’s book, ‘Conversations of a sistah?’
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@QTip, your question should be for the chick who wrote Trace this letter.
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have you read Tracy’s book, ‘Conversations of a sistah?’ >> Oh God she should!!! blog queen’s book is the prime example as to how you don’t run after a man.
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blog queen’s book is the prime example as to how you don’t run after a man.…
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Really? Blog Queen’s book is for young girlz IMO, women aint sittin around waitin for a man to approach them or pop the question, you’ll be waitin 4ever!
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Um @Angelhair, I notice you in every conversation except the one that counts and that’s the post entitled “the nerve of some ceo readers” take ya azz over there and read what we saying about that intsead of lurking ova here.
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@Rezzie, have you read Tracy’s book, ‘Conversations of a sistah?’ she gets a bit deeper.
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I read it…hope she suggested it to this reader.
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Trace you on point!!!! you know ya shit girl!!! 🙂
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Trace you on point!!!! you know ya shit girl!!! >>>> she does and for that she don’t play nor will she waste her time or allow anyone else too.
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Seriously tho, this bish sounds stupid!! On what planet does she reside? And Beyonce should go to effin jail for her coonery of ‘put a ring on it’!! Nonsense
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And Beyonce should go to effin jail for her coonery of ‘put a ring on it’!!
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I disagree….thats real, if a man don’t want you to get away, he should ‘put a ring on it’ if he love you he should ‘put a ring on it’ and if wants to spend the rest of his life with you
he should ‘put a ring on it’
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And Beyonce should go to effin jail for her coonery of ‘put a ring on it’!!
Beyonce already got her ring, you chickens keep riding her shit like its the gospel and see where it gets you.
This dude is pushin this girl’s azz to the left.
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I agree Ladies, Keep letting Beyonce songs dictate your life and thats what you get.
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Thank you! That song took on a life of it’s own! It’s like…something a lot of women are LIVING by now. I blame Jay-Z
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That picture speaks a MILLION words! LOL!
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Tracy, did homegirl say whether or not she gave up the pussy?
cause all (men) (all) love to smash, so I wager that she gave up the ‘p’.
If so, Game over. She’s way too easy
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I agree, everyone samples from the FREE SAMPLE plate…but only a few actually buy when they can get it for free.
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what is she really expecting to hear? Tracy told her seriously and correct….
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But some women think there’s this magical way into making these things happen. they want a ‘how to’ book…dumb azzes!
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she really don’t know why he ain’t put a ring on it??? I’ma let her in on a little secret….all that “I wanna be engaged at 29, married at 30″…is NOT helping your cause!!! STOP with the damn time table.
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STOP with the damn time table – I agree….that’s the biggest trick! You’ll be 30, married, unhappy and miserable.
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This is where we as women Fuck up…
If he loves it he should put a ring on it…,if he like it he’s gonna smash it and keep it movin.
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If he loves it he should put a ring on it
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I cosign…if there’s no love, there’s no real relationship.
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Maybe she’s in love and he isn’t.
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Maybe she’s in love and he isn’t.
Then he isn’t ready 4marriage and she should move on., if it’s meant 2be then they’ll be 2gether eventually.
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it could just be that he’s not ready. She sounds like an impatient, conceited lil brat if you ask me.
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So basically she’s supposedly the total package and he’s the crazy one?
I’m leaning towards committment issues on his part @DAISY, but I feel she might be something to do for him until something BETTER comes along.
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LMAO Tracy!!!! That pic is tooooo funny!!!
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I feel where you coming from mah, but marrriage to some people mean different things than to others.
I am 29 years old, black, handsome (if u ask me), educated (college degree), have a good job, and am God fearing…BUT it took me 5 years to propose to my girl…and I met her while we were in college!
We started off as friends…good friends, and then naturally things matured, but she recently started voicing the fact that we had been together for a LONG time and I hadn’t stepped up.
But my reasoning was that we were long distance, and I felt we had to agree on where we wanted to live before I should even ask her.
