February 3, 2011 by The ReadyWriter
You cannot make a man marry you, nor can you make him love you., these two, very important instincts should be initiated by the man.
One of these questions came to me via email from a loyal reader:
Tracy I’ve been with this man for over a year and I have been everything he wants and more. I keep myself up and I work out and I look damn good whenever we hit the town and I present myself like a lady. I made it very clear to him that I’m not trying to do this dating thing for too long because I’m not getting any younger and he isn’t either!
He’s 30 and had his time to play around in the streets with the chicks who came before me but now it’s time for him to put a ring on it. I’m about to be 28 and I have a very strict timeline that I’ve told him about and he acted like he was okay with it. I want to be engaged by the time I’m 29 and married by 30 I’ve said it over and over but he hasn’t bought it to the forefront of discussion as a matter of fact he avoids it.
I don’t want to waste my time but he needs to step up to the plate. I have a job, I don’t have kids and not to blow my own horn but I’m physically attractive. He’s educated and got a good job so I don’t understand the hold up. He needs to put a ring on it asap. How do I get this message across to him because I can’t wait much longer. Your advice would be appreciated.
This letter is so simple and easy…The decision to marry has to be initiated by the man, in Proverbs 18:22, it states: “Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing”, your man has to recognize that you’re his good thing!
If he doesn’t, then you have to move on and not waste anymore time in a relationship with him that will not herald the results that you want. And this simply means, that you’re not pressuring him into a decision but you both don’t want the same things.
There are so many other issues I touched on with this reader, who failed to mention one very important thing: LOVE – marriage is serious and should not be ‘entered into’ lightly but should mean for the rest of your life…I wished her luck and advised her to be prayerful.
What do you want to tell her? She’ll be reading your comments below.