I live in FL she lives in Detroit (enuff said). We love each other more than the world, and I couldnt see myself with anyone else…so I asked her to marry me.
BUT this was after me really knowing what I was getting into.,,and for most men it takes longer than 1 or 2 years!
And dont forget…having God at the center of your relationship…is what’s most important not the timeline Boo.
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Maybe you have all the qualities you mentioned but your personality sucks.
Maybe you’re not mentally stimulating enough, maybe you’re boring.
Maybe it’s you and not him. Maybe he doesn’t have a five-year plan for his romantic life.
Maybe he doesn’t care about any of that shit you just listed.
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Maybe he doesn’t care about any of that shit you just listed.
Then he don’t love her if that’s the case.
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No she just needs to chill out. If she loves him and he loves her then he is not going nowhere.
She needs to stop acking like she is the only woman out there and if he does not marry her he is going to lose her, because it would be her losing the good thing.
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There are MILLIONS OF GOOD BLACK WOMAN WHO ARE SINGLE AND GOT THEIR STUFF TOGETHER.
THERE ARE ONLY A SMALL AMOUNT OF SINGLE, NOT GAY, OR DL BROTHAS WHO ARE NOT IN JAIL, OR HAVE 6 BABY MOMMAS.
If she has a good dude she just needs to sit back and enjoy the ride.. REAL TALK!
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A message to the man she is talking about… RUN AND RUN FAST
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And this simply means, that you’re not pressuring him into a decision but you both don’t want the same things.
This is most def a marriage that will not last. She didn’t say nothing about what matters to him. They have only been together for a year, and she wants the man to make a life long decision based on a year of dating. She needs to put the breaks on.
This is exactly why marriage don’t last, cause we men feel pressured to do the right thing when we know we are not ready.
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WHY WOULD ANY MAN WANT TO GET MARRIED NOW A DAYS WHEN THERE IS A THING CALLED DIVORCE?
THAT DOES NOT MAKE ANY SINCE. I’M NOT GETTING MARRIED TO WORK HELLA YEARS TO BUILD SOMETHING, JUST TO HAVE TO LOSE IT ALL IN A DIVORCE.
I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF A MAN WHO GETS WHAT HE IS ACCUSTOM TOO. WOMAN GET EVERYTHING IN A MERRIAGE, MEN GET NOTHING BUT SEX.. AINT THAT A BITCH.
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U r not the one sweetie and he is not ready to be married.
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Within the first 6 months you can usually tell if a man wants to marry you.
Do yourself a favor: keep dating and meeting new people and be open to new possibilities.
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That is not true @Tabatha,
it takes a man longer then six months to know. Six months is lust time, everything is fresh and new. You can’t wait to see each other. You are still learning what eachother likes. I think after year three you will know if he wants to marry you, because that is when real life sets in. By then you have some bad arguements and may have even broke up. Ya’ll might live together, and share bills. So real life has set in. If it is still going good by year three.
Then marriage can be considered.
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truth be told! He’s NOT READY!
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Sounds like he’s not…and Trace told her right, a man needs to be ready first.
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I’m sorry but a year is to early to be putting a ring on it and I’m a female.
He’s not suppose to put a ring on it just because your clock is ticking and your reaching 28 that’s why the divorce rates are high.
What would you do if you met a guy at 30, is he suppose to marry you that year because of your strict timeline? GTFOH!
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you’re not good enough.
You’re not his good thing…
your milk isn’t the best milk ever so why buy the cow.
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@Slick, don’t be MEAN!!!! this girl is obvious a reader here.
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If she acted like she could care less about marriage–or him for that matter, she would have had a ring by now.
I have been proposed to twice and never once did I tell a man that I wanted or needed to get married, or even worse, had a timeline for it. I predict this guy will dump her in a few months.
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I think her problem is that she is too fucking needy! And that is a turn off to men!
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I have been proposed to twice and never once did I tell a man that I wanted or needed to get married, or even worse, had a timeline for it.
I predict this guy will dump her in a few months.
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TELL ‘EM!!!!!!!
That’s right and it is the truth and I’m certain this relationship will end in a few months also…
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Stop getting in these stupid azz “relationship” traps! Never be “exclusive” with any man without the agreement that this is moving you both towards marriage.
don’t move in with him either, date other guys (NOT have sex with other guys), spend equally time with other important ppl in your life and focus on YOU!
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good advice! I agree!
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A guy who truly can’t live without you will fall out of that dating pool saying “I hear you and I want the same things too!”
If you’re feeling him then except his “exclusive” commitment with the idea that you’re only doing this to get married!
This will save a lot of chicks time and efforts!
Don’t fall into no silly mindless traps with these men – don’t play wifey and babymomma to someone just becuz you believe you don’t want no one else to have him!!!
If he aint having you then he might as well have someone else!!!
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1.) A year is nothing. Women can pretend to be any and everything a man needs for an entire year to get that ring. Your relationship hasn’t been tested.
2.) Yes, he has a job, but is there debt? Is he where he wants to be in his career?
3.) Do you guys live together yet?
4.) Maybe its something you said or did to make him doubt you’re wife material, communicate and work on it.
5.) Was there even an understanding that you guys were BOTH looking for marriage? If so, he’s not looking to marry you or anywhere close to that stage if he’s dodging the topic like that.
Be the total package because you love the man, not because your objective is to get the ring. Us men see that and makes us think as soon as that ring is gotten everything a woman used to do will stop.
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Be the total package because you love the man, not because your objective is to get the ring. Us men see that and makes us think as soon as that ring is gotten everything a woman used to do will stop.
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I cosign!
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2.) Yes, he has a job, but is there debt? Is he where he wants to be in his career?
I cosign that, that man needs to be able to take care of his home and provide for his wife and family.
That’s very important, that man has to figure some shit out!
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I have been everything he wants and more. I keep myself up and I work out and I look damn good whenever we hit the town and I present myself like a lady.
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Yeah, so you think… SMMFH…
Some of those “tone deaf” contestants on American Idol think they’re the undiscovered talent that’s gonna win the contest too… AND some of them say they’re teachers/vocal coaches also, LOL…
If you’re such a great catch why hasn’t any man put a ring on your finger yet???
That’s the problem with some of you females, you think that you’re a whole lot more than you actually are…
Ms. Lady, think about this = Have you ever known a woman that is pleasant, has a great personality and is fun to be with to ever be without a man???
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That’s the problem with some of you females, you think that you’re a whole lot more than you actually are…
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Funny how you pointed that out. she does sound cocky.
Funny thing is that the women who think they are just the shit are the ones who go to bed at night LONELY. Perhaps somebody’s been feeding their ego? Or they’re just somehow overly confident?
Cockiness is a turnoff to men, but many women don’t realize it I suppose. Giving a man a deadline for marriage will make him feel like he HAS to, and if he really loves her, he’ll probably fall into the trap.
Once you get married, that’s when you REALLY get to know somebody. I can only imagine what she’d be like after she finally gets “the ring”. The marriage won’t last. Sometimes it takes decades to find the right one.
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If you’re such a great catch why hasn’t any man put a ring on your finger yet???
One thing I feel is that marriage is losing its meaning. These women treat marriage as a trap, some make it seem casual.
They have the mentality that: “if things don’t work out, that’s what divorces are for.” What the fuck?!
When you look for a wife/husband, you need to treat marriage as if there is no way out. When you get married, you’re SUPPOSE to stick together. Punks use divorce lawyers like tap water. This woman is rushing into things and being selfish. Not once did she mention how he feels. Probably because she’s too busy whining about her wants. Won’t give him the opportunity to speak for himself.
Women, learn how to STFU sometimes and listen to your men. They’re not lap dogs that you just order around. SMH
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Punks use divorce lawyers like tap water
This bish only knew him for a lil bit over a year and shes talking about marriage …shes definitely gonna run him off!
28 years old is still young and its not about age its about when both of yall are ready this is the reason why theres so many divorces because people get married for the wrong reason!
Never rush a guy into marriage because he will keep reminding you and when you get into an arguement the first thing he will say is “i didnt want to get married you forced me too” then you’ll regret it
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I couldn’t agree with you more. It sounds like she is loosing sight of the real thing. Having strict timelines makes a relationship pretty superficial. You make decisions based on the wrong reasons and there it puts the whole relationship in jeopardy.
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Seriously though, why do you want to marry this man? At no point in your letter did you even mention that you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with this man.
Besides looking good, having a job and being his arm candy, you failed to mention what more you bring to the table and what you’re doing to show him that you’re marriage material.
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Sounds like, she has the BODY, but no BRAINS. Dude would be making the mistake of his life marrying somebody so shallow.
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At no point in your letter did you even mention that you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with this man.
I agree @Random, Maybe he doesn’t want to make such a big commitment….hmmm???
And maybe she is just in love w/ the idea of being married…marriage is not easy and that’s probably why dude isn’t trying to get married.
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What’s beautiful on the outside doesn’t always hold beauty on the inside.
Sometimes we need to take a step back to ask a simple question: ‘am I in love with being in love?’.
If you think a timeline is important to you, you are sadly mistaken. Marriage is more than love; it is a covenant governed by Christ! Marriage is unity; not a title to be empowered by!
This is a commitment that last until death!
Can we take this seriously!! Does it matter that he haven’t asked yet, have you tried to propose?
If you are waiting on him, and if this love is meant to be, your love will be. Those that rush in2 marriage are usually those that later rush out of marriage.
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have you tried to propose?
What dumb ass woman is going to propose to a man? I wouldn’t…
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What dumb ass woman is going to propose to a man?
the man finds the wife, so isn’t it out of order for a women to propose to a man in the 1st place? that’s a bit aggressive IMO.
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Women who propose to men i gaurentee dat shit won’t last. i wouldn’t want no woman proposing to me.
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i wouldn’t want no woman proposing to me.
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really now? i thought you were big pimpin? lol
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What dumb ass woman is going to propose to a man? >> I cosign @ Corp: one who’s desperate and don’t know her role or place in the relationship.
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Maybe the reason why he ain’t put a ring on it yet is because he’s doing what every young man in a relationship should do – study his future prospective mother in law real good because the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. Like mother, like daughter.
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Maybe the reason why he ain’t put a ring on it yet is because he’s doing what every young man in a relationship should do – study his future prospective mother in law real good because the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. Like mother, like daughter.
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Oh lawd, who’s mama don’t or didn’t like you Boo?
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This letter is so simple and easy…The decision to marry has to be initiated by the man, in Proverbs 18:22, it states: “Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing”, your man has to recognize that your his good thing!
Great Response Tracy!
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I say: Date, date, date, have fun and for Christ sake, whatever you do, do not pester your guy about marriage.
When a guy is ready you’ll know and it is the sweetest thing, you will be able to gloat about it, knowing that his decision was not pressured and it probably came from somewhere deep.
Men generally don’t make or take these kind of decisions lightly. Live your life girly…
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The only time he will propose to you is when he is sure that you are the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
if he doesn’t feel that way, no matter how much pressure you put on him, it just will not happen.
plus you don’t just want to marry the wrong guy, just take time and see if you two are truly meant to be.
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I think she needs to let it go and move on!
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“Put a ring on it?” Girl kill yoself. You can listen to Beyonce if you want, but marriage ain’t about a ring, period.
It sounds like you are more concerned with sticking to your timeline than a true, stable, loving, committed, fufilling marriage. smh
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“Put a ring on it?”
I don’t understand why heffas listen to Beyonce, whose husband still sleeps with groupies, while she IGNORES it! Some life to live! Lol!!
I’m thinkin dude hasn’t asked her to marry him, simply because he doesnt WANT to!
Best advice…Love it or Leave it!!
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Well my sista, love has no time limit. If you are that serious than tell him once more, let him read our comments, then you take it from there. ………… Do it NOW!
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love has no time limit
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Hey Gabby,
studies show that the average man doesn’t consider settling down/getting married until they are 35.
Seems to me like she has some dependency issues.
I suggest getting a dog instead. They’re MUCH cheaper than a wedding and have a NO COST divorce fee! (i.e…the pound – LOL)
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Damn…they’ve only been together a little over a year?!?!?! Hell, the ink on their first date movie ticket ain’t even dry – what’s the rush???
SHE’S 28, NOT TERMINALLY ILL! I see why he won’t marry her – she’s too pushy (and boarder line psycho IMO).
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I still haven’t figured out why simple azz women live their lives waiting 4 marriage n kids…really? Focus on more important shit and Stop looking 4 a man 2 make ur life happy and complete.
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Stop looking 4 a man 2 make ur life happy and complete
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I cosign:
1. Learn 2 be happy wit yourself and who u r. Once ur happy u can make some1 else happy.
2. Quit worrying about physical n material objects. Learn 2 live n laugh then it will b easier 2 love n b loved.
3. N once that happens everything else will fall in place.
If u have to point out to some1 how lucky they r 2 have u then u already lost bc a man should already know that he lucky n found a winner!!!!
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I see some big problems here. No man likes to be rushed into a commitment. It makes a person feel trapped.
Secondly, nagging the man and y’all aren’t even engaged, is only going to get worst after marriage and many folks aren’t trying to have that.
Thirdly, she’s coming off as arrogant, how is her relationship with his friends and family? If a man wants to marry you, he will. But rushing him into something, wether he’s ready or not, will make him run.
It seems to me that he may be biding his time waiting for someone better.
Lastly, the time they were together doesn’t matter, I was married within 10 months of meeting my husband, no we didn’t have a shot gun wedding, when it’s right you know. Its good she has her conditions but she shouldn’t try to force them on anyone.
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And if he does marry her, he might as well go to PetSmart and buy a leash. Because that is what he will be on throughout the duration of this marriage. Girl put those Steve Harvey books down and work on yourself first.
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Never met this sista but I am damn terrified of her. She Sounds like a control freak. Who’s the reader @Trace
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Who’s the reader @Trace
Trace aint giving this ‘reader’ away. she never does.
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Who’s the reader @Trace
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Let’s lurk and see who hasn’t commented on the subject and we may be able to figure it out.
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Who’s the reader @Trace
yall NOSY!!!!! When most of yall don gave the girl your nasty 2 cents, why should she give herself away. I wouldn’t!
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Who’s the reader @Trace
wonder if the reader even asked tra to share her letter?
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HE DONT WANNA MARRY HER HE’S CHEATING AND JUST WANT HER AROUND TO MILK THE COW SINCE ITS FREE LOL.
IF HE WANTED TO MARRY THIS CHICK HE WOULD OF MARRIED OR PROPOSED TO HER BY NOW.
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HE DONT WANNA MARRY HER HE’S CHEATING AND JUST WANT HER AROUND TO MILK THE COW SINCE ITS FREE LOL.
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Your comment is not even funny fool! and what you said was cruel. you don’t know dude from a ‘adams house cat’ so for you to say ‘he’s cheatin’ is so whacked!
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HE DONT WANNA MARRY HER HE’S CHEATING AND JUST WANT HER AROUND TO MILK THE COW SINCE ITS FREE
But I totally agree with Art!!!!……..this guy is milking another cow, can you say MOO!
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“How do I get this message across to him because I can’t wait much longer.”
There’s the problem right there. who wants to be bullied into a marriage??
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Women need to start enjoying being with themselves first. Travel, further your education and later focus on that…….but i’d give the person i’m with 2 yrs max to propose…..
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I agree BAMMA:
Some women really need to get a darn life. When you have planned out your “life” to the exact years that you want to be engaged, married and have children, you are in turn setting yourself up for failure and resentment if you don’t meet those bench marks.
The notion of finding a man to put a ring on it is so archaic and backwards, so much so; some seem to fail to realize the danger of this mindset.
Marriage has little or nothing do with the ring and a wedding, these are just symbols of the occasion.
Marriage is a partnership and should not be misconstrued as a fantasy fairy tail or opportunity to show off in front of your friends and family.
Beyonce’s song is a vapid rendition of her inner most fears about being alone for the rest of her life.
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YOU’VE ONLY BEEN W/HIM A YEAR.
JUST RUSHING TO GET MARRIED. SLOW DOWN, ERASE THE TIMELINE, AND MARRY RIGHT.
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PEOPLE TODAY TAKE THIS MARRIAGE THING JUST FOR STATUS AND PROFILING.
YOU NEED TO RESEARCH ABOUT MARRIED COUPLES CELEBRATING THEM 25 YEAR ANNIVERSARIES AND STUFF LIKE THAT <~ COMPARE IT TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP THEN YOU BE THE JUDGE.
LOTS OF FACTORS ARE INVOLVED WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE..
WHEN A MAN MARRY YOU, YOU REPRESENT HIM IN THE WORLD, YOU REPRESENT HIS FAMILY, SO THINK ABOUT IT
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It’s as serious as you make it!
Marriage is a union, under God…It takes work…..We as black people barely have that example, especially when we were and are scientifically designed to destroy everything nice in our lives. Whether it be a Simple Thought, it will kurve your perception of the issue.
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especially when we were and are scientifically designed to destroy everything nice in our lives.
WTF? Are you trying to say that black people are destructive? The black family is on the decline yes, but there are plenty of examples of healthy black relationships with both parents in the home. Don’t go there.
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“The black family is on the decline yes, but there are plenty of examples of healthy black relationships with both parents in the home” President Obama and his wife are 1, Will and Jada Smith, Angela Basset and Courtney Vance and Denzel Washington and his wife Paulette.
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Thank you @Zenna.
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You know something strange? i read that whole paragraph and i didnt see the word “Love” written anywhere. is this what marriage is about these days? im pretty sure the girl have a good job so why not? i think it would be irresponsible for the two of them to get married and bring a child into this world without love between them.
That’s why I wanna marry Trace, because I love her and KNOW IT!
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That’s why I wanna marry Trace, because I love her and KNOW IT!
But does she??
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Big Belly, you are so right! This woman never once mentioned that she loved or even cared for her man. She’s demonstrating that she is definitely NOT ready for marriage.
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BUT, I do feel that people need to look at marriage the same as they would when going into business with someone. Marriage is like a contract: you have expectations and stipulations that you want met. However, what “Ms. Put-A-Ring-On-It” is leaving out is the love, admiration, and inspiration from her relationship.
I mean, she is definitely missing out if she’s not feeling that feeling of “I can’t wait to get home to be with my man”! Right?
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Right?
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if he won’t put a ring on it girl, get in the muthafuckin wind.
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FYI: for all the younger folk out there; life doesn’t suck or even stop at 30…it gets better point blank, so enjoy and don’t fall for the laundry list of “before I’m 30″ crap.
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You can’t plan your life!!
As the Jamaican saying goes, “While you a make plans, God will do a wipe out!!”
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This girl sound pathetic! i wouldn’t pressure my man to marry me…oh hell nah, it’s like Tracy aka blog queen said: if ya man don’t recognize that your his good thing, move on!!!!
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I agree with you Keisha, but some women don’t have the confidence to move on.
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You need to be dating other men at the same time. Here is what might happen…your man will realize he does really love and want you when he sees another man might take you…he knows you are right there waiting for him, you are no challenge and he has no chance to let love grow in his heart because you give him no space. The other side is you will meet a man that really wants to marry you..and the biggest thing here is the reason YOU need to date others (not sleep with, DATE) is that you dont seem to love him…I want you to date and fall in love with someone….also so what you got a hot bod…you think that last you foolish girl? SHeeyit..its the emotional connection that lasts, not your damn ass girl…if that was the case only 20 year old super models would be married. WAKE UP!!
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